Flare up with who .?? . BB or MIL ..??
Either one , you can't win .
Some BBs are are just cry BBs , it doesn't matter what u do they'll cry and cry . .. Worst .. They'll Wail at the top of their lungs . Relax and Take it that they are singing to you . Hee2
Just keep talk to Bb ...QUIETLY .
When u keep ursrlf calm .. The BB will calm down , too .
As for MIL .. Do not go head on with her .. U are the egg .. She's the stone wall . Why hurt urself .?? And put ur poor hubby I between his two most important pp.
Just tell MIL that you are very tired and wan a few hrs 'sleep' also Tell her u ARE locking the door as not to be disturbed . ( a MUST if not she'll get offended .. If u just go in rm and lock the door ) Lock urself in the room with ur Bb and Chil- lax .. this is very easy if ur TBFing BB . Another good reason to try harder on BF .
Sorry .. Rattling on& on ;p
Take care ALL .
Keke my "baby" has already grown into a p3. I m referring to mil.
Though mil and i have been getting along well, I am a very straight forward person who "flare" because I can't tolerate such kind of nonsense.
Last time when I was trying to bf and she was standing there, I just told her that I felt uncomfortable and asked her to wait outside.
And during the time when I was trying to latch my gal, both my mum and mil banged hard on my door because bb was crying so loud but I just refused to open because I know is all for the good of baby.
So now they know they can't interfere if I am discipling my gal.
If you know is for the better of your own kid, stand firm on your own stand.
If anyone, be it her or my mum stick something on my bb's eyes, i will definitely take it off. I myself felt so uncomfortable when there's a sticker sticking on my eyes let alone a baby and pinching nose is definitely a no no cause baby's nose is still so soft and will u like it when someone pinch your nose?
Do not need to be rude, u can still reject and insist to say no with a friendly smiley face.
Conflicts are inevitable in life. It's not about how to avoid, 忍 or pretend that it never exist but more on the ways of how we tackle and solve the issues with EQ.
If u bottom up your feelings, resentment will build over the years. However if u can communicate well, relationships can get along well due to better understanding of each other.