Hi all I’m new to this forum and would like to seek some advice on my current situation.
I have been married for 5 years and been complementing of filing for divorce for the past 3 years but did not have the courage to do so as I feel guilty towards my 3 year old daughter as I do not want her to grow up feeling inadequate. My husband has a lot of problems. One of the most unbearable ones is his very short tempered (worsen after kid) as he would flare or throw tantrums over the slightest thing. For eg, spilling water, q too Long, no parking etc. All these trival matters will trigger him to flare and there is not a single day he won’t flare. He is also a v selfish and unreasonable father. To give u an example, few weeks ago, we went to the zoo but fortunately it was raining by the time we reached there. Hence, naturally I took out an umbrella from the car wanting to shelter my daughter from the carpark to the zoo but was told off by him as he finds it’s troublesome to carry umbrella. Despite me telling him that I will be the one holding the umbrella he continued to yell at me saying I’m too protective of my daughter and he himself has not fallen sick before due to rain since young. My daughter is the sickly type since she was 18 months, she went to the hospital twice last year due to pneumonia as my hub passed the coughing virus to her for both ocassion. My husband is those stubborn type that refused to wear mask/see doc/ take medicine or refrain from kissing my daughter despite sick and he is a heavy smoker. My PD tried to talk to him to quit or cut down smoking as my daughter has sensitive airway but to no avail. I have spoken to him many times that we should seek help by going for marriage counselling but was rejected by him. Despite the above, there is basically no communication between us, he is still behaving as though he is single with no family. He packed his schedule with various outing and activities with friends like cycling, mahjong, billard etc. and little or no time for us. Basically he only come home after 9pm weekdays and he will be glued to the phone all the way till night time with no interaction with me. He only spend Saturday afternoon with us and when comes to evening time, off he went for his own activities. TBH he has not even touch me ever since I was pregnant but we were having v active physical intimacy before preggy.
Should I continue to endure to maintain this marriage or give up and raise my daughter on my own?
Any form of advice will be greatly appreciated!
I have been married for 5 years and been complementing of filing for divorce for the past 3 years but did not have the courage to do so as I feel guilty towards my 3 year old daughter as I do not want her to grow up feeling inadequate. My husband has a lot of problems. One of the most unbearable ones is his very short tempered (worsen after kid) as he would flare or throw tantrums over the slightest thing. For eg, spilling water, q too Long, no parking etc. All these trival matters will trigger him to flare and there is not a single day he won’t flare. He is also a v selfish and unreasonable father. To give u an example, few weeks ago, we went to the zoo but fortunately it was raining by the time we reached there. Hence, naturally I took out an umbrella from the car wanting to shelter my daughter from the carpark to the zoo but was told off by him as he finds it’s troublesome to carry umbrella. Despite me telling him that I will be the one holding the umbrella he continued to yell at me saying I’m too protective of my daughter and he himself has not fallen sick before due to rain since young. My daughter is the sickly type since she was 18 months, she went to the hospital twice last year due to pneumonia as my hub passed the coughing virus to her for both ocassion. My husband is those stubborn type that refused to wear mask/see doc/ take medicine or refrain from kissing my daughter despite sick and he is a heavy smoker. My PD tried to talk to him to quit or cut down smoking as my daughter has sensitive airway but to no avail. I have spoken to him many times that we should seek help by going for marriage counselling but was rejected by him. Despite the above, there is basically no communication between us, he is still behaving as though he is single with no family. He packed his schedule with various outing and activities with friends like cycling, mahjong, billard etc. and little or no time for us. Basically he only come home after 9pm weekdays and he will be glued to the phone all the way till night time with no interaction with me. He only spend Saturday afternoon with us and when comes to evening time, off he went for his own activities. TBH he has not even touch me ever since I was pregnant but we were having v active physical intimacy before preggy.
Should I continue to endure to maintain this marriage or give up and raise my daughter on my own?
Any form of advice will be greatly appreciated!