SAF Regular Wives' Club

taitai

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Hi Ladies

Anyone of you is married to an SAF Regular, regardless of rank, contingent, unit etc etc?
 


hi taitai...my hubby is a SAF regular too...

travel nope but he does have exercise once a month which means he won't be back home for 4-5 days..sometimes 2-3 days depending on the exercise..

does ur hubby travel a lot?
 
Yup, my husband travels once a year. Upto 6 weeks.

He still hv exercise tt kept him away fm home for a few days and stand-bys on special events.

What do u think of saf regulars in general? Do they have complicated lifestyles?

I heard a lot of stories of these men, like when they are oversaes n even some hv affairs with their colleagues.
 
icic...ya once they travel it's at least 2-3 weeks..

eh...complicated lifestyle i'm not sure...as for affairs...i believe every guy will face this temptation..it's a matter of how resolute that man is..but of course if that women is a b***h / sl*t, than it'l be difficult for men to resist...

overseas is ezier to have since they r away from home..whats more they r colleagues so both r in the same boat (miss home/spouse)...

I had once confronted my hubs abt this female colleague he's very close with n he denied (as expexted) but I told him that time will tell n his actions speak louder than words...I act very non-chalent about it to make him worry more abt me...it's like blow hot n cold but not too extreme...just enough that he feels it and u'll see a slight change in his actions towards u...

not too sure if such strategy will work for ur hubs thou...

guys r very non-emo ppl...have to tell them directly how u feel if not if u hint not clear enough they won't get what you mean de...

is ur hubs going overseas soon? to where?
 
So far, no notice of postings overseas.

But I have heard of tons of stories of these men who get involved with Taiwanese women.

In fact, one of his colleagues told me that 9 out of 10 who went to Taiwan will get involve with a Taiwanese woman, it all depends whether the SAF guy is man enough to let go of the affairs. Some maintain the relationship as they make frequent trips back to Taiwan.

I also witnessed many of my HB colleagues who have affairs locally, and even brought the other party out for gatherings. Knowing that they are married, they are still so "blatant" showing off the other party. It's soooo scary.

Me and HB relationship is no good. He got involved with a couple of Taiwanese women when he was there for 6 weeks. He seemed to be in a serious relationship with one of the women.
 
hi taitai..

those stories i believe the guys know as well..n with the help of colleagues who cover up for them makes the men even more blatant to show off the other woman..

SAF officers can get away with such strays as they just have to tell us that they r on duty/exercise and since we can't call their camp to check, they have no fear that they'll be caught for lying...even more fearless knowing that their guys in camp will help to cover for them...

my guy friend (SAF officer as well) once told me that he had colleagues who help the straying colleague to do his duty so that the guy can go out with the other woman...n there was once while talking to me on the phone, he witnessed his colleague hugging another woman walking ard in IKEA..when I asked him what he intend to do...he said pretend never see even thou he knows the wife as well..

so u see..it's an endless n perfect circle of proection for those who strayed...

hav u ever talked to ur hub abt ur suspicion of that taiwanese woman?
 
In general, the environment "allows" them to keep women inside and outside of Singapore.

I gave up talking to my HB. More or less resigned to fate. So just live my life as it is. I have my kids to think of.

A typical woman in sorrow.
 
Oh ... I was told by some SAF wifeys that its bad or doesn't reflect very well on them if they get a divorce. Is that true?
 
Not really but then it also depend on ur hubby seniority in force. For formal functions, they will usually prefer spouse to attend together.
 
Formal dinners, how to hide?

It's either they turn up alone or with official registered wife.

I am working in the private sector, but as compared to the tyrsts happening in SAF. Private sector lose big time to SAF.
 
Taitai, u asked whether it is true tt it's bad or doesn't reflect on well on divorcee in saf, in I will say no coz I heard too many from my hubby.

However, it's an unspoken rule to bring spouse along for official functions unless valid reasons.
 
SAF personnel 吃喝嫖赌,样样行.

That's what most of my HB colleagues told me. Wifeys just gotta close both eyes to make them happy.

I have just heard a story during CNY majong session, that some SAF personnel gamble until ah long come to the house and create trouble. After wifey clear the debts, another round came. Never ending.
 
official functions normally for those high ranking officers?

taitai...u make it sound so sad to marry SAF personnel wor...haha...
wah gamble till ah long come to house..i think even non SAF personnel does that..those men i label them as 'useless n shameless' lol
 
Yes, I am very sad married to one.

There's none I have come across that are faithful to spouse -- men and women.

Once they are overseas, good luck to their spouse at home.
 
It's true that there are bad eggs amongst non-SAF personnel. I mean I work in the "outside" world, but the thing is, u still meet good, faithful men, and some not really good ones, and some a bit notti and cheeky ones, and some real bas****s.

But hell, these SAF personnel I know ... hooof! They are either, womanisers, gamblers, wives-beaters, prostitutes-visitors, go to dodgy-massage parlors etc etc etc .... they can either have one or two of the vices, or All-In-One.

Maybe I am the unlucky one, but which SAF wifey can vouch here that their own HB are normal and do not indulge in neither of the vices or know of any SAF personnel who is clean as a lab.
 
Taitai, u r too negative abt saf guys. Though my hb does smoke, drink n gamble, he is a loving n responsible hb to me n a loving dad to my kids. He travel occasionally for work n same for me at work, but we are still loving n faithful to each other. Same for his frens cum colleagues. And some dun even drink, smoke or gamble...
 
I am not negative. I am just stating facts. These are men I have come across. Including my very own man.

Sorry to sound rude, but your man does have the vices, but you are lucky he is faithful to you. And I am happy that both of you are loving and faithful to one another.

I envy, women who have loving husbands.
 
Taitai, no one is perfect..as long as it is within my acceptable range, I m fine. When you expect a perfect or close to perfect person, you r only setting up disappointments for yourself. Our relationship isn't perfect n loving all e times, but end of e day, it is how u wan to view n manage it; half cup empty or half cup full....;)
 
Well, I don't know whether I am Ms Perfect.

Cuz, my husband pass with flying colours on all the vices. Including womanising.
 
hahahaaaaaaaa true true......... i caught my hubby such cases too......................

his frens / colleague from the same PV, cover up for him for his thai / vietnam girls..........

thats why itx rather awkward for me to show-up . on dinner or cohesion dinners..............

sighh....... the more the pairs of eye judge me............... the more i wanna be prettier . generous-er ... bigger heart . than those thai/viet women

we may not win them in age or beauty.......
but i try to be better. slimmer than before ...

after the case . i try to slim down and be prettier. and mostly
my tolerance increase.

those ladies very sweet n caring.......
bo bian..................
seriously awkward...

just try to increase your own confidence...


JIAYOUS SAF's wifeyy~~
 
Cynn, way to go.

I am a working mum, so I do put a lot of emphasis on my looks. Also, I want my sons to be "proud" of me when their friends and teachers tell them your mummy is pretty. : )))
Sound lame and ignorant, but I'm happy. Ha!

The SAF men will try their best to cover up for their buddies. Though some will still remind their pals that family comes first. "shi jian dao, ji de hui jia" = lamely translated to, remember home is where your heart belongs ultimately. But f*** you take your wives as what!
 
Anna, he's a rare gem. But sorry to ask, how do you know that this friend of yours is as good as you regard. Sometimes, they hide it so well nobody knows.

My HB was highly regarded by his mates, he does drink occasionally, but not dead drunk, smoke and yes, a bit flirtatious as seen by his mates. But when the truth was out, all were shock!!!! Especially when he got himself involved with a Taiwanese woman, and wanted to divorce me.

What is numerology?
 
Hi Anna it's true...not all saf personnel r like what taitai said...but there r bound to be bad eggs...which most of us will meet....some don't meet at all n I can only tell them to thank their lucky stars...who can guarantee that any other guy from other profession like banker, office clerk don't 吃喝嫖赌?

Anw is it true that saf personnel can't wear jewelry in camp to the extend of their own wedding rings?
 
Fmdgoh: Not allowed to wear accessory is not a standard rule in SAF but this is subjected to the different unit practices. Accessory includes rings (wedding band included) and necklace.
 
Anna, yes i am negative. Cuz its unfortunate I have not come across any goodies from SAF. Worse part, my HB is the baddie.

Just like you, you are positive cuz you are on the other side of the fence.
 
Hi my hb is a officer too, attending CSC course at SAFTI now
He is a devoted hubby though super busy at work

err..so far my hb in so many camps, see numerous of his bosses and colleagues before, all are loving n good husbands and fathers to their families

I even make frens with thier wives too
 
I do not think there is a written rule whether one can wear wedding ring or not. It's up to the individual.

My HB wore the wedding band for less than 6 months, and thereafter he took it off and said that very troublesome, and his work caused too much scratches on the ring.

So, work he don't wear. When we go out he wore, but slowly, the band is no where in sight. Gone forever.
 
taitai...my hubby also mentioned that his work caused too many scratches on the ring...so he never wears it...n i have not seen it for a long time too...haha
 
Uou have to call you HB's; wherever he is, Ops Room. I believe every unit has their own Ops room.

If the person who answers the phone is a newbie, he will spill the beans. If the person is an experience one, he will withold certain information as not to create disputes between HB and Wifey.
 
Fmdgoh: there is hundreds of units so cant check but your dh will be able to tell u that else u can check informally with his colleagues?
 
Mangogal, look like we r e lucky few who met good saf officers...

Csc year will b pretty busy w a lot of projects but can b crucial for potential upwards movts. So jus be more understanding towards ur man...
 
chris...i hardly know his colleagues...seldom bring me n kid to colleagues parties..but will try..thanks ladies
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taitai..ur HB not officer? sorry i thought all regulars r labelled as officers...
 
Wah .... if all regulars are officers who will do the dirty jobs?

My HB is a specialist. What rank I duno.
 
soon to be:yeah he is very busy
work n family with 2 kids esp we dun hv maid
n now studies
yeah been giving him moral support cos I want him to pass the course so communication is the key
He will tell me in advance when he time to study in the room and I will handle the kids
when the kids zz at night then I will do more housework
 
yeah my hubby too, been wearing his wedding band since day one, n think he has grow fat or his fingers grow fat or knuckes too big, unable to renmove the wedding band, most of his colleagues are wearing the wedding band too
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I think whether specialist or officer, saf regular or not, these will not matter if the man want to stray...and hv frens who r willing to cover up for them.

My cousin's hubby is a specialist, my hubby's staff who r specialist..they r all good men...
 
soontobe...yes agreed...so long as they want to stray n know that they have cover ups...they will do it...so it really boils down to the guy's character n determination...women too..

there's bound to be temptations everywhere..be it man or woman...so it's not possible to say there's no good man/woman...

btw ladies, what form of actions/words etc equal to your definition of betrayal?
 


What is good and what is bad and what is betrayal?

Good = no vices at all, or allow vices, but to what extent?

Bad = 吃喝嫖赌 all in

Betrayal = visit prostitutes, caught F***ing with other women regardless they are prostitutes or some ONS, or with another woman who he has develop feelings? Watch porn? Thinking of other women/ex-galfrenz but not physical yet.
 

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