BEWARE: Confinement Lady Low also known as Nanny Happy

minminmin

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Dear mummies, I am doing my confinement now and the above confinement nanny is my greatest nightmare and fear now.

As I had given birth a month in advanced, she got her friend to be help me for the first two weeks. Her friend was wonderful and took very good care of my baby and myself.

On the 16th of May 2014, she was supposed to take over the replacement nanny. She told the replacement nanny that she would arrive at about 12pm. The standard timing as what I understood from the replacement nanny was that the nannies were supposed to leave between 10am to 12pm. My replacement nanny waited till 1.30pm and there was still no news from the above nanny.

We tried calling her a few times but to no availability. At about 2pm, we managed to get hold of her and she said she would reach about 3pm. At 4pm, there was still no sign of her and again, she did not picked up her phone calls from the replacement nanny or myself.

My replacement nanny had to return to Malaysia and she left at 6pm with my approval as we could not get hold of the above nanny. I tried calling and calling her but she did not picked up my phone calls. I gave up and finally at about 730pm, she called and said there was something wrong with her phone and she would be arriving soon. Finally, at 830pm she arrived at my door step. Not wanting to create a scene since we would be living together for the next two weeks and thinking that she was caught in the jam at customs, I did not want to pursue the matter of her lateness. It was only through conversations the next day that she spilled the beans that she went shopping and thus explained her lateness!

Anyway, to cut the story short, her actions were weird and her behavior was too. She would come into my room at 7am when my husband and I were both sleeping and pushed herself to the edge of my bed and sat down stroking me asking what we wanted to eat for dinner. She also would come into my room when I was resting and sit on my bed and tell me grandmother stories about her experience as a confinement nanny for a few hours despite me telling her I wanted to rest. She also picked up my baby only when it is feeding time and then after burping her, just put her in the cot and sleep or shove my baby to me as she has a lot of calls and was on the phone practically from 5am till 1am. Yes, she does not sleep or rest.

The ultimate was when I woke up one day and realized she moved all my furniture in my living room and my display items all over my house. She even took out stuff from my storeroom to display out and opened up the bird nests that my friends gifted me during my hospital stay to display in my kitchen. I already had a lot of unopened bird nest in the fridge and she just had to open all the new ones in the boxes. I told her off for messing up my house and she insisted she was doing me a favour by redecorating my house in preparation for my baby shower which is 2 weeks away!

I then terminated her as I could not live with her and my nightmare begins! She calls me and my husband in the wee morning 1am 2am. She came up my house to make a din outside and attempted to open my door and banging and banging too. Now, as we do not pick up her calls, she got a MBS casino restaurant staff to call us and said she needed our assistance as she is unwell and wanted my husband to bring her to see a doctor as she worked for us before. I have terminated her 6 days ago!!!!

This above nanny is crazy. Please beware of her as I highly suspect she has some mental problems. She told us she has a lot of people waiting to hire her and she was even offered to go US to do confinement for people and do not know the rates and needed to ask fellow nannies. I was telling my friend whom recommended her to me and she said she said the exact same thing 4 yrs ago!!!! She even went up to my friend's place two days after I terminated her saying that I suffer from post natal depression and terminated her and since she has no place to go, she wanted to stay at my friend house for a night!
 
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sorry for reviving such an old post, but we are 2 weeks into hiring her as our confinement nanny and would like to provide an update on her..

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update & edit:

madam low has finally left my place, and here's my story..

she is definitely the same person(same name same number) but nowhere the same nutcase that was highlighted the earlier post.

she has looked after the mummy and baby well. she cooks well with variety, only overly salty on the odd days. she initially prepared breakfast for daddy, only to say she does not do that after a few days. it is understandable that she is not obliged to do so, but preparing it for a few days and not doing so on the next, and then ask if daddy wants to eat after he is prepared to eat out- she could have just said it from the start and not let daddy have expectations only to have his morning spoilt. she prepares 3 meals for the mummy.

i regret telling her to help herself to the kitchen because she kinda made a mess, at least not to my likings. ok, at least she puts almost everything back on her last day. she mops the kitchen after every meal preparation. houseowners with OCD or cannot stand oily floors should avoid her because the kitchen remains oily after mopping.

in general, she..
1) lacks respect to our properties- not sure if her hands are full, but 8/10 times she slams the fridge. i grew up with my dad scolding me for even slamming it once! she only asked if we have a preference for which knife or side of the chopping board for meat and vege, after that she would just randomly pick up a bucket and use it as a rubbish bin in the kitchen. granted that bucket itself was a bin before, but surely she can ask if we mind because I deliberately bought a big one with cover! i also asked if she needs a pot for brewing the mummy's bath sachet, she said no. the reason I asked was because I got a old one from my friend, which they also used it solely for that purpose. i understand that those are herbs, generally harmless, but since I already had a pot for that purpose, she doesn't have to use my steamboat for it! i also caught her trying to block my vacuum robot from cleaning which I got no idea why. she only moved aside after I said it will jam.

2) lacks basic courtesy- not sure if she has been doing this and condoned of this behavior throughout 10 over years experience, I find her not informing us of buying extra stuff for herself with the groceries. it really isn't about the value because she only bought a tin of danish biscuits and milo, but when I asked her the next time why she bought coconut water when she already know mummy doesn't take packet drinks, she just replied "for myself lah!". i don't think I have underpaid her since I did not negotiate her fees, so already covering her lodging and meals, I don't see why she should buy snacks without informing us in advance. our bosses don't reimburse our starbucks coffeebreaks right?

3) kinda take the daddy for granted- daddy brought her to the market once to familiarize the route. for the benefit of her doubt, daddy went with her again. when rejected to go with her the third time, she just went "harrr?!". she was told and accepted that the daddy will not always go market with her, so her that "what??!" response was really kinda rude.

she on the whole is quite responsible since she does what she needs to do own-time-own-target, only her habits and tone in replying frustrate the daddy. she also does the laundry for the mummy and baby, feeds, and changes the baby diapers without being called.

there is also issue that she was under police investigation, so she is given a special pass for her stay in Singapore. she said her investigation is due to overreaction from her employer, but there was no way I could verify with MOM and SPF.
 
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pregnancy is hard enough...i really dont see why must we give such people a second chance. some mistakes might not cause any permanent damage but imagine if she did harm to the baby ? why risk ?
 

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