Cherrie,
We did not really compromise...The only thing I did was that I dun really buy clothes or cosmetics cos I dun work anymore. I also dun indulge in expensive baby stuffs - such as stok or Mac claren strollers or that cot which cost over $300. I breastfed my babies (that saves some $ too). For milk formula, nope, they were drinking similac, friso and Mamil for later stages. I didn't choose the brands, they choose what is suitable for themselves.
They wore brands like pampers or huggies as my hubby does not want me to go to the trouble of washing cloth diapers. And, if they wore cheapo brand diapers, it'll develop diaper rash (my child had it before).
They also sees doctors at private clinics for vaccinations or when they are sick (hardly goes to polyclinics, cos have to wait really long and children cannot tahan). Since I can use the baby bonus in my kid's account to see doc, why not use it?
And, they only take public transport when they come home after school (They are being ferry to school by my husband when he goes to work in the am). And, yes, we do have a car - its not a new one, it's an 8 yr old korean car.
We also went overseas for holidays - around once a year (by plane) and a couple of times to resorts in Malaysia.
Age gap, my eldest is 14 while my youngest is only 8 mths old... And, they all enjoy playing and taking care of this little baby. Yes, we may not dine at expensive restaurants (in fact, we do not), as dinner is home-cooked. But, my hubby and I are happy that we have 4 lovely kids and that they are surrounded by love.
You may find it disbelieving - with 4 kids and we are doing fine. Everything comes down to agreement. Yes, the agreement between me and hubby. Both must agree.
With one, you can give the best, and with many, you have to split. However, I've seen how my friends suffered (they were the only child) - I mean not mentioning the lonely childhood, but also that when they need a listening ear, they do not have anyone by their side (your friends are not there 24/7). And, being the only one means their parents only have them to rely on in old age (ok, I know that nowadays, rearing children is not a preventive solution for support during old age, but sometimes...). And, touch wood* - what happens if your only hope (child) is no longer around? Will you lose hope as well?
But, if the marriage is on the rocks or the party does not want another child, then, it is no point having another one cos in the end, you will blame that child for ruining everything.
Everything boils down to agreement and whether both of you see to eye on those things. If not, even a simple and small thing like buying groceries can start a war...