porky_jean
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anyone have domestic helper together with MIL at home ? I engage a helper when I had my 2nd child. as I need her to help take care of my baby. and I also have a toddler 5T and a MIL at home. problem is both of them (MIL & maid) always quarrel w each other ! causing us a lot of headaches...MIL will accuse maid of "stealing" her toothpaste, taking her spoon to eat etc...v minor issues but become big issues cos both of them like "fighting"...talking loudly and crying etc...v dramatic kind.
now my helper is alrdy w me for 18mths. I find tt she is a very "good life maid"...im her 1st employer in sg. everyday my hb will pack lunch for her and MIL will cook her own porridge/noodles for lunch. MIL dont allow her to cook anything in the kitchen. and she prefer to eat rice for lunch everyday. so hb will pick up my #1 from Kindy then pack lunch for maid and rush back to work again...and this maid she must eat bread with Kaya. she only prefer 1 brand of Kaya (orange colour, I forget the brand name). if we don't buy this brand of Kaya, she will refuse to eat the bread. she only took the soft bread, the top and bottom (bread skin) she don't take and will throw it away. dinner time MIL will cook for us. 3 dishes and 1 soup. so every dinner she will hv rice with soup for dinner. one day, Mil decided not to give soup to her bcos she cooked Ginseng chix soup, she said its "too expensive" to give the soup to the maid...end up my maid refused to have her dinner bcos no soup ! I dunno to be angry with her or not...she had been a great help to take care of my baby since birth till now she is 18mths old. but she is quite forgetful at times, for example, she will throw my baby's stocking into the w/m and spoilt the stocking which is worn once only....she will mix dark coloured jeans/clothes together to wash end up all the white clothes got stained w colours...I said her a few times but still forgetful..
Im really feeling v tired w my maid and MIl issues...but if I sack the maid, my MIl cant handle 2 toddlers at home (5T and 18mths). and I hv to do all the housework aft work which is killing for me too...hope someone can share ur stories or advise what I can do to resolve all these issues
now my helper is alrdy w me for 18mths. I find tt she is a very "good life maid"...im her 1st employer in sg. everyday my hb will pack lunch for her and MIL will cook her own porridge/noodles for lunch. MIL dont allow her to cook anything in the kitchen. and she prefer to eat rice for lunch everyday. so hb will pick up my #1 from Kindy then pack lunch for maid and rush back to work again...and this maid she must eat bread with Kaya. she only prefer 1 brand of Kaya (orange colour, I forget the brand name). if we don't buy this brand of Kaya, she will refuse to eat the bread. she only took the soft bread, the top and bottom (bread skin) she don't take and will throw it away. dinner time MIL will cook for us. 3 dishes and 1 soup. so every dinner she will hv rice with soup for dinner. one day, Mil decided not to give soup to her bcos she cooked Ginseng chix soup, she said its "too expensive" to give the soup to the maid...end up my maid refused to have her dinner bcos no soup ! I dunno to be angry with her or not...she had been a great help to take care of my baby since birth till now she is 18mths old. but she is quite forgetful at times, for example, she will throw my baby's stocking into the w/m and spoilt the stocking which is worn once only....she will mix dark coloured jeans/clothes together to wash end up all the white clothes got stained w colours...I said her a few times but still forgetful..
Im really feeling v tired w my maid and MIl issues...but if I sack the maid, my MIl cant handle 2 toddlers at home (5T and 18mths). and I hv to do all the housework aft work which is killing for me too...hope someone can share ur stories or advise what I can do to resolve all these issues