2WW - for those TTC-ing
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jayjayqueenie
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i am weaning my boy off night feed.
he is on bottle but it will still be tough.
he has been crying.
so waiting for the day he will be finally sleep through without crying.
Been trying for close to a year now but still no baby luck. Sometimes I wonder if it's stress and how to stop thinking about this. People also have been asking and some suggesting ways (eg: using thermometer or go holiday or see gynae). Wonder how to reply at times and also feel abit affected but got to hide it. AF is coming in 5 days time and already am feeling some cramps.
Still want to wish you all ladies good luck in the ttc!!
hihi, i totally can relate. its really stressful when u see friends or even husband friend's wife started to get pregnant like so easily. I never gotten pregnant before and conceiving is really tough for my lst time.
the whole world is telling me to just RELAX and i just feel like telling them they are not in my shoes, aint fit to comment anything. if they haven even gone thru daily 20 needles poking in the abdominal (acupuncture) or running to hospital for strings of scans/bloodtest and waiting 2 hrs each time for every treatment, i feel like wasting my time sharing with them 'trying-for-baby' topic. I came across this blogger who share about her IVF process and I burst out laughing! its so REAL! like happening to me right now. haha!
if you’re one of my friends who said these things to me, please don’t be offended by this post. I’m writing it because there are many people out there who are trying to conceive, and feel the same way. If you have a friend suffering from infertility, please, please, PLEASE, do NOT say these things to her. Trust me, no matter how good your intentions are, you’re not making her feel any better.
1. “My friend told me that her friend also tried for very long, went through IVF many times, but all failed. Then when she stopped trying, she got pregnant naturally!”
2. “Maybe you’re trying too hard. You have to relax, then you can get pregnant.”
3. “Why don’t you try TCM instead? My friend’s friend got pregnant after seeing a TCM doctor.”
4. “Have you been praying? You have to keep praying.”
5. “Maybe God doesn’t want you to have a baby yet. If it’s not happening, there must be a reason for it.”
6. “I have something to tell you. (Trust me, whenever we hear this, we KNOW what’s coming next. Pregnancy radar, remember?) I’m pregnant. I don’t know how it happened. / It was an accident. / We weren’t even trying! / We used protection! / This is such bad timing. / We tried only once and I got pregnant! / I didn’t know it would happen so fast.”
*I’m not saying that you don’t have the right to talk about your pregnancy in front of us, and that we cannot be happy for you. We are, just that a little more tact will be appreciated, especially if you know that we are struggling with infertility.
7. (From pregnant friends) “Here, rub my belly. Let me give you some baby dust / baby luck / baby power.”
8. “Why don’t you just adopt?”
9. “You’re still young, why don’t you try for a while more before going for IVF?”
10. “Are you sure you want to go for IVF? Do you really need it?”
i tried soooo many times to wean but she totally wouldn't sleep without nursing. On-off struggle until 3am so in the end i gave up.
she is able to take the bottle, even if her last bottle feed is 10pm but she has to nurse to sleep. Not because she's hungry but because i'm like a pacifier lor. i don't have much milk; not expressing milk anymore.
diamondfericia
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Gosh! I think the witch will be here soon. All the lousy and fake symptoms... Argh!
At least am back to my regular cycle...
Jia you all. Hope we get BFP soon.
At least am back to my regular cycle...
Jia you all. Hope we get BFP soon.
jayjayqueenie
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poor u.
last night just stuff milk bottle with just water into my boy's mouth.
he slept through after that.
i hope it continues.
my hubby told me to use pacifier.
but i dont want to wean my boy off another habit.
jayjayqueenie
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enjoy your period away if it is really coming ^^
diamondfericia
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Not the full blown kind and I am 7 days early. Waiting for the appt with TSB.
jayjayqueenie
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I plan to take ginkgo biloba supplement because my memory has been real poor.
anyone know if it has conflicts with ttc?
I ask here because so far I am not with any specialist or gynae yet.
anyone know if it has conflicts with ttc?
I ask here because so far I am not with any specialist or gynae yet.
graceakaclouds
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@kayliz actually when you are breastfeeding, you produce this hormone called prolactin. High prolactin hinders pregnancy. So hence, you would read articles saying that if you want ttc, try to wean your baby/kid.
2 weeks missed period seems long. Ur symptoms could be early pregnancy symptoms. Get a pregnancy kit from pharmacy to test first. Good luck.[/QUOTE]
I just came back from my hospital check-up this afternoon. Urine test came back negative. Thought they would send me for a blood test. But they didn't. She said it's absolutely normal to have your AF delayed. She told me to wait till end of this month. If still no AF by end of nov 15, she told me to take some hormonal tablets that she has prescribed to induce AF. But i still wonder why is my AF delayed by more than 2 weeks. Don't know whether if i should seek another opinion probably a privte doctor this time round if AF hasnt arrive by next week or two. What do ya think?
I just came back from my hospital check-up this afternoon. Urine test came back negative. Thought they would send me for a blood test. But they didn't. She said it's absolutely normal to have your AF delayed. She told me to wait till end of this month. If still no AF by end of nov 15, she told me to take some hormonal tablets that she has prescribed to induce AF. But i still wonder why is my AF delayed by more than 2 weeks. Don't know whether if i should seek another opinion probably a privte doctor this time round if AF hasnt arrive by next week or two. What do ya think?
I am not expert. But the first two links that I am reading off google don't seem to be in favour. You can google it and read more before starting on it.
diamondfericia
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Which hospital you visited?
I feel you should do blood test to double confirm you are not pregnant before taking pills.
Please seek 2nd opinion.
I went to KKH. i just feel like the doctor wasn't really keen to listen to me when I told her bout my delayed AF. I think 2 weeks of delayed AF means there could be underlying factors that we dont know. But she brushed it off and said it's just your hormones probably. Even though my urine test is found negative. I still think i should seek probably a normal GP or a private doctor for a second opinion.
diamondfericia
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Am not too sure whether GP do any blood test.
It will be better if you can visit a private gynae.
Yup. Will probably visit a private gynae or a women's clinic doctor. My heart sank when my urine test is normal. -_-. Oh wells.
jog
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Kayliz, how old is your girl?
I only recently managed to wean off my boy at 30 months because I was pregnant with #2 and nipples were too sore to night nurse. I tried two times before when he was around 20 and 24 months but failed. A colleague who went through this told me to try again at 2.5yo as they can then understand and empathise better our words. I was surprised that after the 3rd night, he didn't try asking to night nurse anymore. First two nights were the toughest for both him and me. Hubby told him that mommy went to work so I returned home only after hubby coaxed him to sleep. Third night I told him mommy is not working tonight but no nursing cos mommy no more milk. Took quite a while for me to pat him to sleep. After a week, he got used to the new routine.
Please hang in there and you will succeed soon. Actually I do secretly miss being my boy's pacifier sometimes. Haha but is a stage we have to go through. Jiayou!
tryingtoconceive2014
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Hi piky,
You are with Professor Choolani also? Why he referred you to Dr Chew from NUH? Any particular reasons?
joyousbb
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Hi jayjayqueenie, today cd5 for me but v light menses le.. think clearing up got my cycle le..me cd6. anyone in cd6?
Shall we be buddies?
Oops! Sorry, sorry, different days le...
But we can still motivate and encourage each other
joyousbb
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Hi hi both simbb and ReayxMe! CD1.
Both of you should be in your cd 5 and 6.. its my cd4. Can I be your buddy too?
piky
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I have been trying clomid from 50mg to 100mg but no success after doing my hb sperm analysis his result is on the borderline chances to conceive naturally chances are low so he refer us to Dr Chew to do IUI altot chances are only 10%. Once pregnant i will still go back to him as i have history of M/C.
jayjayqueenie
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my menses also very funny this time.
it started with spotting for a few days then the actual menses come.
i guess my body knows i am ttc.
Sure!
Down with a bad flu ... Hope it doesn't affect ttc ..
Anyway this cycle is alittle weird for me. Usually my menses will last 5-6days and then clearing up on day 6/7 with old blood (dark coloured). But for this cycle, my menses stopped at cd3. Cd4 is nothing. Then cd5 comes alittle bit again (bright red), and nth on cd6. Dono isit the effect of flu medicine
Thanks for your encouragement! My child is 24 months now. Actually i tried a lot of methods including putting lemon juice on my nipples lol. But she was very smart, she quickly licked off the lemon juice and continued to nurse like normal. I tried letting her sleep at my mum's place for a few nights but she cried every night and wouldnt sleep until 7am!! Since then i decided not to force and she will stop when she is ready. I guess it is true that this is mother's nature way of stopping me from getting preg until the elder child is less dependent on me.
I heard from my friend too that their elder kid managed to stop nursing once mummy is preg again as the milk taste start to change. I can understand the sore nips feeling! Cos when i am getting my period, i also feel the same & milk supply decreased. During this period she will latch non-stop throughout the night and refuse to let go. So whenever she starts nursing non-stop, i know my AF is on the way. hahaha
How long did it take for u to get preg while bfg? Were u bfg regularly ? Right now i only nurse 2 to 3 times from 11pm to 7am... she still cant sleep thru the night, will look for the boob every few hrs.
Well u have another one on the way, so very soon u can start your bfg journey again!
jog
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Haha, it really sounds like I was previously in the same boat as you with my boy. I tried lemon juice too. I also had the latch whole night just before menses issue. From 18 months onwards, I only night nurse cos that was the only feed I couldn't drop cos he needed it to fall asleep and fall back asleep if awoken. Ya also about 3x each night. I can totally relate to your anxiety about not being sure when this will stop.
But I guess for me when push comes to shove, I had to do what I had to do, then I did it. Hehe. If I didn't get pregnant again, probably I will still be night nursing.
I think it took about 10 months of TTCing before I get my bfp again. And yes I also doubted if the night nursing hindered our TTCing efforts. I even started a thread to ask if there are mommies who successfully conceived while breastfeeding and there were a few. Soon after I got my bfp. So I hope you feel encoungered now and will get your bfp soon! At the moment, treasure the nursing sessions with your girl. You might miss that indescribable closeness after weaning like me. Haha.
tryingtoconceive2014
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Hi piky,
I see. So Prof Mahesh managed to find out the reasons of your m/c? I have also just finished all my tests with him, and been referred to his rheumatologist Dr Sheila as well. She has given me 2 weeks of pregnancy medications just in case I strike this cycle since this is my first cycle allowed to ttc again after m/c in mid June this year. Then once pregnant, will be under both him and the rheumatologist to monitor too. So good luck to us. Hope I do not have to wait too long before the BFP, or else will have to maybe consider IVF again.
tryingtoconceive2014
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Hi piky,
So your issue is Natural Killer (NK) cells too? Mine is too, but just slightly high, the number is not extremely high as to need IVIG for my next pregnancy. I just need to take steroids 5mg(4 tabs) per day for my next pregnancy, for the first trimester.
But I also got genes mutation in MTHFR, meaning my blood is more sticky than normal. This might be hereditary, as my stepbrother who passed away in end of April in 1995, aged 40, according to my mom, his blood was sticky too. And we were born the same day, though different year.
For my next pregnancy, due to the genes issue too, I need to be on daily low dose heparin (clexane) jab and also progesterone jab twice a week, and this all have to continue until I give birth. Going to be tough, but still will be worth it if by doing all these, I can carry the baby to term.
My 1st and last m/c in mid-June this year, heartbeat stopped at 6 weeks probably due to my immune system issues. Last year August it was a blighted ovum (empty sac). Then in between all these, I have 3 chemical pregnancies. And this is all within a duration of 3.5 years.
prayhard0401
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Any one of us went to see Dr Chen qiu mei and gotten pregnant? Can share with me more on the price and how long u been seeing her to see the result?
diamondfericia
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Who is Chen Qiu Mei? Are you referring to TCM-Tan Siew Buoy?
prayhard0401
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Ah I think so she was previously with thong chai then came out and open her own clinic in ntu. Are you seeing her? How ur experience with her? Is she have a lot of success rate in helping women get pregnant? Average how long?
diamondfericia
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Am not sure where is her own clinic. My sister is seeing her and this is her #2. If am not wrong, she's with her before she got her #1. Am waiting for my 1st appt with her on Nov 16 at chinatown. Saw her a few times when I acc my sis there for 挂号。Her appt are very full till next year. If you intend to see her, you should book an appt with her soon. I only know that Mark Lee and Fann Wong see her. Sis told me that have to brew the medication which I find is abit troublesome.
prayhard0401
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Oh your sister see her for long then conceive the #1 and #2? Is her price expensive? After u see her on the Nov 16 , can share more with me? I had an appointment with her on 4 Dec but I really find it very long wait. I am thinking should I just forgo and walk into another tcm that other mummies also recommend the one in marine parade
diamondfericia
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I think depend on individual. Sis told me she conceived her #1 after 3 mths. The appt is once a mth and medication a mth supply cost abt $80-$100.
She also shared that her 38 yrs old friend see TSB for 3 years and still waiting for the turn.
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prayhard0401
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Oh wow so still need to see individual body. The price seem reasonable. Thanks and looking forward to your sharing soon
Hi ladies, just wondering if anyone has experience with EYS Bai Fong Wan? Have had feedback from people around that it helps regulate AF and that one of my colleagues even conceived first month of taking it.
I took the pills weekly after my AF last month for three weeks. Though my period can be irregular, it comes on an average of 30-34 days? But I am already on CD40 today. So, why is Bai Foong Wan making my period drag longer instead of regulating it? Wondering if there has been anyone that is not suitable to take it thus causing my body to be chaotic?
I took the pills weekly after my AF last month for three weeks. Though my period can be irregular, it comes on an average of 30-34 days? But I am already on CD40 today. So, why is Bai Foong Wan making my period drag longer instead of regulating it? Wondering if there has been anyone that is not suitable to take it thus causing my body to be chaotic?
I start taking it when i found my cd is 42 days. I taken once every morning. This month my cycle reduce to 32 days.
Northern Lights
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I took EYS Bai Fong Wan according to instructions until nose bleed... LOL
So this means my body is weird? Haha. My usual cycle of 30ish days is now 40 days alr.
U take once a week a?
joyousbb
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Hi simbb,Hi sistas,
For those who have shared their cd#, some of you are near your O-day soon. Jiayou and good luck and I hope this is the month for all of us!
Which cd r u at now? I m cd10.
My RE recommend me.to bd every alt day starting cd 10 until cd 20.
How frequent is ur bd if u don't mind....
Keke... I hope everything will progress for everyone soon!
Jia you!
jayjayqueenie
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wow until cd20?
so far what i have learnt is bd on your fertile days and then rest in your 2ww.
EYS Bai Fong Wan is sth i have been eating all the while ... but i only ate one bottle per month after my menses finish
.. usually 2-3 days after menses finish ...
Northern Lights
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I took half bottle every alternate day...
Northern Lights
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My fertility doctor advised me to BD on CD12 , CD14, CD16, CD18 & CD20 while taking Letrozole...
Northern Lights
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Hi joyousbb,
I am in cd11 today. I will try to bd alternate days from cd10 up to dpo1. I say try because circumstances sometimes just do not permit.
Yup, good luck to all sisters here. Jiayou!
Ya sometimes it is difficult to BD every alternate day due to external factors.
However, dun be stress upon it since Sperms are able to survive a few days.
Good Luck and try our best