i have 3 boys (5yrs, 4yrs & 15mths). I am a FTWM without helper. (my helper left in end Apr) My 2 elder boys are in full day childcare. currently MIL is taking care of my youngest boy & at the same time cook dinner for the family. I will be sending my youngest one to childcare when he turns 24 mths. Since my MIL cooks dinner, everyday after work i will go back for dinner with the family and after that i will be washing the dishes while my hubby bath the boys. After that, we wash the boys' school clothings and we take our turns to shower so that there will be someone around to look after the kiddos. We will only put the wet clothings to dry on the rack after the boys goes to bed, around 10pm. So usually, my hubby and i free time will be at about 10.30pm when all the chores are done. Not easy, at times i do get very frustrated but i am happy that i do not need to put up with the maid's issue.