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cindy_goh

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Hi everyone

My name is cindy. I would like to ask if annyone of you have taken ba zhen after your period? My mum told me to take after my period every month say is good for health. But will it affect me as i want to conceive another child? because when i always drink the soup my period always come regular, that means not pregnant. So i hope someone can give me advice about it. And after having sex, how long do i need to stay still to let sperms get in? And can i visit the toilet about 2 hours after sex? I tried to conceive for quite sometime but no news yet. went for check ups and blood tests, everything came out fine. Doctor suggests i have sex everyday, but i find everyday a bit tiring. How many days of having sex if i want to get pregnant? Sory to trouble you. Hope to hear from someone soon.

Regards
cindy
 


Hi Cindy,

Besides working on yourself, you can ask DH to eat some nutritious stuff too. For example, just before I conceived, DH ate lots of oyster omelette (cooked by me). I bought frozen oysters from NTUC, approx 2 packets of oysters to 3 eggs (remove some yolk if you prefer, for health reasons). He would eat this at least 2-3 times/week. Oysters contain zinc which helps to improve sperm count and mobility

Another good stuff is japanese edamame. This contains high levels of protein, which is good for sperm reproduction as well. Both hubby and wife can eat this. Its delicious and healthy. NTUC also sell these in frozen packet form. (^_^)

Good luck!
 
Cindy,
tried to PM you but not able to.
Anyway, for the advice by doc to have sex everyday may be too hectic. I read that every alternate day during the ovulation period is enough, cos the sperms can survive up to 36 hrs. But you must know your fertile, ovulation time.
It is easy if your period is regular. mine is not, and hard to judge by cervical mucous, but i still ate those foods recmd in the net to make it fertile.

so doc did not give any other med?
(for the moment, u may consider not to eat any other topic, in case u worry about the effects, though I did try Chasteberry(vitex)), though doc dun advice so)

wat about body check on your partner?

its a tiring process for some of us, so just hang on and do the necessary...dun overwork on you and your partner.
 
Hi May and kimifin

Thanks for your advice. Actually both me and my hubby have done check-ups, turns out fine. Doctor finds it funny how come so long still not pregnant!! I found out my ovulation time in the internet. Dun know accurate or not, anyway just try. My period after giving birth to my daughter becomes less and lasts about 2-3 days only. My daughter is 5 this year. Told doc how come my period amount becomes less, he says it is not a problem. Or maybe the egg in me is weak or I am old already?? I am 35 this year. Sometimes i really find it very frustrating having to try and try, its really very tiring. At times i really want to give up. I wonder how come some people can conceive very fast and easily. Doctor gives me folic acid.

And how much does it costs to do an ivf?
 
hi cindy,

drinking ba zhen is to tiao yang body. coz if pregnant the herbs also do no harm.

most importantly u have to know your ovulation timing. the doc says have intercourse everyday is ridiculous! if your menses cycle is regular, u can track your ovulation period more accurately. from the internet, there r few methods (taking BBT body temp; monitor cervical mucus; using ovulation kits to test etc.) which did u use? N u can tell whether the method u r using is accurate by calculating backwards if your menses comes. For example, if Day 1 of your menses is today, u minus 14 days, estimated 23rd or 24th May might be the day u ovulate. N if u had intercourse alternative days between 20th May-26th May, then there would be chances of getting pregnant. If do everyday, there's also possibility of husband's sperms not so 'strong and active' to swim upwards.

after intercourse, lie down, raise your legs, prop up your hips using pillow to allow the sperm to flow in. on the question of how long to lie down after intercourse, prob 30 mins should be enough. although if u dun mind, can just sleep through.

with all these methods, one may not get pregnant easily too as there are other factors like age, luck etc.

but since your doc check both of u no problem, age 35 also can get pregnant. just relax n try.

before going into ivf, there are also other cheaper means like taking clomid (prescribed by gynae), IUI etc. maybe u can check n work out with your gynae.

The above are just my knowledge on the subject, can PM me if u need to ask me further. Good luck.
 
Cindy,
yah, Elmo is right, and I tried all those!

Did you do an X ray on the uterus? I did, and somehow, i read the it helps to "clear the tube"...for my case, it was initial tests cos my mens had been irregular and doc also wan to rule out any possibility of factors that reduce % of getting preg.
I took clomid, but the side effect is no good, dry cervical mucus, so I bought pre-seed (give the sperm a better environment to swim in).
End up, i conceived on the days where I din take clomid or use preseed, happen to take vitex those few days.
For the intercourse, better stick to the missionary, so that you always lie down on the bed...
 
Like Kimifin, I went for the xray as well. They injected some dye into my uterus and told me my fallopian tubes are blocked. Tt's why me and DH were planning for IVF starting July and we started to take it easy, enjoying sex and having sex coz we feel like doing so and not like being forced to do so.

That's why I was surprised by my pregnancy recently. Some forumners told me it could be the xray unblocking my tubes when they tried to force the dye into my fallopian tubes. Perhaps you should also go for detailed tests like this (if you have not already done so)?
 
May,

congrats! When are you due?
Same, for me, I went for the USG, and thought that that month just don't try so hard, cos worry the USG may have effect on my eggs(actually it wont cos of the days we were scheduled to go), and really saw from the net, many other mummies had the same surprise too!
 
cindy,
same as the ladies, clomid also din work for me as i have stubborn cysts (PCOS). i also went for HSG (injecting dye) upon gynae's recommendation to ensure my fallopian tubes are not blocked. Think any gynae who specialise in infertility would be able to recommend the various ways to help u and hubby base on your condition.
 
May,
I expecting #2 and she will be out in a mth's time.
Cos we tried quite long for #1, so start early this time, when #1 turns 1, we tried n strike the 1st mth.
Even my gynae was so surprised n happy to c me so soon!
He said my body has experienced with first one, second one comes fast lor...
Anyway, hopefully Cindy can relax n try. Of course must do some homewk lor with the dates n position ...
 
Hi, I am married for about 6months but unable to conceive I am not sure why can anyone advise what could be the probelm? I have not gone for any docter check ups yet but I am just worried what could be the cause?
 
Kimifin: wow..!! So zhun n lucky..!!! Haha.. Congrates to u..!! But ani specific things both u n ur hub eat..??
 
viki,
6 mths is still too early to worry abt. gynae would suggest u try at least 1 yr natural to get pregnant.

Start off with knowing your ovulation period and menses cycle well then have intercourse on your fertile days. if after 1 year of trying still no good news, if u have concerns on infertility, then seek a good gynae for some consultation.
 
T_T,
for #1, I tried vitex...#2, nothing in particular.

Viki,
also depends on your age and health.
I went to see gynae b4 marriage cos my menses were not regular. Then trying 6 mths, gynae also take action, checkups, then clomid, he actually planned me to do IUI if still not successful.

Ok, I believe in Fengshui, also consulted my master.
 
Oh, my fengshui is by friend, he is just free-lance job.
For the name, he recmd me Jingzilong, which I used for my #1.

Cos I find youlongzi too many ppl use, in case same as my sis.

You may need to let them know #1 name so that can take reference.
 
Hi
My gynae has advised me to do IUI as one of my fallopian tube is blocked. Currently i'm waiting for my next menses cycle to take clomide.
I'm having high hopes in going for IUI as i've been trying to conceive for 5 years.
Anyone has successful IUI story to share?
 
Hi Invigorate,

I had 3 IUIs, 2 failed and 1 successful. Now I have a 7 mth old daughter. My gynae is PC Wong from NUH. Sucess rate is highest in NUH &amp; KKH. Only if you fail IUI 5 times, then gynae will suggest IVF. Anyway, whatever IUI or IVF put you on a emotional roller coaster. That's why they don't encourage too soon for each cycle.
 
Invigorate,

Side effects of clomid for me is very dry down there.
Means is not a good enviroment for the sp* to survive.

I read up and tried to use Pre-seed during BD lor.
Not sure how IUI works with clomid, but thk u need to do some findings.

Other than pre-seed, I also read up on food to improve on the Cervical Mucous, eat grapefruit...thk got some other natural foods to help.
 
Hi, hope this is still active
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kimifin, how long did you try for your #1? I have been trying for 2 years now and no news at all. Both my hubby and my various tests turned out fine though I had slight PCOS but very regular menses. Now Im now Metformin, clomid and Gonal F. What is Vitex that you took? Btw, did you consult Fengshui master for your home fengshui?
 
Hi PhyLee,
cos my period had been irregular since sec sch days, so I am worried and look for gynae b4 getting married. Some tests were done but just some hormone imbalance. For #1, we tried about 6 mths, and doc felt the need to take action lor, go thru more tests + other med.
Vitex is chasteberry, if u search it helps in regulating menses.
For fengshui, we consulted for our home, but also highlighted to him we trying for bb, so he advised putting a pair of elephants at the bed specific area. Somehow, all things work together.
 
<font color="0077aa">Hi Kimifin> Which part of the bed do you put the pair of elephants?</font>
 
Hi Cindy,

I think one of the factors when trying for a baby is be relax and not over stress yourself in the process of it. While I understand most anticipating young couples want a baby so bad, they are willing to try anything.

At the end of the day, do remember to be in a relax and positive mood when trying for a baby. Sometimes, stress will affect the process of trying for a baby.

For me, I am a true believer of TCM. And having gone thru a exciting pregnancy (with many ups and downs with health), I learnt to accept that every mummy's body and health is different. I do not suggest you randomly try out chinese herbs, because it is by word of mouth recommendation. Bcos what works for one mummy, may not work on another. Unless you have a trustworthy TCM physician who knows your body well enough, to tell you what kind of herbs is useful for your body or not. Sometimes, our body can be too yin or too yang, and cannot take certain types of tonics.

I have one family TCM, whom I trusted and been with him for years. During my pregnancy, most of the Western doctors just gave me crabby medicine bcos i am pregnant...they are too scare to prescribe mediciation to me. Ends up, I suffer many weeks of sickness, due to their incompetency and poor medical sense.

I went to my TCM, he was able to prescribe chinese pills which is mild enough for pregnant mummy, at the same time nurse my body back to healthy state.

I have referred many of my friends to him, either for cyst removal (anything under 5cm in size) he can cure just by taking his chinese pills (no need to go for surgery), or for friends whom experiences excuriating pain every time during menses....and he manages to cure them. My friend does not even need to see a gynea. Or for young couple friends whom are trying for a baby. He is like the TCM version of gynea.

If you are keen, you can go to him. He is a family oriented TCM physician, so his timing is also rather fixed. If you are keen and want his contact, PM me.

Finally...may you have a baby very soon! Stay positive and Chirpy!!
 
Hi Cindy,

My advice to you is that both of you must regular sleeping 6 to 8 hrs and regular exercise is important for the guy....2 days a week ...running is the best.....45mins.

And do not work for long hour and try to stay stress free for you.

And try to eat more red meat.....for both of you.

Good luck ....3 months and you will have a good news for you and your partner.....

Best Regards
 
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folic acid is essential for the baby rapid development in the first few months of pregnancy to prevent birth defects. it is not to help u conceive easily.

Do start taking folic daily for at least 1 month (if u can) before TTC and keep taking til u jackpot and let gynae advise on folic acid pills dosage later on..
 
Hi all

I am cindy. Recently just known that i was pregnant. Thanks for all your advice. Was very happy that all efforts paid off after we tried so hard. May I know does all of you take milk every day? May I know which kind of milk does pregnant mothers take usually?
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Same as Cindy I must say my sinseh help me to conceive this baby
Also same as Kim I asked my feng shui lady for help had to carry elephant in my bag daily and 1 pair at home

I was on the verge of signing the ivf letter when baby came. My baby knows mummy is quarreling with kk hospital bcos of their lousy service and daddy has no time to go thru ivf ...

So to all relax. Dun add pressure live yr life normally and love yr partner more
 
Oops I mean chirpy who believe in tcm.... Sorry

Cindy, congrats. How many weeks r u now? I m 13 weeks and gg thru hard time. My stomach is always bloated. I can't drink milk, soyabean, chicken breast, some fishes. Once I have those I will have a terrible time. My gynae told me to give those up and wait... On the other hand my mum told me to try different brand of milk. Somehow one will b liked by my baby. So far I only try on sat... If anything happens I still have Sunday to rest
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Hi Ladies,

I've been trying to for my #2 for very long. Still no news. Miscarrige on my first IVF in 08. D&amp;C for 2 times. I'm already 39 this year. How? Can someone help me.
 
hi all,
i've also been trying for about 1yr + and finally am preggy nw..
seriously, i tink stress is a huge factor. if u can, take a long leave from work or quit and find a very easy job for awhile. cos for me, i was very stress and until recently, i decided to take a 3 month leave to relax, travel and ttc. and before my leave even arrive, cos i've handed over most of my work, i'm already preggy!

i was also seeing a tcm at marine parade, dr chan. the shop is an old medical hall place called Ban Choon Chan and it is at blck 81, marine parade. he was helping me "tiao li" my body cos my cycle is also very irregular. was on it since jan/ feb this year and finally after 7-8 months, succeeded..

i wish all here all the best and dun give up! baby dust to all!!
 
Hi all,
I have also been trying for #2 for a very long time. #1 came very easy... But haiz.... still no news on #2. not too sure if I have bf for too long n now tat I have stopped bf...menses came n the cycle was like from 28 days before pregnant to 37 now.. Getting stressed when people keep asking me when is #2 coming n keep hearing my colleague n if not their wife pregnant w 2nd child... Everybody was like keep looking @me for an answer also....
 
Hi just to share, a nurse at tmc once told me during my d&amp;c that easiest wat o conceive is to make a baby on the 10th day from ur day 1 of menstruation. I tried. It was super good. Tried twice twice work. No harm trying. But I sounded a lilltle silly telling my hubby , ' today is the say we shall make a bb..'
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Hi Eino,

Guess we are on the same boat. I have been trying for #2 for very very long time. We must Jia You!
 
Hi kimifin

Would appeciate if you could provide me more info on the fengshu. I had just failed my 2nd cycle of IVF. My DH &amp; I have try for 7 yrs.
 
Hi all need an advise I have missed my mensus suppose to be 1st oct as my last mensus was in Aug it was 7 Aug, 4 Sep then now in Oct should be earlier but I did not get my mensus...

I had some leg cramps and a little stomach cramp so i was thinking I might get mensus but till today I never get and I usually will get my mensus according to my dates and will never miss every month so can anyone advise on this as i was very curious i wanted to do a check a test bought the usual test kit from the pharmacy i know its very early but just wanted to check but it was negative...
Can I check with anyone if they have any experience like this and can you guys advice me on this i am trying for kid but it is so hard????
 
Hello Viki,

Me too.. menses was late like 4 days.. went to get the test kit.. and banged... NEGATIVE.. I am also getting all the preggy symptoms.. I guess,, I think too hard..

nevertheless, we just try harder...
 
Be4 i got preg, i took a lot of bai feng wan, xiao yao wan to help with my menses and 'tiao' my body. But then I later found out that I wasn't ovulating @ all! so my hubby suggested me to stop all medication or supplements i m taking. and volaa~~~ just 2mths in, and im preg with our 1st child liao!

so i think mayb u can juz stop takin ur supplements for a period of time &amp; monitor. who knows, maybe u will get preggie too! jia you!
 
Dear all ,
I missed my menses for 10 days &amp; I have tested with clearblue, it's positive !! But I m still a bit doubtful as I do not show any symptom n I m traveling next Monday.. What should I do ? Sigh .. So nervous
 
we had been TTC in 2009-2010, we had tried all method and my mensus was not regular. were seeing TCM / took clomids for 3 cycle / etc, but to no avail. then i decided to stop TCM starting this year and decided to try my own method.

we started to do regular excersise, jogging once every week for 1-2hr.

take vitamins below to boost up our body system.
* enzyme (concentrated)
http://hi.baidu.com/%B8%D2%CF%EB/blog/item/5c014573b8dad4108601b063.html
(sorry in chinese)
helps to release toxic in our body and helps the overall body condition

royal jelly
http://www.gnc.com.sg/product/01500030.aspx

at the same time, taking BBT daily by using previous month record as indication, before the day temperature drop (means you are ovulating on that day) use Ovulation Test Strips to test. when u see 2 lines mean u are ovulating after 24hr, after 24hrs u see the double lines u can intercourse with your partner.

you can buy the strips at link below:-
Http://babydusts.blogspot.com

i got conceived after 2nd trying using the Ovulation Test Strips/excercise/eyzme+royal jelly and im now 18wk preg.

most importantly you have to stay happy and relax in order to conceive sucessfully.

baby dust to all!
 
Hi gals, I have just BFP and have 2 new boxes of Pre-seed lubricant left unused. There are 6 pre-filled applicators per box. Expiry in Feb 2012. Anyone interested? I don't mind letting go cheap at S$30 for 2 boxes. Do email me at [email protected] if you're interested.

Wish all BFP soon
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hi all.. just happen to stumble on this thread and decided to read it cos i was also ttc-ing previously.. just wanted to share my story..

i started to ttc in 2nd half of 2009 then i went to gynae in july 2010 and he prescribed me clomid, and even doubled the dosage. After 3 cycles, i gave up with this doc. He's not that good and i dun feel that he's helping me. my menses not regular, so from july - dec, i had only 3-4 cycles.

so my hubby n I went to TCM doc in Jan 2011. the doc diagnose me and my hubby and gave us appropriate herbs to take to "tiao li" or regulate our body and make our bodies more suitable for conceiving. he also calculates the dates and tell u when to take the herbs and when to try more frequently. i see him every month when i didnt succeed and my menses came.

i religiously followed all his instructions, persevered &amp; after 8mths, in aug 2011, i finally succeeded. TCM takes a longer time to show it's effects. so if u see a tcm, dun give up too soon... (my tcm is at marine parade central, blk 81. very traditional type medical hall.. recommended by fren who also conceived after seeing this tcm doctor..) i'm now 22wks... =)

finally, dun give urself too much stress.. enjoy the process of love making, not do it becos u have a mission. i was planning on a europe trip and my mind was completely off the bb making thing and to be frank, we only did 3-5 times in Aug.. haha cos we was too bz planning for the trip and viola.. it happened... so in the end, we cancelled the trip and focus our energy and money on the pregnancy..

of cos, other than docs, u need to lead a healthier lifestyle.. exercise more, healthy eating, less alcohol, cut smoking, slp early, and most important of all, relax and be happy..

i wish everyone good luck! baby dust to all!
 

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