from what i understand, for the preggy is ok, but the thing is the couple, as long as newly wed don't mind, it is ok for preggy to attend. Cos supposedly, pregnant woman is "stronger" than the newly wed and will sort of suppress the "xi qi" of the newly wed, so some newly wed or parents will mind. I have informed one of my friends that I am preggy and if she is ok, she was rather straight forward to tell me that her parents will mind and so she chose not to send invitation to me which both of us are ok with that.
For full month, my CL told me that you have to inform the parents if they feel that the baby is the pantang kind, they will not invite you. But actually as long as preggy carry the newborn, they will not be afraid anymore. Cos the pantang saying goes that newborn are petty towards the unborn child and will cry a lot after they saw the pregnant lady but once you carry the baby, they will not be petty already (cos share love ah). Well, depending on how pantang the other party is.
I also think it is ok to attend a wedding even if you are pregnant. But what I knew that pregnant women should not attend is a funeral. Many told me not to attend a friend's funeral when I was pregnant. I just don't understand why.
[IMG=http://www.singaporemotherhood.com/forumboard/clipart/happy.gif] saw this thread just in right moment! Was just debating with my hubby just now regarding this issue. I also think that by attending wedding dinner should be ok, cos its like a celebration for the couple and not really the tea ceremony where all the Xi qi is there? Hmm..dunno. But like you ladies mentioned, will check with the couple first..
for my cousin wedding last yr (preggie with #2), i did not attend the tea ceremony in the morning, but went for the wedding dinner. to me, the wedding dinner is like a 9/10 course meal in a restuarant/hotel. furthermore, the tea ceremony has happened at the auspicious hr in the morning...
month old celebration ===> my mum also advised me not to attend, afraid that the happy event will 冲 my unborn baby but i still go. but i did not eat the red eggs/cakes
funeral ===> did not attend at all, even the 白金 i did not even give. if my hb attend a wake, his clothes (wore to the wake) will be washed separately from mine.
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