slapurface
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My hubby n I wan to have a second child .. But tht means we must earn more money , have lesser time and most prob more quarrels ..
Cos we imagine I will be busy with little baby then I will shout at him to help me with the toddler who is either messing something or shouting for attention , then he either slow or clumsily help and get frustrated ..then I have to soothe the baby in hand , scold the toddler if he at fault then if still have patience , encourage my husband , if no more patience piss off at my husband ...... Then we also imagine if now 1 toddler we kind of take turns to eat when we go out then if two it will be worse ..
So in the end , although I have the mentality of have first then say , he rather give up the idea .. He is all stressed up when we imagine possible scenarios and the fact that our income cannot have any changes , if he Wana take a break from work , it's impossible alrdy ..
Any advice from parents of two ,threes ? Or of similar situation? Is it a toll on marriage IF u have no helper and u are not born with silver spoon ..
Cos we imagine I will be busy with little baby then I will shout at him to help me with the toddler who is either messing something or shouting for attention , then he either slow or clumsily help and get frustrated ..then I have to soothe the baby in hand , scold the toddler if he at fault then if still have patience , encourage my husband , if no more patience piss off at my husband ...... Then we also imagine if now 1 toddler we kind of take turns to eat when we go out then if two it will be worse ..
So in the end , although I have the mentality of have first then say , he rather give up the idea .. He is all stressed up when we imagine possible scenarios and the fact that our income cannot have any changes , if he Wana take a break from work , it's impossible alrdy ..
Any advice from parents of two ,threes ? Or of similar situation? Is it a toll on marriage IF u have no helper and u are not born with silver spoon ..