any 35 and above trying for their first?

halo littlecappacino, which gynae did ur sista see? can recommend. am 39 and desperately trying to get preggie.
 


After reading the posts, i asked my husband to go with me to Clementi Blk 433 to look for Dr Tan last year. There were too many appointments and we can only have our first appointment on 3rd January. However i am with my period but was advised to go ahead with the appointment by the nurse. Dr Tan arranged my husband to go for sperm test while i go on medication. And today we had our 2nd appointment, my husband's sperm has poor motility and viability thus Dr Tan advised my husband to go for acupuncture and medication. I am going to brew for him the "famous" fish maw soup to nourish him, hopefully he can accept the taste. Similarly i had the acupuncture, its not as pain as expected but the mixture of many sachet of medicated powder (appro. 20 sachets) taste disgusting! The first appointment cost us $98 and sperm test $80.25 and 2nd appointment costs us totally $222.50
Will keep those who is keen in our TTC-ing journey updated.
 
hi all. im not 35 but i can understand what you all are going through. i tried since last year to have a child but still nothing. feel even more sian cos we are not even past 30 so thought should have been okay but months later, here we are still nothing. my colleague who was not even trying for a kid got pregnant, my sister in law got pregnant after 3 months into her marriage even though i was expected to have the first kid in the family. why does it seem so unfair???? here i am yearning so much to start a family but bfn bfn all the time. it's emotionally draining because i cry every time my period comes. i feel like losing hope. =_(
 
Dear all, I'm turning 38 this year and started ttc-ing since 2012 after I got married. Within 3 cycles of trying, I fell pregnant the same cycle I did HSG (a procedure to check for blockage in fallopian tubes where dyes are used and you will be scanned/x-rayed) and my gynae was upset coz she said I am not supposed to fall pregnant that cycle fearing the x-ray dye may not have completely been flushed out resulting in complications. In any case, I miscarried naturally shortly after at about 5 weeks to my gynae's relief. I was upset with her insensitivity and unloving attitude. So that was Sep 2012.

Changed gynae thereafter and started seeing a fertility specialist. We did 2 rounds of SO IUI (I had to jab myself daily up till ovulation, no big deal really, easy pen like jab and almost painless like a bite) and still to no avail. I was told I'm mildly PCOS and I have a super long cycle when without assisted with jabs. My cycles were as long as 52 days but I did chart bbt religiously and learn that my luteal phase is good, in the range of 12/13 days. Our menstrual cycle is formed up by 2 phases, the follicular phase which is the period where you menstruate and before you ovulate. The period after your menstruate is the luteal phase before next menses begin. Usually follicular phase may be inconsistent for some ladies who have irregular menses, but luteal phase is almost always constant with only a day difference between cycles. As long as your luteal phase is longer than 10 and shorter than 16 days, you have a healthy luteal phase. Tracking bbt allows me to be aware of my body and know that I have ovulated. Which is very helpful. Coz really, the fertile window is only 6 days max, the 4/5 days before you ovulate, the day of ovulation and perhaps the day after. Best is the day before ovulation. To know that, you wll have to track bbt for 3 cycles and see your own pattern. I use www.fertilityfriend.com apps to track bbt. Really good, they analyse your data for you.

Anyways, beginning of 2013, we decided to change to another fertility specialist and started with one round of clomid cycle, where I fell pregnant only to get a chemical pregnancy with very low hcg and eventually menses started. That was May 2013 and my gynae classified this as a miscarriage as well.

Thereafter, we tried 2 rounds of SO IUI, first round failed coz I didnt ovulate at all. I was still tracking my bbt and it showed. Second round was good, fell pregnant with twins in late Aug only to discover blighted ovum at later scans. Waited a while more to make sure it was really empty sac before I did a suction D&C in late Oct 2013. So that was my third miscarriage.

We started seeing another TCM (if you are familiar with TCS Mark Lee who shared that both his wife and him had been trying for 8 years before they finally conceived story, you will be familiar with this TCM) at Upper cross street. Both hubs and I had to brew herbs and I am more than happy to do so as long as I see hope.

We planned to try again come March after we have tuned our bodies with the help of this fertility specialist TCM. So it was no longer as tensed as before. I was waiting for my menses to start, looking forward to a new cycle after my D&C. I was told the new cycle could start anytime from 4-8 weeks after the surgery. I started charting bbt again sometime in late Nov and when i saw lots of EWCM (egg whitish cervical mucus), I knew I was about to ovulate and that means i should be getting a period in 14 days latest. And from my bbt chart, true enough, my temp showed I ovulated the day after seeing lots of EWCM. We did the deed as a couple, without baby making in mind of coz.

And by the grace and mercy of GOD, we have been blessed! My hubs believe it was the TCM herbs that helped! He had some slight issue with sperm quality which can be easily resolved through the help of proper diet, TCM and supplements. And I reckon the same, plus I went on two weeks confinement after my D&C coz i was told a D&C is as damaging as having delivered 3 to 5 times. My mom did the confinement for me, with her fabulous cooking skills. I had lots of dang gui steamed threadfin, sesame oil chicken, pork trotters vinegar, herbal soup on daily basis and dong cong cai with lean pork twice a week. I believe this diet strengthened my body, plus my 'post natal' massage. Yes, I got a massage lady to do me for 3 consecutive days with the wrap. The massage is supposed to dispel wind and remove all blood clots if any. So you get a strong and clean womb with uterus back in shape to start with. Of course there was a follow up with my gynae two weeks after the surgery which showed everything in order.

This time it is all natural, and we are saying prayers daily to thank GOD for keeping us in his blessings all through this difficult journey. I have not passed the first trimester but it is the first time we came to this far (9 weeks+), seeing, hearing and measuring a strong heartbeat and I certainly look forward to each gynae visit to get assurance that little one is progressing well. Our daily prayers keep me sane, coz with my history of repeated miscarriages and coming of age, you can understand how every sign identified or missing can drive me mad! I was initially reluctant to say much since I have not come out of the woods so to speak till first trimester is safely over, and was afraid of taboo. But after reading some posts above, I felt the need to share my journey and keep everyone going strong. I hope I do not have to go through another round. Praying for God's mercy everyday.

I am sharing my story hoping that you will all be motivated in this TTC journey and know that you are not alone in this uphill task which many will not understand. To go through one miscarriage is painful enough, three is devastating. The pain will never go away but I know GOD has a reason.

Btw, we started seeing a new gynae for a change of environment and not be reminded of negativity. I love my gyane Dr Kowa Nam Sing from Mt E. Very reassuring and he makes me feel cared for.

As for the fertility specialist TCM, here's the contact:
Health & Beauty Pte Ltd
Traditional Chinese Medicine Centre
No 38, Upper Cross Street, Singapore 65344131 (by appointment only)
Consulting hour: 3-8pm (Mon, Wed, Fri)
Ask for Chen Qiu Mei yishi.
(it's along the row of shophouses located right opp Chinatown Point facing the multi-storey carpark)

May God bless all of you, and have faith.
 
Am really very disturbed. have been TTC and was seeing a gynae in Bishan..but nothing happened. So seeking my friend's advise went to TMC to see a gynae to have 2nd opinion. All that he told me was....I dun want to see u and waste ur time and my time. If you are younger I will treat u....and I think u should jus go kkh and do ivf. omg...how blunt can a gynae be. Its already very devastating ttc....and no assurance or reaffirmation. Am so disturbed mentally and emotionally.
 
Am really very disturbed. have been TTC and was seeing a gynae in Bishan..but nothing happened. So seeking my friend's advise went to TMC to see a gynae to have 2nd opinion. All that he told me was....I dun want to see u and waste ur time and my time. If you are younger I will treat u....and I think u should jus go kkh and do ivf. omg...how blunt can a gynae be. Its already very devastating ttc....and no assurance or reaffirmation. Am so disturbed mentally and emotionally.
That's terrible!!! Which gynae said that?
There are many TTC in their late thirties n forties very common now. I suggest u go find a gynae who is fertility expert n not normal gynae.
 
Am really very disturbed. have been TTC and was seeing a gynae in Bishan..but nothing happened. So seeking my friend's advise went to TMC to see a gynae to have 2nd opinion. All that he told me was....I dun want to see u and waste ur time and my time. If you are younger I will treat u....and I think u should jus go kkh and do ivf. omg...how blunt can a gynae be. Its already very devastating ttc....and no assurance or reaffirmation. Am so disturbed mentally and emotionally.
My first gynae from TMC was insensitive too. Imagine she looked relieved when I had a miscarriage with no words of apologies.

Change a gynae, i believe in chemistry. Some just don't click.

Perhaps go to a fertility specialist like Dr L C Cheng or Dr S F Loh at TMC? Not sure if the one who was brutally blunt with you is either one of them. But really, if we do not need help, why would we bother going to a specialist. So they should really by sensitive enough to address our concerns.

Please do not be despair, I know it's easier said than done. Just know you are not alone and you will see light one day. God bless.
 
Thanks for the kind words and encouragement waiwish. Like u said..if its so easy, why would I want to get help and no chemistry.
 
Am really very disturbed. have been TTC and was seeing a gynae in Bishan..but nothing happened. So seeking my friend's advise went to TMC to see a gynae to have 2nd opinion. All that he told me was....I dun want to see u and waste ur time and my time. If you are younger I will treat u....and I think u should jus go kkh and do ivf. omg...how blunt can a gynae be. Its already very devastating ttc....and no assurance or reaffirmation. Am so disturbed mentally and emotionally.
 
Lily14,

Why not try on Ageloc supplements? There are many cases has succeed by restoring couples's body healthier miracle happens! Come to worse there's no loss but gain back a healthier body which our quality of life gets improve as well
 
Hi waiwish, spoke to u from the August thread. *wave* did not know your story and was very touched by how you have kept up your faith through all these ordeals. God is indeed good and mighty and He is always supporting you through all these. Just want to say Jia you and will pray God blesses u with an uneventful smooth pregnancy. *hug*
 
Hi waiwish, spoke to u from the August thread. *wave* did not know your story and was very touched by how you have kept up your faith through all these ordeals. God is indeed good and mighty and He is always supporting you through all these. Just want to say Jia you and will pray God blesses u with an uneventful smooth pregnancy. *hug*
Hi believeinjesus, you don't know how much your words meant to me, most thankful! And definitely appreciate you keeping me in your prayers. My hubs and I pray for God's mercy and grace everyday, and trust in The Lord for this preciously beautiful journey.
 
Catinthesky..Hi..juz 2 enquire if the singseh can converse in eng?i thot of goin there 2 tiao my body and can u gv me the address of the singseh.thks..I m 34 ttc-ing now after 8yrs of marriage.Dr told me i m nt ovulating at all.Irregular perioI hv Pcos.Dr prescribe me metformin,duphaston n clomid.today is my 2nd day of clomid..n my menses is heavy with cramps n feeling weak.
 
hi gals.. its been 4 months since I stared this thread... just wanna come back in to sprinkle baby dust for all who's trying...
i m still in the unstable region (still in 1st trim) yet i wld like to let you gals know there's indeed hope. I got preggy early March this year much to our surprise as Feb wasn't an intensive ttc month (as compared to dec and jan).... i didn't seek tcm and give up on pre-seed aft trying that out for 1 cycle... basically, i didn't do anything and just rely on the old calendar method and faith in myself n hubby... to be honest, i did regret i didn't see tcm as i believed tcm will really help a lot esp when we gotten bfp. Right now i am on progesterone support (due to my m/c history) on a daily basis and i am taking each day as it pass.

this preggy wasn't all bed of roses, i had my fair share of red spotting scares and dashes to a&e in the wee hour of the morn... i am still hanging on and i hope little one is super strong and hang on with me till my edd...

so, keep fighting gals! we CAN get preggy even if we are only expecting our very first after 35!

Baby dust to all!!!!!!!!!
 
Catinthesky..Hi..juz 2 enquire if the singseh can converse in eng?i thot of goin there 2 tiao my body and can u gv me the address of the singseh.thks..I m 34 ttc-ing now after 8yrs of marriage.Dr told me i m nt ovulating at all.Irregular perioI hv Pcos.Dr prescribe me metformin,duphaston n clomid.today is my 2nd day of clomid..n my menses is heavy with cramps n feeling weak.
hey babe, the sinseh TSB can speak English although she is more comfortable with Chinese. But she definitely can understand and converse in English with you. I saw her once and at times when I didn't understand some technical terms she used in Chinese, she would use English. fret not!
 
hi gals.. its been 4 months since I stared this thread... just wanna come back in to sprinkle baby dust for all who's trying...
i m still in the unstable region (still in 1st trim) yet i wld like to let you gals know there's indeed hope. I got preggy early March this year much to our surprise as Feb wasn't an intensive ttc month (as compared to dec and jan).... i didn't seek tcm and give up on pre-seed aft trying that out for 1 cycle... basically, i didn't do anything and just rely on the old calendar method and faith in myself n hubby... to be honest, i did regret i didn't see tcm as i believed tcm will really help a lot esp when we gotten bfp. Right now i am on progesterone support (due to my m/c history) on a daily basis and i am taking each day as it pass.

this preggy wasn't all bed of roses, i had my fair share of red spotting scares and dashes to a&e in the wee hour of the morn... i am still hanging on and i hope little one is super strong and hang on with me till my edd...

so, keep fighting gals! we CAN get preggy even if we are only expecting our very first after 35!

Baby dust to all!!!!!!!!!
babe, you're a fighter! An an encouragement to us who are still trying for a baby..
 
hi gals.. its been 4 months since I stared this thread... just wanna come back in to sprinkle baby dust for all who's trying...
i m still in the unstable region (still in 1st trim) yet i wld like to let you gals know there's indeed hope. I got preggy early March this year much to our surprise as Feb wasn't an intensive ttc month (as compared to dec and jan).... i didn't seek tcm and give up on pre-seed aft trying that out for 1 cycle... basically, i didn't do anything and just rely on the old calendar method and faith in myself n hubby... to be honest, i did regret i didn't see tcm as i believed tcm will really help a lot esp when we gotten bfp. Right now i am on progesterone support (due to my m/c history) on a daily basis and i am taking each day as it pass.

this preggy wasn't all bed of roses, i had my fair share of red spotting scares and dashes to a&e in the wee hour of the morn... i am still hanging on and i hope little one is super strong and hang on with me till my edd...

so, keep fighting gals! we CAN get preggy even if we are only expecting our very first after 35!

Baby dust to all!!!!!!!!!
Persevere! Even if our body is weak, if bb is strong we must be stronger. I m on 11 medication due to severe bleeding in 2nd tri, in my early 3rd tri n I am staying strong for the bb. Let's cheer each other on & look fwd to motherhood.
 
Hi ladies, was attracted by the thread title. I m too married late and has my first at 37. Been trying for a 2nd but suffered 2 mc. Devastating and detrimental to my health. Always sour grape to see pple ard me popping one after another. Went to Dr Tan ks in Clementi for Tcm. As someone mentioned, loads of medicine and acupuncture. Hubby went for sperm test and not ideal. He is quite amazing. He can just by touching my tummy and say my ovaries got many eggs. We succeeded after a while but have to terminate the pregnancy as bb growth not ideal. Then we went to Dr Chen in JE tiao my body. Like soupysloshy, I m conceiving now though not v stable.

So ladies don't give up. Just go for treatment, some exercise to loosen up the tied knots in you and miracle might happen.

Baby dust to all!
 
Persevere! Even if our body is weak, if bb is strong we must be stronger. I m on 11 medication due to severe bleeding in 2nd tri, in my early 3rd tri n I am staying strong for the bb. Let's cheer each other on & look fwd to motherhood.

Hi can share if you need to be hospitalise for the heavy bleeding? Tks.
 
Persevere! Even if our body is weak, if bb is strong we must be stronger. I m on 11 medication due to severe bleeding in 2nd tri, in my early 3rd tri n I am staying strong for the bb. Let's cheer each other on & look fwd to motherhood.

yes, u r right... I keep praying in my heart that let all weakness come to me as long as baby is healthy n strong.. coz I know aft birth, I can slowly ''bu'' back and I believe strongly in confinement. So, all I am asking for right now is baby stay strong and come out healthy and normal....
 
Hi can share if you need to be hospitalise for the heavy bleeding? Tks.
Yes u need to stay in hosital till bleeding becomes spotting in 2nd tri. once hm, u need to be on complete bed rest till no more spotting. You need weekly jabs + a large amount of hormones medication & preterm labour medication.
After coming bk fr hospital, I lay in bed for almost 1 mth.
Strongly advise that when gynae says rest, we shd rest. Don't trade your body+bb with wk. I haf been put on long HL due to this.
 
Hi all, new member reporting here.
Will be attending briefing at KKIVF in another two weeks' time, somehow, don know why feeling uncertain. Still, life still has to move on especially our biological clock is working against us. For those who conceived, sending my congrats to you.. For those trying, like me, do believe in faith and be persistent... Gambatte! Though we have more obstacles than the others, but I know we would treasure it more than ever. Fighting spirit turned on .. tired? just take a rest and move on....step by step....
 
Well my Sister in law is 40 and she went for IVF and is now expecting twins. Good luck i presume...
I feel if its meant to be it will happen, which ever method you choose
 
@SloshySoupy, the founder of this forum thread, thanks for the wishes and congrats to you :). Me, a newbie who is trying hard to understand the abbreviations and processes mentioned.. Sorta confused, perhaps too overwhelmed with the information here.

@ Tle, you are right, luck is one of the most important factors... but I'm a person who do not have much luck in life.. hence, to compensate for that, is to try to be diligent abit in whatever I do bah.

Meanwhile, hope to lose some fats while waiting for the briefing appointment...
 
hi Chubby, its good that u are staying positive and bright. That's very impt in the process of ttc (trying to conceive). I started this at the time when I felt very hopeless and down. I really though theres no way I could get preggy naturally. I was looking for support with like minded ladies to share my woes and frustration. I am glad I found some comfort and support with some great ladies here. They have done so much more that I did! and from there I garner lots of inspiring stories and found the confidence to continue this somewhat rocky ttc path.

I still come back now and then to offer encouragement n support to anyone who needs it. Personally I feel that forum is helpful as it does helps gals to stay informed and feel mutual support from one another.

Chubby, when its time, I am sure your baby will come to you. In the meantime, no harm upping ur chances by seeking all sort of useful avenues like tcm.

Jiayou!
 
@SloshySoupy, thanks for everything! Also, wished everyone in this thread have their wishes come true.

Do take care okay.. Don think too much... Communicate with you beanie....*Fighting*.... :)
 
Hi all,

I am 36 this year and also married late. Been trying for almost a year and had a chemical pregnancy last yr. Ever since, been trying naturally for more than 1/2 year but to no avail. Going for my first IUI tomorrow. Don't really have high hopes because I have not been taking good care of my health. Trying to lose weight but always get hampered during the 2ww. I am supposed to cut out on my caffeine but failed to do so. The medication and injections that I took to prep for IUI also made my break out in rashes and become rather hot-tempered! Haiz, it's tough really. Hope to update all with good news in 2 weeks' time!
 
Hi all,

I am 36 this year and also married late. Been trying for almost a year and had a chemical pregnancy last yr. Ever since, been trying naturally for more than 1/2 year but to no avail. Going for my first IUI tomorrow. Don't really have high hopes because I have not been taking good care of my health. Trying to lose weight but always get hampered during the 2ww. I am supposed to cut out on my caffeine but failed to do so. The medication and injections that I took to prep for IUI also made my break out in rashes and become rather hot-tempered! Haiz, it's tough really. Hope to update all with good news in 2 weeks' time!
Hi Ocean, welcome and good luck in your IUI. As for the health, it is never too late to try to improve your health. Like what the sisters have advised , go and look for TCM to enhance your body composition. Jiayou!
 
Oceandeep

JiaYou! I quit caffeine cold turkey last yr while I was ttc. Yes it was tough very tough esp when I am the type who could take 2 Grande size iced cold latte in a day. Being a strong caffine addict, I am glad I managed to cut that outta my life and strangely, once I was out of it, I no longer wants or think of latte anymore. But sadly I am still very much into cold drinks which is like a huge no no during ttc and preggy. So everytime I take a cold drink, I felt extremely guilty...

I am still doing an ongoing battle with cold drinks (and a losing one I must say..).

for your caffine intake, try to limit ur intake p/day. For instance, if u take 2, try going to 1 an a half den gradually to 1 per day. Of course, studies did show that caffine intake (If not excessive) does not really hinder ttc n pregnancy.
 
Thanks all for your support and encouragement!!
I have only 2 matured eggs and now on progesterone for support. I am trying very hard not to think about it in the meantime and focus on my work which I have neglected due to the many hospital visits:) I think I will also control my caffeine intake and take only caffeine free tea for now and milo( but nurse said no milo either :(
 
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Ladies who have gone for iui. Can I know if you have already ovulated when the doc performed iui on you? Something's not right I feel cause they do the procedure 48 hours after my hcg injection.
Sigh. I have a strong premonition it will fail :(
 
Some non fertility doc will just assume you are ovulating on d12, d14, d16 and do iui for you. I did twice n failed. In the end, I gave up. About 1 yr after iui I conceived naturally.
 
Usually gynae will monitor your eggs growth (size and number) to determine estimated ovulation date. If you are given trigger shot, ovulation usually take place within 48hours and that's when an IUI will be scheduled. You will be asked to use ovulation kit to confirm.

I still chart bbt during my SO IUI cycle and there was once, I didnt ovulate at all. So it was a wasted cycle and gynae didnt ensure ovulation took place as well.

It is best to chart bbt, the most reliable method of determining if ovulation took place. Though it will be too late by then, but at least you know if that cycle will be a hopeful or wasteful cycle.

Did 4 rounds of SO IUI in total, with only one successful (seemingly so) round giving my twins but only to end up empty sac. Had to do suction D&C at the 8th/9th week as sac refused to abort naturally.
 
Hi all, so.. What is the process like for SO-IUI? What are the symptoms that come with .. During this whole process .. Going for briefing this week.. Feel excited yet uncertain.. Always got to remind myself ... Take thing easy with open minded...
 
@Chubby1314

SO IUI - you will have to self administer daily jab from either day 2 or 3 of your cycle and gynae will monitor you for dosage over the next few days up till ovulation day. Then followed by IUI and support supplements. It will then be the infamous 2ww :)

I didnt feel any different for first 3 SO-IUI cycles, but the fourth, i was badly bloated during the 2ww.

As for self jabs, it comes in a twist pen form, very easy to use and almost painless. The act itself is more frightening than the actual jab on your tums. Once you get the hang of it, it is really easy. Do not stress yourself over this ya.

All the best and baby dust to you!!
 
Hi all, so.. What is the process like for SO-IUI? What are the symptoms that come with .. During this whole process .. Going for briefing this week.. Feel excited yet uncertain.. Always got to remind myself ... Take thing easy with open minded...

Thanks for sharing so much. Today is my 7dpiui.
Don't feel anything at all so seriously am not hopeful at all. Guess have to brace myself for a BFN.
I try not to think so much about the procedure cause I had iui 48 hours after my trigger shot instead of within the 48 hours. Sigh. It's been so difficult to get pregnant since my miscarriage last year. Sob
 



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