Hi all, My husband is pretty close to his female colleague who is 11 years younger than him. She's a Malaysian and is in a long term relationship with her bf as well. So here's the the list of things I found out thru his text messages. I caught text messages of my husband calling her in cute pet names. Her number was saved under a guy's name. My husband suggested to her that they should just take mc one of these days and hang out. He asked her if she wants to go to a hotel with him, since he can't "sleep well" at home. One of the text from her, she complaint of mozzie bites on her hands and my husband replied that if he was the mozzie he would've bitten her "fair thighs, her cute face and her butt" He ask intimate details like how often she has sex with her bf. And his response to all of this is that it's a "inside office joke". I got him to explain to me in details and his response was, everyone in the office has pet names, her number was saved under a guy's name coz he didn't want his other colleagues to know that they were texting during working hours. He claims asking her to a hotel room was a joke as some other 2 colleagues from his workplace came to work one morning wearing the same hotel room slippers in the office. So it's some kinda office gossip. The mozzie issue, he claims she was touched inappropriately while on the bus and so it was meant to be joke. So how am I supposed to react to this? I am Extremely hurt and upset that my husband talks like that to another woman. He is sorry about all this after confronting him and he said he won't do this again. He meant no harm and got carried away. As much as I want to forgive him, I find it very difficult to look past all of this. I hate that after all the fun my husband had with his "harmless teasing", I'm the one feeling heartbroken. I have no one to share this with, thus, posting it here to get some advise. Thank you for reading my lengthy post. Just had to let it out.