Hb have a very close rs w his mom. And my mil is v clingy type and super those manipulate type also. Everything also want to control.
Mil and i just really couldn’t get along and worse is hb always chose to side her when i talked the problems with him. I just wish he can “sided” me more and stand in my shoe too yet he find that i am the one being unreasonable.
We have been quarrel of this matter(me and mil stuff) alot times alrdy...
I'm in the similar situation as you, just that am the opposite sex. Probably may end up divorce, and all thanks to my PIL, especially my MIL...
My wife is the only child/daughter of them. Since young, they both doted her alot, and gave her the best they can. During our dating period, it was kind of tough for us, as they will set rules like, to be home by 11pm, and no overnight stay. Even when we go for holidays, max is only 3 days, and only once per year. However we still overcome it together and I gave in to her as I love her a lot too.
Before marriage, we have an agreement that to stay at her house for one year, before staying back at my own house. My parents left me few years before our marriage, and left the house for me. Anyway, I stayed at their house for 1 year, with many restrictions as well, but I'm in a way 'enduring' as I have hope that after the one year, things will be better when we moved back to my own house. Some restriction during the stay is like, no locking of room, even when we are sleeping. Have to let her daughter (my wife) be with them for some 'personal time' without me per week. Like Sunday, my wife will accompany them go marketing or shopping or what, without me joining them. I continued endure...
After the one year, we moved back to our own house. I thought things will be better but it's becoming worst. My MIL will pop by at times (without us knowing even). Be it day or night, and on any days. She have the keys to our house though as 'claimed' that she will come by to help us clean up the house when she's free. Even though I told her I can employ a maid or part time cleaner to do so, she does not allow, and said its a waste of money. Told me to save so that can give my wife a better life.
My MIL also like to pick on me, and often talk bad about me when with my wife. (Till now, Sunday is still 'their' personal time without me). My wife and I argue quite a lot about these at times. To be honest, though I dislike my MIL, but still I do my very best to make her happy. I treat her like my own mother as I lost mine already. But it just never satisfy her. Even during weekday (3 times per week), we still go to their house for dinner. We too like our personal time but we still made an effort to accompany them.
My wife will always stand by her parents side whenever I 'complained' about them, especially my MIL. She will always says that I'm being unreasonable... I understand she's the only child hence she's being filial to them, I also understand. But not to this kind of extend. Is really too much...
I don't know what to do already. These few days I've been thinking... Did I chose the wrong path? Should I just leave so that she can spend all her time with her parents? Sigh....