Lack of regular intimacy ruining my marriage

NicoleSweety

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Have you tried experimenting with viagra? Many couples get better after that.
personally, I use female viagra for about 2 years, because 2 years ago I really was so passive and sex didn't interested me at all, but this thing annoyed my husband, so he was detached from me. Then I searched for advice on forums and you know what? A good woman advised me to use female viagra, so now I use instant female arousal pills to easily get horny, and can you imagine? I really started loving s*x, because the sensitivity of my body increased and by this fact I got much pleasure then previously :) Really, female viagra is the thing each woman has to try.
 
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Muller21Q

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I’m curious to know how often do married couple with kids have intimacy?

Before getting married, we didn’t do the actual deed. After we married and before having kid, my hubby is already having a very low sex drive. He can don’t ask for sex one. Also find it hard to stay hard for long if we do it at night. Morning is much better for him.

I don’t like to always be the one to initiate but I would think doing it once a week should not be too much to ask for. Or am I wrong? or maybe once every 1.5 wks. sometimes he has to travel and stuff like that, or either one of us fell sick. We probably do it once a month only, and that’s even after how I always say I have high sex drive as a woman and would love to have regular sex.

When I was pregnant, he said he couldn’t bear the idea of having sex knowing baby is inside me. So for the whole 10 months he just didn’t want to do it. And for the 7 or 8 months after baby is born, we didn’t do it either, busy with baby stuff and so tired n all. and when we finally did it after such a long hiatus, he can’t last long and shoots very fast. less than 3 mins of everything.

I have been expressing my displeasure that he’s not keen to have regular sex, and as a result he’s stressed and feel obliged to do it. i know it will affect his performance as well. There are times when we try to do it at night but he couldn’t hold the erection. I cried in bed after that.

When we quarrel over other things, n he start comparing me to other wife more gentle and encouraging bla bla, I will also start saying things like he also doesn’t give me sex or satisfy me. or when he says he feels that nothing he does in the household is right in my eyes, say that I always pick on him, somehow the conversation will lead to me expressing my displeasure, that he doesn’t satisfy me sexually and maybe that’s why I don’t feel truly happy being with him. I brought up divorce many times cos I don’t feel happy being with him.

I know it’s not healthy to keep mentioning divorce, but I am serious about divorcing if he is agreeable. I also sat down and talked many times to him about how I don’t like our sex life at all. I feel deprived. Our relationship has deteriorated after having a baby. Stress and lack of regular intimacy.

Anyway, yesterday we quarrelled over other things again. Then led to me complaining about lack of intimacy, he said in a fit of anger to go find other guys then, as long as don’t bring home, don’t affect my baby. I said fine. And we still aren’t talking to each other since yesterday’s quarrel.

He’s a very good father to our baby. Everytime i reconcile with him (even after me mentioning divorce) and still stay in this marriage is because of our baby. Deep down I don’t feel happy being in this marriage but what else can I do?
you know, after I married my gf that has kids, we continued having intimacy, because we have two-storey house, where kids are at the second floor, but we have intimacy at the second, and our kids sleep well and do not disturb us :)
 

i_do_yoga

New Member
personally, I use female viagra for about 2 years, because 2 years ago I really was so passive and sex didn't interested me at all, but this thing annoyed my husband, so he was detached from me. Then I searched for advice on forums and you know what? A good woman advised me to use female viagra, so now I use instant female arousal pills to easily get horny, and can you imagine? I really started loving s*x, because the sensitivity of my body increased and by this fact I got much pleasure then previously :) Really, female viagra is the thing each woman has to try.
The reply of this lady here isn’t the first suggestion of using sex drugs in this thread, and which is what prompted me to reply. I know many pharmaceutical professionals in my previous industry and it is widely learnt that success rates of sex drugs are low and they come with many downsides. People who read our threads should exercise caution as well as for people who reply, should exercise social responsibility. Please do not mislead. “every woman should try” ? Come on. Please do not make yourself sound like a drug trafficker or a troll.
 

stephen sam

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In this post, few guys are suggesting viagra or any other remedies mentioned to stimulate the relationship happiness in real life. My small suggestion is true love does not come with medicine or food diet. True Love comes from the bottom of the heart. Several couples overflowing with true love, afterward mingling with each other in the physical body. This is the true and best method for engaging with each other. If you want more power and energy during mutual body relationship try a medicine like generic viagra or another remedy. But before that consulting with a health expert or doctor about your body health. Because many couples are facing some troubles in their daily life, due to the following irregular medicine.
 

Sophia Nelson

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NatalieTan84

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For me and my husband,we have come to recognize that a complete marriage is not just about sex.

A complete marriage is about bearing and accepting each for who we are and it is not easy to do that because we are not perfect and tempers do flare from time to time.

Esp when we have 2 grown up girls,we only can be intimate when they are not around or in our room.
 

johntan68

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For me and my husband,we have come to recognize that a complete marriage is not just about sex.

A complete marriage is about bearing and accepting each for who we are and it is not easy to do that because we are not perfect and tempers do flare from time to time.

Esp when we have 2 grown up girls,we only can be intimate when they are not around or in our room.
Well said!!! Sex is not everything, within a good marriage life, there are things that need to give and take.
 

NatalieTan84

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Well said!!! Sex is not everything, within a good marriage life, there are things that need to give and take.
I felt that eg cooking together in the kitchen is already time well spent.

So why let sex dictate my marriage?I am sure there are better things to do.

Sex is a part of marriage life but not everything.
 

Carbong

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I felt that eg cooking together in the kitchen is already time well spent.

So why let sex dictate my marriage?I am sure there are better things to do.

Sex is a part of marriage life but not everything.
I spent last 8yrs cooking exercising shopping doing charity work with my husband.. no sex.. he says slipped disc back problem.. i thot exactly the same... no sex but connected in other ways... end up he brgt women to hotel for the last 8yrs... fine dine movies dating without weddg ring ...... sexless marriage is not a marriage... unless both are real old or hv genuine medical prob
 

Drain

Member
To be honest, intimacy is important in a marriage, including sex
I agreed with Carbong. Unless due to medical condition, or menopause or erectile issue etc, sex is still needed to sustain a rs/marriage.
 

Stansy

Member
I spent last 8yrs cooking exercising shopping doing charity work with my husband.. no sex.. he says slipped disc back problem.. i thot exactly the same... no sex but connected in other ways... end up he brgt women to hotel for the last 8yrs... fine dine movies dating without weddg ring ...... sexless marriage is not a marriage... unless both are real old or hv genuine medical prob
Hi Carbing, how’s ur situation now?
 

Carbong

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Hi Carbing, how’s ur situation now?
Pretty bad.. we did 3 times initially in 2mths after patching up.. but i felt he is just goin thru motion.. now he says that the last time has hurt his back and he stop sayg back pain.. ??...my esteem has taken another v bad hit... the man who has kinks, joined fetlife n tie up the stupid woman in bed juz doesnt wanna do it w me.... yet he "try " to salvage the marriage ... n whn i caught him hiding stuff, he will apologise abit n say thgs like wat is the point of being together if we r not happy.. he hide small thgs even like company awarded stocks, appoiment w palmist.. it mks me wonder wonder wat other stuff he is hidg...
I felt he is here trying w me juz to cool me dwn aftr discovering his dark fetish life n to show he has tried evythg. He was so glum evyday w me. Says need freedom. Wanna go home see mum which is exactly the same excuse he use to chk into hotels.. even in workday afternoon....with his reluctance of intimacy w me i thk most likely he has fallen for the other girl...
 

Drain

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Pretty bad.. we did 3 times initially in 2mths after patching up.. but i felt he is just goin thru motion.. now he says that the last time has hurt his back and he stop sayg back pain.. ??...my esteem has taken another v bad hit... the man who has kinks, joined fetlife n tie up the stupid woman in bed juz doesnt wanna do it w me.... yet he "try " to salvage the marriage ... n whn i caught him hiding stuff, he will apologise abit n say thgs like wat is the point of being together if we r not happy.. he hide small thgs even like company awarded stocks, appoiment w palmist.. it mks me wonder wonder wat other stuff he is hidg...
I felt he is here trying w me juz to cool me dwn aftr discovering his dark fetish life n to show he has tried evythg. He was so glum evyday w me. Says need freedom. Wanna go home see mum which is exactly the same excuse he use to chk into hotels.. even in workday afternoon....with his reluctance of intimacy w me i thk most likely he has fallen for the other girl...
Excuses.. if having back pain, how to have or did those fetish?
If that's the case, try test out his fetish of tying or whatever then. See if he is really back pain..
 

Stansy

Member
Pretty bad.. we did 3 times initially in 2mths after patching up.. but i felt he is just goin thru motion.. now he says that the last time has hurt his back and he stop sayg back pain.. ??...my esteem has taken another v bad hit... the man who has kinks, joined fetlife n tie up the stupid woman in bed juz doesnt wanna do it w me.... yet he "try " to salvage the marriage ... n whn i caught him hiding stuff, he will apologise abit n say thgs like wat is the point of being together if we r not happy.. he hide small thgs even like company awarded stocks, appoiment w palmist.. it mks me wonder wonder wat other stuff he is hidg...
I felt he is here trying w me juz to cool me dwn aftr discovering his dark fetish life n to show he has tried evythg. He was so glum evyday w me. Says need freedom. Wanna go home see mum which is exactly the same excuse he use to chk into hotels.. even in workday afternoon....with his reluctance of intimacy w me i thk most likely he has fallen for the other girl...
@Carbing, prefectly empathized with u. Mind so share how long hv u been married & any kids? What do u intend to do?
 

Carbong

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@Carbing, prefectly empathized with u. Mind so share how long hv u been married & any kids? What do u intend to do?
No kids. N i m so weak... i juz cant bear to leave him.. i cant accept wat has transpired till now... we been to 3 holidays in last 3mths... he try to accomodate me in sm ways.. like leavg the handphn on table whn he goes away... video call me whn i ask whr is he.. but he is so stressed up w this behaviour of me.. dat he flared up at times.. n asked wats the point of being togethr if i m so unhappy... i m still v heart broken now...n so long as he says he try.. i will hang on.. i thk i m juz tryg to catch dat he is still seeing the girl.... wirh dat.. i thk it will be the real closure for me....
 

i_do_yoga

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No kids. N i m so weak... i juz cant bear to leave him.. i cant accept wat has transpired till now... we been to 3 holidays in last 3mths... he try to accomodate me in sm ways.. like leavg the handphn on table whn he goes away... video call me whn i ask whr is he.. but he is so stressed up w this behaviour of me.. dat he flared up at times.. n asked wats the point of being togethr if i m so unhappy... i m still v heart broken now...n so long as he says he try.. i will hang on.. i thk i m juz tryg to catch dat he is still seeing the girl.... wirh dat.. i thk it will be the real closure for me....
I feel sorry as I read this, what your spouse did must have hit you like tons of bricks. I’ve never gone through the same , may not be qualified to comment here... However I’m pretty certain that continuing the blame game won’t do any good, have you both considered counseling to help you sort out the complications? It does sounds like both of you are making efforts to salvage the situation
 

Carbong

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I feel sorry as I read this, what your spouse did must have hit you like tons of bricks. I’ve never gone through the same , may not be qualified to comment here... However I’m pretty certain that continuing the blame game won’t do any good, have you both considered counseling to help you sort out the complications? It does sounds like both of you are making efforts to salvage the situation
I wanted.. and he kind of agreed reluctantly.. he has been to conselling in his previous marriage n end up divorcing.. thus his disbelief in dat... n i read pretty bad feedback abt counselling if we get the bad ones.. would like reccommendatio n if thr is any..
 

i_do_yoga

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I wanted.. and he kind of agreed reluctantly.. he has been to conselling in his previous marriage n end up divorcing.. thus his disbelief in dat... n i read pretty bad feedback abt counselling if we get the bad ones.. would like reccommendatio n if thr is any..
PMed you Good luck !
 

Darthvaderxxx

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For Ed or hard to keep it up issue , can try Google kopi panggung and buy from carousel . It will fix your man if no real medical issue and make it hard as metal rod within 30 minutes with no side effects.

I am a guy who suffer from Ed previously but after taking this traditional cure 1 time per week for 1 month I am totally cured and no longer depend on it to maintain an erection. Till date no erection problem , can get it hard whenever have to perform and no feel sad or paiseh when the deed has to be performed.
 

Stansy

Member
For Ed or hard to keep it up issue , can try Google kopi panggung and buy from carousel . It will fix your man if no real medical issue and make it hard as metal rod within 30 minutes with no side effects.

I am a guy who suffer from Ed previously but after taking this traditional cure 1 time per week for 1 month I am totally cured and no longer depend on it to maintain an erection. Till date no erection problem , can get it hard whenever have to perform and no feel sad or paiseh when the deed has to be performed.
How old are you and how long hv u consumed it? Tks
 

Darthvaderxxx

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How old are you and how long hv u consumed it? Tks
I am 30 now, I realized I have Ed at age 21 yrs old. Consumed for 1 month 1 week 1 time, and problem resolved permanently . This was introduced by my one of my fren who is a player.

For people with high blood pressure please do not finish the whole packet in 1 feeding session . Divide the contents into 4 parts .
 

Darthvaderxxx

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I still have a stash of it at home that i won't need anymore. Can give free satchel to test if interested . Do pm me and I can meet you below my block and pass you when I am free
 

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