HI LY (Koay),
My girl had this problem as well when she just joined the childcare. people called her, she walk away.... teacher called her joined the group, she pretend nothing continue to play herself .... but after 2 weeks she slowly joined into the activity, i am not so sure what had teacher did to her. i feel headache as well as she was not socialize, a mummy ask me " How do you socialize your child, when YOU don't want to socialize with people? " i had shocked with this sentence as i am a mummy super lazy to be socialize ..... LY, maybe you can talk to teacher and find out some solution, i believe a experience teacher should know how to get a child to joined all the activity in the childcare ...
Hi Porky,
i can understand your feeling, i think u are not alone... my girl was 4th weeks in childcare, for the first 2 weeks, she really had a lot of weird pattern which really headache me.
1. not socialize, play herself , dun want teacher , sitting nap even she was very sleep and kept suck her pacifier .....
2. she pushed me away when her dad around. keep ask me to carried her when her dad not around. dont allowed me to bath her and changed diaper; while carried her, i cannot sit and must standing. whining with nothing, she often cried badly which i never saw her behaved this way before.....
i super mad, really feel to slap her and i feel very stressful. so, i start to kept google, read and find information.
i found a article mentioned about
"the kid's whining happens shortly after a child’s sense of connection to their parent or caregiver has broken",
"He needs you. Not just the things you do",
"He needs to feel connected to you. Only a sense of connection can mend that awful out-of-sorts feeling that's bothering him."
i feel so sad of my inpatient after read the article.
i tried to carried her and hug her when she whine and telling her mummy love you. carried her whenever she ask for. meanwhile i keep explained to her that mummy really need work, if can, i won't send her to childcare ...
spend time play with her ...
( i feel very tired and stress when i trying to let her know how much of love to her) .....
3rd weeks onward ... all whining slowly disappeared, she will only ask me to carried her when she woke up and she knew that she going to childcare soon. i can feel that she miss me alot. i will carried her, and telling her time to tidy up as mummy rush to work ... slowly she ok and slowly she adapted ...now, she still will drop her tears when i need to leave, but she did not struggle and bye bye with me.
Dear mummies, it's a very tough way ... i cried every morning in the office, cz i really feel sad, helpless and stress which i dunno how well i can do to help her ....
below link might let u understand more about ur kid:
http://www.handinhandparenting.org/news/62/64/What-s-the-Cure-for-Whining
http://sg.******************/trick-your-kid-to-stop-whining/
http://childparenting.about.com/od/behaviordiscipline/a/Child-Discipline-How-To-Stop-Whining-In-Children.htm
Hope it's help... ;-)