Aspialle,
Cheer up! I understand what you are feeling now. When I had #1, there is also no help in caring for her after ML. There is no IFC nearby and hubby and myself start work early 7.30am. MIL volunteered (while she is still taking care of SIL's 2 kids) but her condition. Leave baby overnight and bring her back only on Friday. Told us to send bb back on Sunday.
There is no way I can accomodate to this condition as I myself was never a weekend kid to my parents. On top of that, I had a miscarriage prior to having #1, there is no way we can skip seeing our darling for a day. Thus, I resigned and be a SAHM at ML.
Since going to be a SAHM, we planned for #2 quite early (when #1 was 6 months old) so that we can go through the 'difficult' period at 1 go.
It is difinitely not easy in term of financial term as I lost my financial freedom and hubby wasn't earning much. But we spend within our mean and I make sure we communicate well (the very last thing I want for a couple is to quarrel because of money).
We grid our teeth and pull through the difficult period. I re-enter world force in late 2010. Before we plan for #3, we asked MIL if she wants to help but this time round, I state the condition, I want to bring bb home every day and by 18mths, I will send to childcare. Surprisingly, she agreed and I also change job to nearer her house so that she will not have any excuse to leave baby overnight.
Now you are feeling down because you are making adjustment to the new born, thus you feel this way, give yourself and baby some time, once you set him into a routine then you consider what you really want and move towards it.
No matter what, SAHM is still the envy 'job' of many working mum yah. I have lots of colleagues taking no pay leave just to bond with kids.