Hi Sotong_mommy (jesstham_77),
He is MCP, I feel. Oh he will do the work, but makes a lot of noise that it's so depressing to hear. And funny thing is, he can say this is dirty, that is dirty, and tell me to clean it but will not clean it. With the amount of effort spent asking me to clean, he can just do it himself, right? And after he has mopped the floor, it will be like so precious. There was once, he told my daughter to eat her bread in the toilet because he has just mopped the floor and can't let the crumbs drop onto the floor. It was so depressing to hear. So I would actually rather do it than let him do, at least I'm not that 'crazy'. And because of the cleaning problem, I tried to help out during my first confinement and there were a few times when my fingers turned stiff.
I was so appreciative of my mother helping me during my first confinement. The problem is, I'm going to have a caesarean, so I can't keep getting out of the bed to carry baby, I would need someone to help bring the baby to me.
I also think that it is difficult for an old folk to handle both kids single handedly, but he keeps saying if he is not worried, why should I be. My elder one has just started on a 2-hour playgroup, and he said to put her in a half-day childcare after I return to work, but that will be after the new baby arrives. I'm pretty worried about that too as my older one is just getting used to a playgroup and suddenly, we changed her to a half day child care, and also, I'm worried about putting her in childcare when the new baby comes, will she feel that she is being sent away because of the new baby and blames him? Infant care for my new one is impossible, my husband wants to save cost by not getting a maid, and infant care is definitely more expensive than that. Also, I don't think my MIL will allow us to put the new baby in infant care. One of the worst things is that I think my MIL believes she can handle the children single handedly.
I know, I've read so many stories about maids. But I'm so exhausted with doing the house work and working full time and taking care of the older child that I'm just desperate for some help.