Hi Mummies (& Daddies),
I am not sure what I should do but I feel that I should be moving on by now...
Background:
My hub & I were together for 6 years before we got married. We were blissfully married for a year+ until the arrival of his father from overseas.
Living under one roof was really a chore (2 person messing up the house & I am the only one cleaning up after them + working full time). I endured for I can't remember how long, until I could no longer take it (I am allergic to dust, dirt etc & will break out in rashes, hives.) and shifted back to my parent's place. 人会累,心也会累。
I was indeed happier at my parent's place. I was well rested. No more allergies, no more rashes. My hub visited me frequently. My career was doing great too.
Couple of months later, I found out I was pregnant but I was reluctant to let my hub know given the current situation of us living apart. But I told him after one week of internal struggle...
While pregnant, I went back to my house to stay until I decided that it was not a good environment for my pregnancy.
I get visitors that I dont know of coming over to visit without being told, all the wee hours disturbance (imagine my hub & I woke up in fright at 3am?), clanking of utensils, dirty, messy, untidy environment. All those panadol pills that I have to pop, all the rashes that I have to endure... Most of these happened when my hub was away on biz trip.
I felt disgusted tbh.
How can anyone live like that? It is my house but it became something I no longer recognize & no longer am proud of... :'(
I shifted back to my parent's place again & stayed there until I gave birth. Went back to my house during my maternity leave period and shifted back to my parent's place when I had to get back to work.
My child comes over to my parent's place on Friday nights and head back with my hub on Sunday evening. And also whenever I am on leave..
Such arrangement took a toll on our marriage. It was draining but quarrels were not needed so everything was kept under the carpet.
Fast forward, my child is turning 4 this year.
My hub and I aren't exactly talking to each other unless it is re our child. Idk what he wants, Idk what I should do. Idw us to quarrel. Haiz, it is so frustrating.
I dont think I want to go back to my house either, I will definitely be triggered, which will eventually lead to a quarrel. Haiz...
During this period, I focused on my career & travelled around the globe for biz trips until Covid19.
During CB period, my child stayed with me as I was working from home.
Now that CB is over, my child comes over during the weekends.
I have no idea what I should do.
Should I file for a divorce & move on with my life?
I can lead & manage a co & staff but I can't get my life back on track. Such irony...
I am not sure what I should do but I feel that I should be moving on by now...
Background:
My hub & I were together for 6 years before we got married. We were blissfully married for a year+ until the arrival of his father from overseas.
Living under one roof was really a chore (2 person messing up the house & I am the only one cleaning up after them + working full time). I endured for I can't remember how long, until I could no longer take it (I am allergic to dust, dirt etc & will break out in rashes, hives.) and shifted back to my parent's place. 人会累,心也会累。
I was indeed happier at my parent's place. I was well rested. No more allergies, no more rashes. My hub visited me frequently. My career was doing great too.
Couple of months later, I found out I was pregnant but I was reluctant to let my hub know given the current situation of us living apart. But I told him after one week of internal struggle...
While pregnant, I went back to my house to stay until I decided that it was not a good environment for my pregnancy.
I get visitors that I dont know of coming over to visit without being told, all the wee hours disturbance (imagine my hub & I woke up in fright at 3am?), clanking of utensils, dirty, messy, untidy environment. All those panadol pills that I have to pop, all the rashes that I have to endure... Most of these happened when my hub was away on biz trip.
I felt disgusted tbh.
How can anyone live like that? It is my house but it became something I no longer recognize & no longer am proud of... :'(
I shifted back to my parent's place again & stayed there until I gave birth. Went back to my house during my maternity leave period and shifted back to my parent's place when I had to get back to work.
My child comes over to my parent's place on Friday nights and head back with my hub on Sunday evening. And also whenever I am on leave..
Such arrangement took a toll on our marriage. It was draining but quarrels were not needed so everything was kept under the carpet.
Fast forward, my child is turning 4 this year.
My hub and I aren't exactly talking to each other unless it is re our child. Idk what he wants, Idk what I should do. Idw us to quarrel. Haiz, it is so frustrating.
I dont think I want to go back to my house either, I will definitely be triggered, which will eventually lead to a quarrel. Haiz...
During this period, I focused on my career & travelled around the globe for biz trips until Covid19.
During CB period, my child stayed with me as I was working from home.
Now that CB is over, my child comes over during the weekends.
I have no idea what I should do.
Should I file for a divorce & move on with my life?
I can lead & manage a co & staff but I can't get my life back on track. Such irony...