saddistmum
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I have seen so many posts on MIL. I oso cannot tanhan my MIL. At times, i jus wish she passed on faster(I alr reach the max). n i feel that my hub is a mummy boy.
My hub is a single parent family and he has a step brother. After buying our own unit, my hub brought his mum n his bro to stay wif us. I oredi very big hearted to let them have one room by themself. Before reno, my mil 'xian' the toilet door was facing her bedroom.(She believed in Fengshui). Den say everything muz lean against the wall. Last min say wan put up fake wall so that her bedrest can lean against the wall. Fine, i give in. After reno, say wanna put half curtain outside the toilet door coz of fengshui again(OMG). Even since move in, she have been closing the toilet door n nv once open to air the toilet. Everytime i walk pass, i can smell something weird.
There is one time when she came back after medical n had collected her medication which is alot. My hub then requested me to help her cut her medication into small size. I then sit at the dining table and do the cutting. She saw me cutting and nv say anything. The moment i left to pump my milk in the rm, she kept the medication. When i m done, i ask her abt the med, she juz tell me next time don cut medication at the dining table. I was like WTH. I asked where i can cut. She nv say anything. Later my hub questioned me y i nv cut, i told him the truth. She think i complained to my hub.Tot my hub did scolded her but later come and tell me I shld have cut finish den go pp my milk. I was damn fucking pissed off.
There are so many times she left me alone at home during my ML without telling where she go. I have no food and could not bathe. Mu hub still side her.
There is one time she left my baby alone at home when i was away to meet my friends for lunch. When i return home, i realised my bb was crying terribly. I search the whole hse but i cannot find. I cttd my hub who is at work. Later she came bk n told me she go pass umbrella to my bil(for godness sake, my bil is 18yrs alr). Best part is she cant locate my bil n come bk. When i qns her, she told me baby jux fall aslp. I cried n tell her in the face that even tot bb slp, you oso cannot leave her alone. My hub don see her in the wrong somemore. I was damn pissed off..not even one sorry from her. My hub still can tell me what i expect from her. He still say to me how can i expect his mum to apologise.
More to come. My hub insist his mum to take care of my son which i don like. Only when i was abt to go back to work, then she learn to make milk n change diapers. At times, she will bathe my son which i nv see her bathe b4. I knew she nv use the bathtub n the bb shampoo.
Last week, she started her drama again. When i return work for 2 consectively days, i notice she nv wipe clean my son backside coz still got shit stains. So i tell her say: Mother, BB backside got shit stain, can u next time wipe clean abit? i rem my tone was fine. I didnt raise my voice or what. This happend on fri. I nv oso tell my hub abt it. She oso nv tell my hub until sunday when I was at my mum place. She called my hub n complained n say wanna move out. My hub called me n scolded me very vulagrity n demanded me to go back n settle if not divorce. He kept insisting is my tone. I have tried explaining until i cannot tanhan n suck it up myself. My hun still ask her mum to 4give me n say i m being straight n does not have evil thoughts. he even say he cant do w/o me but not his mum. His mum even say he is fair man..deep in my heart, i puked. Deep in my heart, i hate my mil. I straight in the face tell my hub that I m alw the last position in his heart.
So nowaday I don talk much to my mil n hub. I oso don wan to have much interaction wif my hub. I oso don like to eat wif him. I have reach a point that i took leave oso don inform him.Everytime.go out, pls bring along his mum n his bro.. i reallli cannt tanhan..really damn mummy boy. When i ask for a private time wif hi. n baby, he will say y cant my mum n bro follow?? OMG.
I realli long for a family time which only me, my bb n my hub..but i know is impossible.
Haiz..what to do??
My hub is a single parent family and he has a step brother. After buying our own unit, my hub brought his mum n his bro to stay wif us. I oredi very big hearted to let them have one room by themself. Before reno, my mil 'xian' the toilet door was facing her bedroom.(She believed in Fengshui). Den say everything muz lean against the wall. Last min say wan put up fake wall so that her bedrest can lean against the wall. Fine, i give in. After reno, say wanna put half curtain outside the toilet door coz of fengshui again(OMG). Even since move in, she have been closing the toilet door n nv once open to air the toilet. Everytime i walk pass, i can smell something weird.
There is one time when she came back after medical n had collected her medication which is alot. My hub then requested me to help her cut her medication into small size. I then sit at the dining table and do the cutting. She saw me cutting and nv say anything. The moment i left to pump my milk in the rm, she kept the medication. When i m done, i ask her abt the med, she juz tell me next time don cut medication at the dining table. I was like WTH. I asked where i can cut. She nv say anything. Later my hub questioned me y i nv cut, i told him the truth. She think i complained to my hub.Tot my hub did scolded her but later come and tell me I shld have cut finish den go pp my milk. I was damn fucking pissed off.
There are so many times she left me alone at home during my ML without telling where she go. I have no food and could not bathe. Mu hub still side her.
There is one time she left my baby alone at home when i was away to meet my friends for lunch. When i return home, i realised my bb was crying terribly. I search the whole hse but i cannot find. I cttd my hub who is at work. Later she came bk n told me she go pass umbrella to my bil(for godness sake, my bil is 18yrs alr). Best part is she cant locate my bil n come bk. When i qns her, she told me baby jux fall aslp. I cried n tell her in the face that even tot bb slp, you oso cannot leave her alone. My hub don see her in the wrong somemore. I was damn pissed off..not even one sorry from her. My hub still can tell me what i expect from her. He still say to me how can i expect his mum to apologise.
More to come. My hub insist his mum to take care of my son which i don like. Only when i was abt to go back to work, then she learn to make milk n change diapers. At times, she will bathe my son which i nv see her bathe b4. I knew she nv use the bathtub n the bb shampoo.
Last week, she started her drama again. When i return work for 2 consectively days, i notice she nv wipe clean my son backside coz still got shit stains. So i tell her say: Mother, BB backside got shit stain, can u next time wipe clean abit? i rem my tone was fine. I didnt raise my voice or what. This happend on fri. I nv oso tell my hub abt it. She oso nv tell my hub until sunday when I was at my mum place. She called my hub n complained n say wanna move out. My hub called me n scolded me very vulagrity n demanded me to go back n settle if not divorce. He kept insisting is my tone. I have tried explaining until i cannot tanhan n suck it up myself. My hun still ask her mum to 4give me n say i m being straight n does not have evil thoughts. he even say he cant do w/o me but not his mum. His mum even say he is fair man..deep in my heart, i puked. Deep in my heart, i hate my mil. I straight in the face tell my hub that I m alw the last position in his heart.
So nowaday I don talk much to my mil n hub. I oso don wan to have much interaction wif my hub. I oso don like to eat wif him. I have reach a point that i took leave oso don inform him.Everytime.go out, pls bring along his mum n his bro.. i reallli cannt tanhan..really damn mummy boy. When i ask for a private time wif hi. n baby, he will say y cant my mum n bro follow?? OMG.
I realli long for a family time which only me, my bb n my hub..but i know is impossible.
Haiz..what to do??