mummy201114
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Hi Mummies,
I am new to this forum. So please endure with me.
I am a mother to 2 children. My older one is 2 1/2 year old and my second is 3 months. Since day one my older son has been looked after at home by my mum. Hardly socialise as we have no other children in our family. Occasionally, we would bring him out to the play ground and all but mostly he was at home. And being at home he will occupy him time be playing the I PAD. Must say he is pretty good at it too.
About 6 months back I noticed that he doesn't like to communicate with people. Prefers to be left alone withhis Ipad. Also his speech was getting delayed. Doesn't even respond to us calling him. Also he was in the habit of putting things in his mouth. This worried me and my husband, unfortunately at that time I was expecting my second one and we were moving out from my mum's place to my own.
My hubby and I intended to put my son in half day childcare as we thought it would open him up and he would be more sociable. So last week he started his childcare. But even after the first day we had a lot of complaints from his teachers. They said that he was always crying, doesn't listen to instructions. Don't want to socialise with the other children, etc... and the list can go on. Mind you my son was only in the 1/2 day programme.
On his 3rd day he caught the cold and the school said it was better if I kept him at home after seeing the doc. I did so. So last Monday I brought him to school as per normal and this time after I left about an hour he vomited and the school asked me to bring him back. I did so. This time I went to the class itself to pick my son. Was surprised to see that my son was sitting on a chair, whereas the rest of the kids in his class was sitting on the floor having circle time. Probably due to my facial reaction was told immediately by the teacher that my son doesn't like mixing with the other kids and prefer to be left alone. Also i was asked why did he drool so much. I didn't know what to do or say just took my son and left. Brought him immediately to see a doc.
i asked the doc regarding my son's behaviour, she asked me with regards to his motor skills. He doesn't have a problem with that. She then told me he is probably a bit slow in speech and just encourage him to speak more that home. Other than that nothing seems to be wrong with him.
The next day I did not send him to childcare cause I was worried that he might vomit once again and would be sent back home. Cause he hasn't recovered from his cold throughly yet. Today when I brought him to school I was told by the school that they have a hard time looking after my son. As he needs a lot of attention. The teachers are not able to cope up with him around. The other students are very independent and my son is very "needy".
They advised me to send him to another school with a 2 hour programme instead. Told me once he started to interact and get along with others then bring him back and they can take him in.
I have no idea what to do now. Confused and upset if my son is autistic? Is the childcare fair by giving up on him after just 3 half days or does he just more time to adjust? I am so confused. I have made any appt with the child development specialist at kkh. But they can only see him on the 15th. If indeed my son has been diagnosed as autistic what should I do? Can he attend normal school?
Can Mummies out there guide me. I am feeling so lost. Please help.
I am new to this forum. So please endure with me.
I am a mother to 2 children. My older one is 2 1/2 year old and my second is 3 months. Since day one my older son has been looked after at home by my mum. Hardly socialise as we have no other children in our family. Occasionally, we would bring him out to the play ground and all but mostly he was at home. And being at home he will occupy him time be playing the I PAD. Must say he is pretty good at it too.
About 6 months back I noticed that he doesn't like to communicate with people. Prefers to be left alone withhis Ipad. Also his speech was getting delayed. Doesn't even respond to us calling him. Also he was in the habit of putting things in his mouth. This worried me and my husband, unfortunately at that time I was expecting my second one and we were moving out from my mum's place to my own.
My hubby and I intended to put my son in half day childcare as we thought it would open him up and he would be more sociable. So last week he started his childcare. But even after the first day we had a lot of complaints from his teachers. They said that he was always crying, doesn't listen to instructions. Don't want to socialise with the other children, etc... and the list can go on. Mind you my son was only in the 1/2 day programme.
On his 3rd day he caught the cold and the school said it was better if I kept him at home after seeing the doc. I did so. So last Monday I brought him to school as per normal and this time after I left about an hour he vomited and the school asked me to bring him back. I did so. This time I went to the class itself to pick my son. Was surprised to see that my son was sitting on a chair, whereas the rest of the kids in his class was sitting on the floor having circle time. Probably due to my facial reaction was told immediately by the teacher that my son doesn't like mixing with the other kids and prefer to be left alone. Also i was asked why did he drool so much. I didn't know what to do or say just took my son and left. Brought him immediately to see a doc.
i asked the doc regarding my son's behaviour, she asked me with regards to his motor skills. He doesn't have a problem with that. She then told me he is probably a bit slow in speech and just encourage him to speak more that home. Other than that nothing seems to be wrong with him.
The next day I did not send him to childcare cause I was worried that he might vomit once again and would be sent back home. Cause he hasn't recovered from his cold throughly yet. Today when I brought him to school I was told by the school that they have a hard time looking after my son. As he needs a lot of attention. The teachers are not able to cope up with him around. The other students are very independent and my son is very "needy".
They advised me to send him to another school with a 2 hour programme instead. Told me once he started to interact and get along with others then bring him back and they can take him in.
I have no idea what to do now. Confused and upset if my son is autistic? Is the childcare fair by giving up on him after just 3 half days or does he just more time to adjust? I am so confused. I have made any appt with the child development specialist at kkh. But they can only see him on the 15th. If indeed my son has been diagnosed as autistic what should I do? Can he attend normal school?
Can Mummies out there guide me. I am feeling so lost. Please help.