Cherry:
Filipino -> More intelligent but will want more day off, higher pay, and more materialistic.
Indonesian -> Usually less intelligent, language barrier but can have less day off and less materialistic.
Stella:
Any neighbours that you can "twist" around your finger to help you give some "advice" to your MIL? i.e. stage something. Else bring your MIL to a PD with you and let the PD know that you need him to help explain to your MIL.
Serene:
When I mean maid, I mean you employ one that you manage. The maid's sole responsibility is to look after your daughter. And you also have to step in with regards to the boy. If you see the boy hitting your daughter, etc, you scold the boy, discipline the boy. No such thing as no one can scold him. If the parents or your MIL step in, you have to be stern to let them know that you are not scolding the boy for nothing, he did something wrong and condoning it is bad for him too. He will end up a bully in school -> gang -> fight -> die or go into jail. Tell them straight that if they don't want to discipline from young, they are sending the boy to jail or to his death themselves. That will probably "worry" them abit.
In your case, then no choice maybe quit and find another office hour job? That way you can send your child to infantcare. Of if your husand really can afford, then look after your child yourself lor.
Xin2:
Yes sometimes babies do this thing called "reverse cycling". This is when they will drink less in the day (when mum is at work) and drink more at night (when mum is back). For your case, the drink less period is when you gave him FM.
Stella/Teoong:
Yes this is true. Excessive rocking or shaking and severely harm the baby. Hence, even if need to soothe a child, what I do is slow dance with my baby, i.e. slight swaying abit only but coz of the body contact, baby is soothed.
