missus_lim
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After reading other threads about MILs (Mother-In-Laws), let me vent my frustrations on mine. If she's ever considered one...
Met hubby in 2006, started dating in 2007, at the start of the relationship, she was cordial and even advised hubby to buy gifts for me (according to her, my star sign states that I like gifts...don't all women?).
A few weeks later, all started to change. That was in Jan 2008. Upon hearing my birthdate, she flipped some books and went to some place to got my "ba zi" (eight characters) counted.
Not to my amazement, hers and mine clashed. Worse of it all, she claims that mine and my hubby's is a big no-no. Will divorce, hubby will be cursed and job won't be successful, etc, etc.
That was just the very start. She started to HAUNT and call my hubby's ex-girlfriend (whom broke up in 2006) to ask her to come back to her son and whatnot.
Despite her many objections and countless baseless reasonings, we did our solemnisation (ROM) in June 2008. She attended only to show the whole world how unpleased she was. No smiles on the pictures on the biggest day of her son's life.
I tolerated all these so far.
Due to hubby's insistence to stay near his grandparents, we had to purchase a flat in the same town as his parents. Next wave of wooha came along. The day of signing the papers (for the housing grant) at the HDB Hub, she sat through the whole proceedings grumpier than Grumpy and at one point, threw the pen down after she's finished signing her portion of the papers.
FIL couldn't help but kept on apologising behind her back to me. I nearly wanted to cry that day. Not because of the nasty woman's action to me, but the guilt and the sorry state of her husband and son who were so pitifully sandwiched.
Keep in mind that all these while, I was polite and had did my duty to greet her each time I meet her at family gatherings. Only to be ignored. Maybe hundreds of times till date.
Fastforward to 2009, our wedding day, same thing. Not a word during the tea ceremony, not a smile on her son's big day.
After being a dutiful daughter-in-law for close to 3 years now, she has NOT ONCE acknowledged my presence. She has only mentioned all her displeasure through midnight phone calls to my hubby, saying how yellow-faced (yes, i'm more tanned than the average chinese girl) I am, how inappropiately dressed I was, yadder yadder.
Recently, we are pregnant! To everyone's, including my parents' belief, they would imagine her change of attitude towards me. With all the "carrying her first grandchild" reasons and whatnot.
WRONG. she has not once, in my current 7 months of pregnancy, called my hubby to ask how my pregnancy was, never once did she find out from my FIL how I was either. The only consistent thing she did -- ignore my existence. Including my unborn child's.
Let's just say I'm goddamn glad I ain't living with her. Let her go indulge in her superstitious ways. Utterly disgusted.
Met hubby in 2006, started dating in 2007, at the start of the relationship, she was cordial and even advised hubby to buy gifts for me (according to her, my star sign states that I like gifts...don't all women?).
A few weeks later, all started to change. That was in Jan 2008. Upon hearing my birthdate, she flipped some books and went to some place to got my "ba zi" (eight characters) counted.
Not to my amazement, hers and mine clashed. Worse of it all, she claims that mine and my hubby's is a big no-no. Will divorce, hubby will be cursed and job won't be successful, etc, etc.
That was just the very start. She started to HAUNT and call my hubby's ex-girlfriend (whom broke up in 2006) to ask her to come back to her son and whatnot.
Despite her many objections and countless baseless reasonings, we did our solemnisation (ROM) in June 2008. She attended only to show the whole world how unpleased she was. No smiles on the pictures on the biggest day of her son's life.
I tolerated all these so far.
Due to hubby's insistence to stay near his grandparents, we had to purchase a flat in the same town as his parents. Next wave of wooha came along. The day of signing the papers (for the housing grant) at the HDB Hub, she sat through the whole proceedings grumpier than Grumpy and at one point, threw the pen down after she's finished signing her portion of the papers.
FIL couldn't help but kept on apologising behind her back to me. I nearly wanted to cry that day. Not because of the nasty woman's action to me, but the guilt and the sorry state of her husband and son who were so pitifully sandwiched.
Keep in mind that all these while, I was polite and had did my duty to greet her each time I meet her at family gatherings. Only to be ignored. Maybe hundreds of times till date.
Fastforward to 2009, our wedding day, same thing. Not a word during the tea ceremony, not a smile on her son's big day.
After being a dutiful daughter-in-law for close to 3 years now, she has NOT ONCE acknowledged my presence. She has only mentioned all her displeasure through midnight phone calls to my hubby, saying how yellow-faced (yes, i'm more tanned than the average chinese girl) I am, how inappropiately dressed I was, yadder yadder.
Recently, we are pregnant! To everyone's, including my parents' belief, they would imagine her change of attitude towards me. With all the "carrying her first grandchild" reasons and whatnot.
WRONG. she has not once, in my current 7 months of pregnancy, called my hubby to ask how my pregnancy was, never once did she find out from my FIL how I was either. The only consistent thing she did -- ignore my existence. Including my unborn child's.
Let's just say I'm goddamn glad I ain't living with her. Let her go indulge in her superstitious ways. Utterly disgusted.