truffleapple
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He's always work come first! No doubt he is working hard for the family but I feel lack of love from him. I feel very tired in our marriage, it's like no love involved.
We been together for almost 8 years. Thoughout all these years, he cheated on me several times on one night stands before our marriage. I forgave him thinking he might change. I listened to my mum in asking him to go for ROM then customary marriage. Who knows after we got married, he still cheated on me. For the sake of our future, I once again forgave him but the thorn is hard to remove.
Things are not getting better when we are TTC and had to resort to going for IVF. IVF journey is trauma but miscarriage is even worse! I managed to give birth to my boy 2 years ago. I just had a miscarriage from my IVF frozen embryos transfer.
During these periods, there is no one who can understand what I am going thru. I did not at once feel love, care and understanding from my husband. He only care about his work. His priorities are always his work, friends, staffs or personal commitment. He has already started to place our son behind too. We are like friends living under one roof. No embracing, no sweet talk, no listening ear (even have also about his work), no hold hands, no kissing. Even we have sex is just to satisfy ourselves (after sex, he is back to sleep in his own world). I feel so miserable, I need love and care. Still remembered we had a big quarral shortly after I gave birth. I felt I almost fell into post natal depression. Recently after I had my miscarriage abortion, he is too cold to be described. No consoling words, no sadness, no support. Isn't a couple suppose to learn how to love each other? Being a state like this, how are we going to last forever? We just had a quarral just now, he said he don't love me anymore. He ask for divorce and I can have custody of my son. He said he can don't want our son just want the money in our joint account! I feel really sad when he say these. I had a hard time giving birth to our son and our son doesn't come easily. How can he be so heartless to say don't want our son but want money instead (this is the 2nd time he made this statement).
I feel very sad. Sometimes, I really hope we can be divorced. We are like friends, really normal friends type. No feelings. I tried to talk to him but he just brush it away. He said my temper is bad (yes, sometimes I will shout at him) but does he know why is my temper bad? I have no cares from him! I need his attention! He never ever show his cares to me even when I went for the surgery. This is the time when I need love the most. I sometimes cry to sleep. How to stay on with a person who don't love me. His attidute make my love towards him slowly diminished. What should I do? I found out that I love to spend money to buy the satisfaction to subsitute his love. To save this marriage or go for divorce??? Please help me!!!!
We been together for almost 8 years. Thoughout all these years, he cheated on me several times on one night stands before our marriage. I forgave him thinking he might change. I listened to my mum in asking him to go for ROM then customary marriage. Who knows after we got married, he still cheated on me. For the sake of our future, I once again forgave him but the thorn is hard to remove.
Things are not getting better when we are TTC and had to resort to going for IVF. IVF journey is trauma but miscarriage is even worse! I managed to give birth to my boy 2 years ago. I just had a miscarriage from my IVF frozen embryos transfer.
During these periods, there is no one who can understand what I am going thru. I did not at once feel love, care and understanding from my husband. He only care about his work. His priorities are always his work, friends, staffs or personal commitment. He has already started to place our son behind too. We are like friends living under one roof. No embracing, no sweet talk, no listening ear (even have also about his work), no hold hands, no kissing. Even we have sex is just to satisfy ourselves (after sex, he is back to sleep in his own world). I feel so miserable, I need love and care. Still remembered we had a big quarral shortly after I gave birth. I felt I almost fell into post natal depression. Recently after I had my miscarriage abortion, he is too cold to be described. No consoling words, no sadness, no support. Isn't a couple suppose to learn how to love each other? Being a state like this, how are we going to last forever? We just had a quarral just now, he said he don't love me anymore. He ask for divorce and I can have custody of my son. He said he can don't want our son just want the money in our joint account! I feel really sad when he say these. I had a hard time giving birth to our son and our son doesn't come easily. How can he be so heartless to say don't want our son but want money instead (this is the 2nd time he made this statement).
I feel very sad. Sometimes, I really hope we can be divorced. We are like friends, really normal friends type. No feelings. I tried to talk to him but he just brush it away. He said my temper is bad (yes, sometimes I will shout at him) but does he know why is my temper bad? I have no cares from him! I need his attention! He never ever show his cares to me even when I went for the surgery. This is the time when I need love the most. I sometimes cry to sleep. How to stay on with a person who don't love me. His attidute make my love towards him slowly diminished. What should I do? I found out that I love to spend money to buy the satisfaction to subsitute his love. To save this marriage or go for divorce??? Please help me!!!!
