Hi all...
Jus want to voice my concerns and see if anyone has the same problem.
Recently my bil got to know a ger, n haf applied for a bto flat wif her. She is 33 this yr while he is 30. She is also a pr fr kl.
Due to her age, she wish to stay a family ASAP. Although eh haf applied for a flat, it will take 3yrs to build.
So we haf been advising my bil to try n have a bb now. He is reluctant coz he felt that they do not have the financial means ( personally I find it crap coz they r earning close to 10k n he is not giving a lot to the parents.)
My hub n mil suggested that they haf a bb out of wedlock now. N then use the bb as excuse not to hold any wedding, or at least not an luxurious one. But from what I heard, she is a down to earth woman, n I doubt she will ask for too much fr the groom family. Moreover they r holding the wedding in kl. bb likely to b given birth in kl too. Based on this, I will say that they will haf saved a lot as compared to holding a wedding in Singapore. My bil always listening to my mil n my hub, n in this case, he seems to have agreed wif them
Also, her family will b the first time marrying off a daughter.
I told my hub, if his brother is serious abt her, he shld marry her properly n then try for a bb. Not getting her as a single mother then try to use that as a bargaining chip.i find it selfish. Esp to have my mil agreeing. If she marries my bil, she is half a daughter. N if my mil is sincere, she shld treat her like a daughter. She is already a poor thing, having to live in sg alone to make a living. Why make her marriage started in an unhappy state.
Shld I tell her?
Jus want to voice my concerns and see if anyone has the same problem.
Recently my bil got to know a ger, n haf applied for a bto flat wif her. She is 33 this yr while he is 30. She is also a pr fr kl.
Due to her age, she wish to stay a family ASAP. Although eh haf applied for a flat, it will take 3yrs to build.
So we haf been advising my bil to try n have a bb now. He is reluctant coz he felt that they do not have the financial means ( personally I find it crap coz they r earning close to 10k n he is not giving a lot to the parents.)
My hub n mil suggested that they haf a bb out of wedlock now. N then use the bb as excuse not to hold any wedding, or at least not an luxurious one. But from what I heard, she is a down to earth woman, n I doubt she will ask for too much fr the groom family. Moreover they r holding the wedding in kl. bb likely to b given birth in kl too. Based on this, I will say that they will haf saved a lot as compared to holding a wedding in Singapore. My bil always listening to my mil n my hub, n in this case, he seems to have agreed wif them
Also, her family will b the first time marrying off a daughter.
I told my hub, if his brother is serious abt her, he shld marry her properly n then try for a bb. Not getting her as a single mother then try to use that as a bargaining chip.i find it selfish. Esp to have my mil agreeing. If she marries my bil, she is half a daughter. N if my mil is sincere, she shld treat her like a daughter. She is already a poor thing, having to live in sg alone to make a living. Why make her marriage started in an unhappy state.
Shld I tell her?