I will due in Sep... Was considering Infant care or helper.
My husband prefer infant care but I prefer helper.
As now just the two of us house already in a mess, everyday after work reached home already so tired.. Cannot imagine after baby is out.
For me, it was a straightforward decision to place my firstborn in infant care as I found one with good infant educarers and principal. However, I'm also caught with the same situation now with my second one due in a few months' time.
It would make more economic sense to get a helper who can care for the kids and do some general housework. As it would cost be more than $1K per month just for childcare services. Hence, I am looking for a helper. However, to my dismay, the cheapest source of helper from Mymmar is not recommended for infant and childcare. I was advised to get a Filipino helper instead.
The other headache is the cost of confinement nanny which easily cost more than $3K just for their services, meaning that my initial plan of getting a helper and confinement nanny at the same time is going to be challenging. And I had been advised that if I get a helper after confinement, having to handle an infant with my first born and guide the helper will drive me crazy.
My husband is not on the same page as I am in terms of these arrangement. So I'm basically stuck to the extend that I feel really lousy about having this baby.
IMHO, I feel that it would be best to have a formal word with your husband on whether to get a helper or go for infant care/nanny and reach an agreement. The last thing you want is to fall out with your husband over this matter.