Princessleopard: thks for the info & sharing. We are oso shocked at the 1st scan after d&c, I reckon tat is not common at all. My Gynae considered at least top 20 in sg I believe, as much as we are not comfortable bt we refused to take it as she's incompetent or something. Cos we tot nobody can be perfect even a saint might not be 100% pure.
We only take it as it comes life is not a bed of roses we bound to have ups & dwns; perhaps tis is realli our most dwn bound period, after tis we shall be able to bounce all the way up n all good things shall come to us fr time to time? We can only pray.
Jus feel unfair why all shitty tings only goes to ladies? Can't god pass on some responsibilities n pains to guys like us instead? This is a family affair n yet wifey is the only one who's taking it physically plus mentally too! Not fair at all!
As for the chao du tingy we really know nuts abt it, also dunno how to handle. 1 bad ting now oso is after 3rounds, 6pills inserted still no sign of bleeding, jus pure cramps & cramps. Really hope to see red soon.
Worried Thor
Nope my gynae can only give mc but i used up my mc.
Yup going to take leave. Do u know which gynae can give HL?So, you are suppose to report to work tomorrow? I am worried if it will be difficult to manage if you are at work. For me, back then the cramps was really bad, esp just before the sac is about to flow out. Maybe take urgent leave or mc?
Yup going to take leave. Do u know which gynae can give HL?
Nope for my gynae she dun give unless u stay in hospital. unless I opt for procedure then I can get HL.Usually gynae do give hl, u mean yours did not want to give or what? My gynae even ask if I want hl or mc back then.
My first mc was also spotting a few days with some cramps until the blob of cells passed out. But this case din even see the sac during scan. The current one is about 6 weeks plus so I guess will be different. I will stay at home just in case the cramps are bad.J Yap, my previous mc was a natural one too. I was spotting and light bleeding for days before the real action took place. So I reckon you may or may not expel tomorrow.
The cramping to me was mild. Nothing too bothering. But it was the moment the sac passed out where you would likely feel emotional affected. For me, fortunately I was reaching home when it happened so I could wash myself up and cried myself to sleep.
So this mc is going to be a process for you...I suggest take some days off from work. You do not need to bed rest but at least if the expelling is happening, you won't be at work to handle the emotional part. Take care.
Hi girl, how long it takes u for your af to report after ur natural mc?my 2nd natural MC also never clear properly. it dragged for 3/4 weeks, then I went to see my gynae, she did a very long vscan which shows that I did not expel all. Then she gave me some gastric pills to create cramps then I started bleeding the next day, clear up like AF, 7 day only.
For my case, it is only 5+ weeks, can't see any sac during my v scan and I was bleeding at tt time already.
If you are going thru a few pads in a couple of hours, that is quite bad bleeding, must go see A&E. This was advise by the nurse.
Nope for my gynae she dun give unless u stay in hospital. unless I opt for procedure then I can get HL.
This is my last week of break before heading back to work.
I have been staying very positive for the last two weeks. I thought i'm ok until last night when my hubby suddenly asked me to tag along when he meet up with his friend and family nearby.
His wife asked me what happened and i can reply everything as if it doesn't affected me much and i have let it go. However when she said the next one will be soon for me, i felt abit insulted. People who have no problem conceiving will not know what we went thru. I know my ivf pregnancy can't be compared with her 3 natural pregnancies but i don't know i just don't feel good.
Until we went back home, get ready to sleep, that's when i break down and cried.
The feeling is like actually i had tried hard to bury this incident deep in my heart. But when people asked me about it and the process of mc, the feeling is much more hurtful and pain after recalling and saying it out. My hubby just don't understand. He thinks im just feeling bad.
Well, i guess last night shall be the last time i will talk about it.
This is my last week of break before heading back to work.
I have been staying very positive for the last two weeks. I thought i'm ok until last night when my hubby suddenly asked me to tag along when he meet up with his friend and family nearby.
His wife asked me what happened and i can reply everything as if it doesn't affected me much and i have let it go. However when she said the next one will be soon for me, i felt abit insulted. People who have no problem conceiving will not know what we went thru. I know my ivf pregnancy can't be compared with her 3 natural pregnancies but i don't know i just don't feel good.
Until we went back home, get ready to sleep, that's when i break down and cried.
The feeling is like actually i had tried hard to bury this incident deep in my heart. But when people asked me about it and the process of mc, the feeling is much more hurtful and pain after recalling and saying it out. My hubby just don't understand. He thinks im just feeling bad.
Well, i guess last night shall be the last time i will talk about it.
Hi babe, I can totally relate to you. I also thought I was ok abt 2 weeks after my mc. But one day when I was in cell group my leader told us to pray together in pairs abt our current situation. When I turned to my hubby, I simply broke down uncontrollably. I couldn't stop crying. the pain and hurt from the miscarriage just overwhelmed me all over again. I just cried and cried and told my hubby I cannot do this.... and he also broke down.This is my last week of break before heading back to work.
I have been staying very positive for the last two weeks. I thought i'm ok until last night when my hubby suddenly asked me to tag along when he meet up with his friend and family nearby.
His wife asked me what happened and i can reply everything as if it doesn't affected me much and i have let it go. However when she said the next one will be soon for me, i felt abit insulted. People who have no problem conceiving will not know what we went thru. I know my ivf pregnancy can't be compared with her 3 natural pregnancies but i don't know i just don't feel good.
Until we went back home, get ready to sleep, that's when i break down and cried.
The feeling is like actually i had tried hard to bury this incident deep in my heart. But when people asked me about it and the process of mc, the feeling is much more hurtful and pain after recalling and saying it out. My hubby just don't understand. He thinks im just feeling bad.
Well, i guess last night shall be the last time i will talk about it.
Sometimes a simple I'm sorry you are going through this is more than enough. We don't need advice or what we shld do etc. Honestly, nobody can understand better than those who had truly gone through it themselves. That's why we are able to seek comfort in this forum knowing that we are not alone and that there are others who really understand how painful and emotionally traumatic it is.Actually, what do you expect the pregnant ones to say? I think its hard to console a friend who is undergoing M/C when you yourself are pregnant, you're treading so carefully and when you say " don't give up and try again, I'm here to listen ...." and they still get offended, it'll prob means they'll get offended at everything. No?
Sometimes, these mummies don't mean it in a bad way at all.
I agree. Best is to say take care. Then keep quiet. Dont ask or even mentioned about it. Actually ladies who undergo mc just need quiet time. I have insensitive colleague that made me sob on my first day of work. Kept forcing me to explain what ops i am gg thru. I rather being left alone during this period of time.Nope. "Take care" is all's needed. Not everything is insensitive.
these people are Kpo and irritating not the concern ones. I actually told some of kpos off. to not say anything coz I don't want to talk. my boss was also very nice to set the stage ready for me when I get back. she says I refused to say so don't ask. and no one come and bother me.I agree. Best is to say take care. Then keep quiet. Dont ask or even mentioned about it. Actually ladies who undergo mc just need quiet time. I have insensitive colleague that made me sob on my first day of work. Kept forcing me to explain what ops i am gg thru. I rather being left alone during this period of time.
Your boss so nice. My boss is the one who asked me to tell my manager n immed sup so that all the job can resumed as usual. Then my immed sup so kpo kept saying common normal la n we ladies can talk this topic. Pls lor in the 1st place she still young don even married says till like expert. Making my blood boil only.these people are Kpo and irritating not the concern ones. I actually told some of kpos off. to not say anything coz I don't want to talk. my boss was also very nice to set the stage ready for me when I get back. she says I refused to say so don't ask. and no one come and bother me.
To me from there we can know who is kpo kpo can't be bothered n we are just col. So just don wish to talk to them it is our own private matter.Yup, I agree some are just plain irritating. Tell them you don't wanna talk about it.
I think most can tell who are sincere and who are the auntie type that just ask and then prob gossip after.
these people are Kpo and irritating not the concern ones. I actually told some of kpos off. to not say anything coz I don't want to talk. my boss was also very nice to set the stage ready for me when I get back. she says I refused to say so don't ask. and no one come and bother me.
ya my boss was very nice. she really just shut them up. and she even shut my bigger boss mouth up. she told her if u want to know u ask her urself.Your boss is really nice. Mine was opposite, for both times, she was the one who spread that I am preggy when I told her not to till I pass 1st trimester, and also tells around that I got mc. I dunno what she said to my colleagues but she left them all coming to me for answers when I returned to work. Very terrible times back then.
ya my boss was very nice. she really just shut them up. and she even shut my bigger boss mouth up. she told her if u want to know u ask her urself.
so she came to ask me. but big boss I say lah. say liao she diam diam nvr say much, she is a mother of 3 and I guess mature enough to know when to shut up.
rest of my colleagues just diam diam and business as usual. like as if I nvr go on mc.
Your boss is really nice. Mine was opposite, for both times, she was the one who spread that I am preggy when I told her not to till I pass 1st trimester, and also tells around that I got mc. I dunno what she said to my colleagues but she left them all coming to me for answers when I returned to work. Very terrible times back then.
Wah, it must be really hard for you to face the same questions over and over again. Not good.
Hi ladies.... I find my cycle abit haywire after my mc... my first AF came on the 24th day after mc den 14 days later my AF came again jz when I experienced some cramp and was expecting my ovulation to come on the 15th day... not sure if tat's normal? Kinda worried wad could hv cause the AF to come so soon...
Sorry just saw ur msg. I test very early. I tested at dpo10. That's becox I was actively trying.Hopeful mum......can I check with you how early do you test for your recent pregnancy? I too had 3 miscarriages. I am 7 days away from my menses period.
Yes. I was very fortunate.Its really fate to meet good boss or bad ones. You are so fortunate!
Yes. I was very fortunate.
My first mc at another work place. My boss is a man. But he is the most kpo gossip monger u can ever find! I believe the entire place knows what happened. He simply can't keep his mouth shut behind my backs. But I'm glad the rest of the ppl knows how to keep quiet and shut up. So maybe know also good won't come and ask me.