Just wanted to rant :-(
My helper has been with me for nearly 4 years now; nearing the ending of her second contract. So far, I was a working mom, so I closed an eye to cleanliness etc. as long as cooking laundry was done and basic cleanliness was there, I was ok..kids I used to always send to a nanny or take care myself, and we got along kind of ok.. but now I stopped working, and I take care of everything related to my kids by myself.. she doesn't like if I tell her to clean ad hoc, cos now that I'm home there is more supervision.. and she has 4 off days so there is a lot of comparison with friends etc. and once when I asked her to do something she did a shabby job and came back to use her phone to do something. I told her that she needs to do the work properly and after that she can spend time chatting etc. and she gets to nap every afternoon from 12-4 everyday in addition to going to bed at 8 pm everyday. I feel she's too pampered and in addition I have to now see her black face everyday and see her attitude.. I'm worried that if I send her back home now, she may show some drama..her contract ends in June, so most likely won't extend.. Such headache :-(
Mummies with 3 young kids and no helper, please tell me, is it doable to preserve our sanity without a helper?
My helper has been with me for nearly 4 years now; nearing the ending of her second contract. So far, I was a working mom, so I closed an eye to cleanliness etc. as long as cooking laundry was done and basic cleanliness was there, I was ok..kids I used to always send to a nanny or take care myself, and we got along kind of ok.. but now I stopped working, and I take care of everything related to my kids by myself.. she doesn't like if I tell her to clean ad hoc, cos now that I'm home there is more supervision.. and she has 4 off days so there is a lot of comparison with friends etc. and once when I asked her to do something she did a shabby job and came back to use her phone to do something. I told her that she needs to do the work properly and after that she can spend time chatting etc. and she gets to nap every afternoon from 12-4 everyday in addition to going to bed at 8 pm everyday. I feel she's too pampered and in addition I have to now see her black face everyday and see her attitude.. I'm worried that if I send her back home now, she may show some drama..her contract ends in June, so most likely won't extend.. Such headache :-(
Mummies with 3 young kids and no helper, please tell me, is it doable to preserve our sanity without a helper?
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