Hope someone can advise me.
I married my husband 7 yrs ago. Dated 9 yrs. Total 16 yrs.
He started beating me 3 yrs back after 1st kid. We both were very stressed. I had depression. Believe he had too. I landed in hospital because ear drum damaged. Took months to recover, now hearing abit affected. I told the doc i fell down.
Now with 2nd kid, 3 months. Got beaten badly again. Frequency increased to once every few days. He ignored anything i said. Whenever I had to repeat and he got irritated, he would throw things, damage stuff and beat me. Today he tried to strangle me but let go eventually.
I want to divorce but because of kids and property problem, he refused. He asked me to move out or go to hell. I am not independent enough to leave the family to move out. I tried to jump down from top floor several times but no guts to do so. He knew it and looked down on me and beat me whenever he likes.
My whole body have bruises. New bruises suffice before old bruises are healed. He is careful not to hit my ear again, slapped me close to my nose today, very painful when i blow my nose after crying, maybe broken.
What should i do? I know dying will solve problem, i just have no guts to do it. I bear 2 kids for him, both ivf, cos he is infertile. I got nothing from his family during marrage, because they were too cat. No banquet, no wedding photo. 16 yrs with him hardly travel except Malaysia.
Very depressed.
Your hubby is bullying you! How can he be normal when he constantly hit you whenever something trigger his anger. He needs to be treated and you need to leave him. Please, please don't ever let him lay his hands on you again. Go to the nearest police station to report him and get a personal protection order.Why is he punishing me everyday then suddenly become nice, then angry again?
Notice another new bruise, got it when i was slammed hard on the ground just now. Some fallen hair too. Hope this is all for today.
So angry to hear about this!
Please stay strong! And NEVER tolerate ANY man beating you. U deserve better!! Jiayou!!
Dear, please go to see doctor and made police report to get personal protection order! There are some community services that provide crisis shelter for victims of domestics violence. Please check out http://sacs.org.sg/ Singapore Anglican Community services' family care centre, Good Shepherd centre, star shelter or Casa Raudha women home. They will offer accommodation, help and protection. Please go!!!!! Don't wait any longer. You deserve to be love. Let the law and karma fix that bastard!Tks to all the kind msgs. I can't leave him or rent flat outside cos our income is just enough for the family. Any additional cost means poverty to the children. So not to mention put him in jail and lose his income. Cos of this reason, he tied me down. Hospitalised 3 yrs back cos ear drum damaged. After that he didn't use too much strength. Minor injuries every now and then but we still had some happy moments in most days. So decided to have 2nd bb. Only successful after 3 times of ivf. When baby turned 2 mths old he started strangling me and i first posted here. Beatings become intense. Countless these few months.
Just last mth i suffered half face and neck swelling until turned total black color, bleding in lips, humps on head. I haven't fully recovered, hump still there, jaw still painful. I knew it will never be over despite he apologised and sweared he won't do it again.
Today he added a new big hump to my head, kicked me multiple times on my chest until i can't take deep breath now, my bones seem cracked. Whole body bruises. Buttock is so painful from all falls to the ground. Did i fight back? Yes, but he hit and kick me harder and much more times. He hit me with plastic chair multiple times until it broke into pieces, then took a sharp pointed piece wanting to cut my face and eyes. I covered up very tightly. Only cut my forehead but many cuts on my legs and shoulder. He accidentally stepped on some broken pieces and his foot bled. He turned even angrier and kicked me another 5-7 times non stop on my chest and stomach. Then lastly he said he will make me blind the next time, it won't be just cutting my face.
I can only type here to cry out. Sorry for my long story. I feel abit better after typing. Hope he just kill me or really blind me next time, no need to work. Its a torture to rub never healing bruises and cover them up for work, then pretend to be a happy mother of 2 cute children in front of others.
It's is with much sadness to see that you have been suffering since your post last August..don't give hope on him any longer, pls give hope to your 2 children and walk away from his clutches. By doing so you are helping him to face his acts. Don't let detrimental things to happen anymore. While I understand you will face uncertainties with your future and financial burden, at least you earn dignity and a safe environment for you and your kids. For the sake of all of them, report him to seek treatment and face the law. I pray that you make the right informed decision this moment. God bless.Tks to all the kind msgs. I can't leave him or rent flat outside cos our income is just enough for the family. Any additional cost means poverty to the children. So not to mention put him in jail and lose his income. Cos of this reason, he tied me down. Hospitalised 3 yrs back cos ear drum damaged. After that he didn't use too much strength. Minor injuries every now and then but we still had some happy moments in most days. So decided to have 2nd bb. Only successful after 3 times of ivf. When baby turned 2 mths old he started strangling me and i first posted here. Beatings become intense. Countless these few months.
Just last mth i suffered half face and neck swelling until turned total black color, bleding in lips, humps on head. I haven't fully recovered, hump still there, jaw still painful. I knew it will never be over despite he apologised and sweared he won't do it again.
Today he added a new big hump to my head, kicked me multiple times on my chest until i can't take deep breath now, my bones seem cracked. Whole body bruises. Buttock is so painful from all falls to the ground. Did i fight back? Yes, but he hit and kick me harder and much more times. He hit me with plastic chair multiple times until it broke into pieces, then took a sharp pointed piece wanting to cut my face and eyes. I covered up very tightly. Only cut my forehead but many cuts on my legs and shoulder. He accidentally stepped on some broken pieces and his foot bled. He turned even angrier and kicked me another 5-7 times non stop on my chest and stomach. Then lastly he said he will make me blind the next time, it won't be just cutting my face.
I can only type here to cry out. Sorry for my long story. I feel abit better after typing. Hope he just kill me or really blind me next time, no need to work. Its a torture to rub never healing bruises and cover them up for work, then pretend to be a happy mother of 2 cute children in front of others.
Hope someone can advise me.
I married my husband 7 yrs ago. Dated 9 yrs. Total 16 yrs.
He started beating me 3 yrs back after 1st kid. We both were very stressed. I had depression. Believe he had too. I landed in hospital because ear drum damaged. Took months to recover, now hearing abit affected. I told the doc i fell down.
Now with 2nd kid, 3 months. Got beaten badly again. Frequency increased to once every few days. He ignored anything i said. Whenever I had to repeat and he got irritated, he would throw things, damage stuff and beat me. Today he tried to strangle me but let go eventually.
I want to divorce but because of kids and property problem, he refused. He asked me to move out or go to hell. I am not independent enough to leave the family to move out. I tried to jump down from top floor several times but no guts to do so. He knew it and looked down on me and beat me whenever he likes.
My whole body have bruises. New bruises suffice before old bruises are healed. He is careful not to hit my ear again, slapped me close to my nose today, very painful when i blow my nose after crying, maybe broken.
What should i do? I know dying will solve problem, i just have no guts to do it. I bear 2 kids for him, both ivf, cos he is infertile. I got nothing from his family during marrage, because they were too cat. No banquet, no wedding photo. 16 yrs with him hardly travel except Malaysia.
Very depressed.
Tks to all the kind msgs. I can't leave him or rent flat outside cos our income is just enough for the family. Any additional cost means poverty to the children. So not to mention put him in jail and lose his income. Cos of this reason, he tied me down. Hospitalised 3 yrs back cos ear drum damaged. After that he didn't use too much strength. Minor injuries every now and then but we still had some happy moments in most days. So decided to have 2nd bb. Only successful after 3 times of ivf. When baby turned 2 mths old he started strangling me and i first posted here. Beatings become intense. Countless these few months.
Just last mth i suffered half face and neck swelling until turned total black color, bleding in lips, humps on head. I haven't fully recovered, hump still there, jaw still painful. I knew it will never be over despite he apologised and sweared he won't do it again.
Today he added a new big hump to my head, kicked me multiple times on my chest until i can't take deep breath now, my bones seem cracked. Whole body bruises. Buttock is so painful from all falls to the ground. Did i fight back? Yes, but he hit and kick me harder and much more times. He hit me with plastic chair multiple times until it broke into pieces, then took a sharp pointed piece wanting to cut my face and eyes. I covered up very tightly. Only cut my forehead but many cuts on my legs and shoulder. He accidentally stepped on some broken pieces and his foot bled. He turned even angrier and kicked me another 5-7 times non stop on my chest and stomach. Then lastly he said he will make me blind the next time, it won't be just cutting my face.
I can only type here to cry out. Sorry for my long story. I feel abit better after typing. Hope he just kill me or really blind me next time, no need to work. Its a torture to rub never healing bruises and cover them up for work, then pretend to be a happy mother of 2 cute children in front of others.