Avocadogirl
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We dated for 5 years and have decided to get married as our bto is about to be completed.
He’s someone whom I can talk to and his temper is good and takes good care of me, but never have I expected, he’s been having an affair for the past 1 year before our marriage. And even on the 3rd day after our marriage, he went on a road trip holiday with that woman when he told me he was on a worktrip.
Everything was exposed because that woman called my ex-company asking me not to break up other people’s relationship which totally puzzled me as I have no idea who she is and what she’s talking about. So, everything came to light as my husband have decided to come clean and it was a total shock and I can’t even describe how devastated I was. I wanted to die. Knowing my husband was sleeping with another woman before marriage, and even just 3 days after our wedding ceremony. And it leads to another expose issue which is he actually went to visit prostitution and dirty massage parlour even when we were dating.
To cut short that 3 years back episode, we’ve decided to go for marriage counselling and I wanted to make things work again for us after knowing all the dirty heartbreaking truth because I still believe that it was just a foolish mistake that he already knew it was wrong and we all learn from that episode and move on to learn how to love again.
But. 2 days back, when we were on a trip overseas, I’ve discovered that he actually change extra money without me knowing and when I questioned him what’s that money for. Initially, he was just saying for emergency use. But not long later, he confessed that he has the thought of getting a “happy ending” special service if the massage parlor does offer that. He did not get to use the money as the masseurs were decent, but he wanted and will use it if it was offered.
I’m really heartbroken and confuse now. I thought we were healing well from the infidelity but end up is he going back to his own real self?
Is the person who takes good care of me and listen to me and a soulmate to me are all my own self denial?
I really love him alot, I can’t imagine life without him.
Will there still be a future for us?
Is divorce the only route for us now?
He’s someone whom I can talk to and his temper is good and takes good care of me, but never have I expected, he’s been having an affair for the past 1 year before our marriage. And even on the 3rd day after our marriage, he went on a road trip holiday with that woman when he told me he was on a worktrip.
Everything was exposed because that woman called my ex-company asking me not to break up other people’s relationship which totally puzzled me as I have no idea who she is and what she’s talking about. So, everything came to light as my husband have decided to come clean and it was a total shock and I can’t even describe how devastated I was. I wanted to die. Knowing my husband was sleeping with another woman before marriage, and even just 3 days after our wedding ceremony. And it leads to another expose issue which is he actually went to visit prostitution and dirty massage parlour even when we were dating.
To cut short that 3 years back episode, we’ve decided to go for marriage counselling and I wanted to make things work again for us after knowing all the dirty heartbreaking truth because I still believe that it was just a foolish mistake that he already knew it was wrong and we all learn from that episode and move on to learn how to love again.
But. 2 days back, when we were on a trip overseas, I’ve discovered that he actually change extra money without me knowing and when I questioned him what’s that money for. Initially, he was just saying for emergency use. But not long later, he confessed that he has the thought of getting a “happy ending” special service if the massage parlor does offer that. He did not get to use the money as the masseurs were decent, but he wanted and will use it if it was offered.
I’m really heartbroken and confuse now. I thought we were healing well from the infidelity but end up is he going back to his own real self?
Is the person who takes good care of me and listen to me and a soulmate to me are all my own self denial?
I really love him alot, I can’t imagine life without him.
Will there still be a future for us?
Is divorce the only route for us now?