Hi,
I need advice
I am married for 12 years with two children,
11 and 9
Things turn sour after marriage, when i found that i am pregnant at 6 weeks.
My MIL says that she cant take care during confirmement, my mom offer to do it for me. MIL is unhappy and threaten me to take baby away from me. MIL lies to me commenting on my dressing while my husband stood still and ask me to keep quiet.
After moving into their house, my MIL shouted rude words at me just because my husband made a glass of milk in the morning for me (just once) .
After child birth, my MIL who claims that she wanted to help take care of grandson, did not chip in to help. Not even to carry. A month later, i fell sick and ask my mom for help. I moved back.
Hubby ask his mum why she didnt help, she say she will not change her ways.
We continue to stay at my mums, while they come and go as they please and did not come at a fix day. Baby naturally reject them as baby does not recognise them. I told them either they come every week or they dont come.
This is how i forbid my husband family from seeing my kids. When the second one arrive, i also forbid.
Every year my husband will ask to bring them back, but the unresolve bothers me. There are so many questions that was unsolved.
This year, my husband says that her mum is gettin old 60, and should see the grand kids. I ask for a proper meet up dinner then. He says his mother will never change and therefore i should change on my side on his behalf.. to me, its a separate issue. However,he says no and threaten with a divorce.
Am i too much, to ask to be present ?
Am i asking too much to ask why am i mistreated in in the first place.
I need advice
I am married for 12 years with two children,
11 and 9
Things turn sour after marriage, when i found that i am pregnant at 6 weeks.
My MIL says that she cant take care during confirmement, my mom offer to do it for me. MIL is unhappy and threaten me to take baby away from me. MIL lies to me commenting on my dressing while my husband stood still and ask me to keep quiet.
After moving into their house, my MIL shouted rude words at me just because my husband made a glass of milk in the morning for me (just once) .
After child birth, my MIL who claims that she wanted to help take care of grandson, did not chip in to help. Not even to carry. A month later, i fell sick and ask my mom for help. I moved back.
Hubby ask his mum why she didnt help, she say she will not change her ways.
We continue to stay at my mums, while they come and go as they please and did not come at a fix day. Baby naturally reject them as baby does not recognise them. I told them either they come every week or they dont come.
This is how i forbid my husband family from seeing my kids. When the second one arrive, i also forbid.
Every year my husband will ask to bring them back, but the unresolve bothers me. There are so many questions that was unsolved.
This year, my husband says that her mum is gettin old 60, and should see the grand kids. I ask for a proper meet up dinner then. He says his mother will never change and therefore i should change on my side on his behalf.. to me, its a separate issue. However,he says no and threaten with a divorce.
Am i too much, to ask to be present ?
Am i asking too much to ask why am i mistreated in in the first place.