evolutionmr
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I had already divorced with my ex-wife for 1 year plus. Throughout the divorce til now, we have many dispute regarding about matrimonial flat, children or even maintenance.
Despite the court granted me to take over the matrimonial flat upon my ex-wife unable to take over, i was rejected by HDB to take over due to my age below 35 as of the date for final court order and they requested me to obtain my ex-wife approval in order for HDB to look into my appeal, however she wrote in to HDB for them to reject my appeal. After writing multiple letters through MPS session or even wrote to Minister, the same reply template from HDB was reverted to inform me of the same thing. Hence HDB "forced" me to surrender my flat (cannot even sell to open market as cannot come to a consensus agreement with my ex wife)
The court also granted me with access for the children every friday, saturday, half of the school/public holidays. However my ex-wife always find ways to make me take care of children more frequent as she always busy with her own stuff or probably dating. I have no problem with it, but at times i was not available due to work or personal, she will use threatening words that she will take over their custody, or change their surname all these sort to scare me so that I will concede to her request. At times, she will also spy me by asking children if i got go out with another girl, or bring them out or do what. I feel very irritated and disgust by her action.
My court order did not specific clearly on the extra expenses such as school or medical expenses which I need to responsible. But my ex-wife often bring them to expensive pediatric or sign up for all the school enrichment or even extra school-care fee which not even state in the order and expect me to pay all these.
I tried to put up a variation order to family court. But unfortunately, my lawyer actually siphoned with the legal fee and flied away from the country. Henceforth, my case was dismissed as the appointed lawyer did not fulfill his role and submit all the necessary document or appear in court. Made a police report but the police said that they will not conduct investigation as this is not considered a scam there is a agreement verbally (its like wtf right). Went to law society and they refer me back to the law firm which they are not even helpful and responsive.
My life is in a big mess, and i find it extremely difficult to move on with this type of ex-wife. Went through many counseling sessions by the family social centre but my ex-wife always create another story to them as if I am in the fault despite i have all the evidences. The counselor also cannot do anything about it or provide constructive solution. Went to other agencies such as MinLaw, MFS and etc also no use. All responded by same standard template reply.
Any other divorced parent facing same problem and what solution is possible. The route to future seems to be a dead end for me now...
Despite the court granted me to take over the matrimonial flat upon my ex-wife unable to take over, i was rejected by HDB to take over due to my age below 35 as of the date for final court order and they requested me to obtain my ex-wife approval in order for HDB to look into my appeal, however she wrote in to HDB for them to reject my appeal. After writing multiple letters through MPS session or even wrote to Minister, the same reply template from HDB was reverted to inform me of the same thing. Hence HDB "forced" me to surrender my flat (cannot even sell to open market as cannot come to a consensus agreement with my ex wife)
The court also granted me with access for the children every friday, saturday, half of the school/public holidays. However my ex-wife always find ways to make me take care of children more frequent as she always busy with her own stuff or probably dating. I have no problem with it, but at times i was not available due to work or personal, she will use threatening words that she will take over their custody, or change their surname all these sort to scare me so that I will concede to her request. At times, she will also spy me by asking children if i got go out with another girl, or bring them out or do what. I feel very irritated and disgust by her action.
My court order did not specific clearly on the extra expenses such as school or medical expenses which I need to responsible. But my ex-wife often bring them to expensive pediatric or sign up for all the school enrichment or even extra school-care fee which not even state in the order and expect me to pay all these.
I tried to put up a variation order to family court. But unfortunately, my lawyer actually siphoned with the legal fee and flied away from the country. Henceforth, my case was dismissed as the appointed lawyer did not fulfill his role and submit all the necessary document or appear in court. Made a police report but the police said that they will not conduct investigation as this is not considered a scam there is a agreement verbally (its like wtf right). Went to law society and they refer me back to the law firm which they are not even helpful and responsive.
My life is in a big mess, and i find it extremely difficult to move on with this type of ex-wife. Went through many counseling sessions by the family social centre but my ex-wife always create another story to them as if I am in the fault despite i have all the evidences. The counselor also cannot do anything about it or provide constructive solution. Went to other agencies such as MinLaw, MFS and etc also no use. All responded by same standard template reply.
Any other divorced parent facing same problem and what solution is possible. The route to future seems to be a dead end for me now...