Need advice... We've placed out boy who is now 2 yrs and 2 months old at a child care cente with purpose of getting him to mingle and interact with other kids...
Mon (05 Jan) was his 1st day of school... as per teacher, he was pretty alright at first during breakfast but the class is brought to the room and the door closed, he panicks, screams and cries uncontrollably... he stops only during lunch and again, when brought to room and the door closed, he did the same thing... My heart pain when I went to the school to pick him up (around 3pm) as I can even hear his cries when parking the car outside...(BTW, my boy can't speak yet but blabbers lot)
During 2nd day, my wife and I decide to pick him up half day at 1pm after lunch... when we reached the school ,again I can hear his screams & yells and cries... oh dear, I went up and hear the cry coming from another room (not his usual room)... apparently, the teacher brought him out to another room because he was disturbing the rest with his uncontrollably cries during nap time... we did not open the door immediately but decided to wait 5 mins to hear the teacher's method of soothing him and also what's really troubling my boy... Thank God the teacher was patient with him (she didn't know we were outside)... my boy was banging at the door and yelling... then we decided to go in and he immediately cling to us and stop his crying...
The very same Tue night, he kept getting nightmares, woke up screaming. pointing to the bedroom door and bang at it profusely, at first, we thought he wanted to go out but then as we open the door and carry him out, he pointed to the door again.. then we realised he wanted us to leave the door open...
We didn't brought him to school on Wed & Thur (today) cause he was down with flu and was exceptionally clingy... even bringing him out was difficult because he thought we are bringing him to the childcare and he started crying profusely when stepping out of the house...
To make matters worse, I realise he now goes on a panic streaks (crying, yelling and getting clingy) whenever a door closes at home...
Is this trauma? What should I do? Should I drop him out of school totally? My wife is expecting No.2 and he's due in Mar 09... We thought to send him first to school before No. 2 is born otherwise he would have thought that we won't want him by leaving him at school when his baby brother come to this world... but now I don't know whether should I bite through my teeth and continue bring him to school and condition him to the place....
The teacher had a discussion with the centre manager.... and I had a talk with the teacher thereafter... they felt that with my boy's young age (youngest in the class), perhaps they should have take him out of their usual class schedule and let him play in the outdoor/living room area to let him adjust to the place before trying to bring him into classes again...
Pls advise? Also, should I change centre? My boy attends sunday school and the same premises is used by montessori on weekdays... though not a full day care, I reckon perhaps a place he is more familiar with may help? What do you think?
Thanks
Mon (05 Jan) was his 1st day of school... as per teacher, he was pretty alright at first during breakfast but the class is brought to the room and the door closed, he panicks, screams and cries uncontrollably... he stops only during lunch and again, when brought to room and the door closed, he did the same thing... My heart pain when I went to the school to pick him up (around 3pm) as I can even hear his cries when parking the car outside...(BTW, my boy can't speak yet but blabbers lot)
During 2nd day, my wife and I decide to pick him up half day at 1pm after lunch... when we reached the school ,again I can hear his screams & yells and cries... oh dear, I went up and hear the cry coming from another room (not his usual room)... apparently, the teacher brought him out to another room because he was disturbing the rest with his uncontrollably cries during nap time... we did not open the door immediately but decided to wait 5 mins to hear the teacher's method of soothing him and also what's really troubling my boy... Thank God the teacher was patient with him (she didn't know we were outside)... my boy was banging at the door and yelling... then we decided to go in and he immediately cling to us and stop his crying...
The very same Tue night, he kept getting nightmares, woke up screaming. pointing to the bedroom door and bang at it profusely, at first, we thought he wanted to go out but then as we open the door and carry him out, he pointed to the door again.. then we realised he wanted us to leave the door open...
We didn't brought him to school on Wed & Thur (today) cause he was down with flu and was exceptionally clingy... even bringing him out was difficult because he thought we are bringing him to the childcare and he started crying profusely when stepping out of the house...
To make matters worse, I realise he now goes on a panic streaks (crying, yelling and getting clingy) whenever a door closes at home...
Is this trauma? What should I do? Should I drop him out of school totally? My wife is expecting No.2 and he's due in Mar 09... We thought to send him first to school before No. 2 is born otherwise he would have thought that we won't want him by leaving him at school when his baby brother come to this world... but now I don't know whether should I bite through my teeth and continue bring him to school and condition him to the place....
The teacher had a discussion with the centre manager.... and I had a talk with the teacher thereafter... they felt that with my boy's young age (youngest in the class), perhaps they should have take him out of their usual class schedule and let him play in the outdoor/living room area to let him adjust to the place before trying to bring him into classes again...
Pls advise? Also, should I change centre? My boy attends sunday school and the same premises is used by montessori on weekdays... though not a full day care, I reckon perhaps a place he is more familiar with may help? What do you think?
Thanks