My experience with TC Chang has always been like a walk in minefield somehow. Saw him back in 2008 when I started TTCing. He came highly recommended by my cousin who had 2 boys delivered by him. My hubby went once with me to see him and immediately wrote him off-found him too proud and impatient. I subsequently switched to a very nice and encouraging fertility specialist at GEH.
I finally got preg this March naturally but my initial 2 scans showed baby not growing well & hb turned irregular. I decided to go back to TC Chang for 2nd opinion coz I respected his expertise in fetal assessment-he is afterall the head at TMC.
I had no spotting, all preggy signs were still evident, so I thot I was progressing well and really was not expecting a bad result.
He didn't look too pleased somehow after he learnt I was there for 2nd opinion-is it a taboo in the industry? He scanned me frm below and told me no hb and foetus seemed too small for 9 wks foetus. My mind went blank and I asked him if there was any doubt about this? He snapped at me "no hb what, no need to do anything more". He showed me the hb again and repeated "see no hb". He then went on to scan a while more without saying anything to me. Finally he said he was trying to see why the baby didn't grow but couldn't tell. I felt it was more for his own clinical interest than my sake.
He ended the session saying "I am afraid no good news, go back to your doc to get it sorted out"?!?! Not a trace of empathy or understanding, just plain clinical and impatient. He had my medical records in front of him, he knew I was fertility challenged when i saw him in 2008 and it was my 1st and long awaited pregnancy-but obviously all these din matter to him.
My galfren arranged for me to see her gynae later that day for confirmation. This gynae scanned and explained to me about measurements, hb detection and even blood flow to foetus. She also managed to see a 2nd small sac besides the foetus. She sat me down & drew pictures to explain what we saw on the scan earlier and confirmed to me that the foetus was really gone. She then laid out the options for me to wait for natural flushout or do D&C. She recommended D&C for proper cleanup. All this while, she spoke to me in a calming & assuring manner.
Equally heartbreaking result but the way of delivery made a world of difference to a grieving & distraught mom-not-meant-to-be. Both were equally popular & busy, both knew I was there for 2nd opinion but patient EQ really set them apart.
I don't wish for another expiring mom to have the same experience I had with TC Chang - I wouldn't even wish that for my worst enemy. The loss is devastating enuf.
So I really cannot identify with earlier postings about a caring & professional TC Chang. Or I was just unfortunate to have met the evil twin?