Am also a christian mum in Hougang looking for mummies to bring our kids to go swimming or lunch together. Or is the support group formed? Bible study not possible for me as gal is autistic runs around and screams. But don't mind prayer support lor. I don't mind if it's done in my house except house is like struck with tornado... I don't mind paying if you offer to help clean my house together while your kid play with my gal's slide/swing/coupe car, hamsters and guinea pigs lol I NEED MOTIVATION!
I stay at Avenue 10... sorry sorry have been searching for special needs group haven't been checkig this thread either... wah, 3 kids.. i salute you marmum.. pay cleaning up my house haha but can afford a token as I don't have income from hubby. I can only pay $20 per mth for picking up toys, mopping and ironing. I will also do together, just that I never do housework my whole life one i cannot stand ppl criticise me lor... plus my marriage down the drain I lagi no heart... Stephanie, Kiddo, when you come back to check this thread tell us where you stay. We can maybe all meet up at Hougang Mall for lunch then go playground/arcade!!
haha, it's not clean lor.. once in 2-3 wks proper mop sometimes just use magic clean. Mostly toys are everywhere. forget about my request.. but i'm open for your kids to come then I will make myself do tidy up to "look good" haha.. so where you go for shopping? Avenue 1 still considered from me right?
I thought nowadays if no maid with 3 kids and above it's almost impossible to get out of the house. Im stuck at home all the time. Still got time to do bible study? I want also but everything no time...
i dun leave kids there every weekend. cos my parents need a rest also. and i dun leave all 3 there. ur parents or in-laws not able to babysit for a few hours on weekends or certain weekdays for you to have a breather?? or relatives or neighbours?
hey dodos, my in-laws and own mum the same! want their own life! self-centred right?! Haiyo, i thought i'm the only one who have parents and in-laws like that.. some more my girl diagnosed with asd I have no choice to dump her at in-laws and see their tong yam juice face. they are like you better feed her first before u come lor, so i dun hv to do anything and just play with her. Like I give them grandchild to play only and not taking any responsibility lor!! damn pissed. u attending which church?
can understand how you guys feel about not having parents or in-laws to help. my parents in law not able to help too cos my mil is forever busy with work even during weekends or PH. My fil travels for work very often. Better not reveal too much details cos anyone can see.... we can meet up to chat if you guys want.
My parents are working... so not every weekend they will want my kids over cos they need to rest and wants to do their own things. Even if my kids go over, max is 2 kids. But I can understand how they feel. My mum ever said that when I have my no. 3, she'll quit her work to look after my kids so I can go out and work... but now, she knows she can't handle. ha ha....
Not trying to 说教 here, but they looked after us for so long... I guess it's right for them to reject looking after our kids. Although sometimes it is irritating that when we need help or a break, no one can help. Last Nov i brought my 2 youngest on a trip, then my eldest have to be like a superman flying from one hse to another cos no one able to help for a whole stretch. So that will be the one and only time this will happen.
So I've been nagging this to my hb and the only solution is to find a nanny who stays near our house and let the kids go over every now and then for them to get used. So in the event that we need to have someone looked after them, there's is 'someone'. But of cos, we have to pay for it.
Sometimes, if you have friends who are able to help may be good too...
I'm at Paya Lebar Chinese Methodist Church. The one at Upper Paya Lebar Road.
FYI marmum, my mother didn't look after me till I was 5 yrs old. She NEVER TOOK CARE OF ME. When I came over to SG, it was my grandma who did all the looking after AND cooking. And both she and my in-laws are not working now. They have lots of time but the reason was she have no confidence. What's there for them to do except to just ensure they don't run to the kitchen to play with knives or fire? My girl practically can sit through hours watching tv and they could lie down on the sofa even to watch them. They are not crippled or anything and my girl understands instructions. But for my brother's kids different lor, she'll even go over to their place. Her "first child first grandchildren" is NUMBER 1 lor! Even when I asked if she's coming to hospital after i gave birth she said she wouldn't be going to visit me! I mean there's lots of things i can go on about her being the cause of me having post natal depression and all, but what I want to tell you is, get the picture of our mothers first before saying we are not being understanding to them. There are parents out there who run away from responsibilities, who don't like to be asked favours from and who only care about their own lives ok.
hihi was looking for some christian sahm to mingle with whn i saw this thread.
am also a christian sahm to a 27 mth old. like some of u i dun have help from parent or pil.
btw just wan to share a personal experience, since my bb bcame a toddler n is fully capable of turning the house into a war aftermath, n my increased responsibility (cooking proper meals, potty training mess, laundry,etc) i found myself often exploding into fits of rage, esp whn I am a person who cant tolerate untidiness n dirt. was really on the verge of breaking down
thn somehow God kind of spoke to me through my dds book. I bought her a book called Mary Martha and Jesus. N I am reminded of how I am like Martha so engrossed with housewrk tht I have forgot to give Him time, give Him utmost priority.
I dun get so agitated anymore over the mess my dd makes. Like Mary, I must learn to choose right.
Good for you jo! Yah, I tend to get upset with the mess too but I learnt to live with it and weigh the importance. Be an angry mother all the time and model your child to become like one too or be patient? get bitter and angry with family of being deprived of your own time to do things you like or just leave the mess? Just remember building right character is more important than building personal habits.
Hi ladies, i just happen to browse through and saw this thread, wonder if I'm too late to join you ladies. I'm an expecting mum, now in my 5th mth. I was laid off by my employer during my 4th mth pregnancy, now I'm bored and helpless staying at home. I would be interested to join you girls in prayer support group, if you are having one. Great to see fellow sisters encouraging one another through social media like this, look forward to hear from you girls soon.
Hi lili gal, thanks for responding to my msg. Congratulations, I'm sure it's an exciting journey to have a no. 2 kid coming.
It was a long story. I join this company as a sales person in April this year, without knowing that the team I joined has been in the reds for more than a year. It was not an easy job to penetrate our business into new customers. When I was 4 mths pregnant, which was nearing the end of my probation, my company decided to close down this team which consists if 3 of us. Being the newest in the team, I was asked to either resign or be terminated, either case be given 1 month pay. At a lost, a few of my friends suggested going to MOM for advice. I was told by MOM that they have no employment terms to protect we pregnant mums from being terminated but my company is obligated to give me a 4-mths maternity compensation. So here I am today, living on this compensation since last mth till my baby deliver. Talk about 4 mths maternity leaves, that's not for me.
In fact, in the last 1 wk, I have heard of a few other mums who were terminated by their employers during their pregnancy. Recently a case was mentioned in ST Forum but today MOM's role does not protect against job security. So there is no law in Singapore that protect pregnant mums at all.
Hi Lyd hi lili, I don't think there were any support groups formed. Tried to arrange meet ups with mummies from SMH to go Vivo but with no avail. All mums are too busy even arranging nearby moms it's very difficult. My girl is a special needs child so it's pretty difficult for me to interact as well. But if you ladies are keen to go for morning shows (Mums&Babes) at Plaza SG let me know.