Hi, I just want to find somewhere to speak out my feeling. My mil insisted that this is a tradition to stay with the son and daughter in law. Somemore my husband and my mil not in talking term and not talking with each other years ago. When my husband not around, she will start nagging me on blaming tone, and i can't talk back to her as she will suddenly get frustrated and angry saying I am not respecting her. She also said that she wont be taking care of grandchildren and she didnt know how to take care a child. In fact, my husband was taken care by his grandmother and nanny, as his mother lazy to take care of him. We are staying in a 4 room flat and we only have 3 bedrooms but my mil has taken 2 bedrooms (one for her and my fil and another one for her maid), left no room for my child and also my future child. Anyway, I just prefer not to stay with mil and I prefer to have my own private space and I see no point staying together (my husband and my mil not in good term and also she is also not taking care of child).