Hi ladies, just want to share that i have delivered my baby girl successful naturally even with my >40 years of age. Keep up the hope! I do feel that my decision to quit my job to give my body the optimum conditions necessary to conceive really do make a difference. During this period, i went for regular walks and yoga, mindful to exercise but not overboard, lots of fresh air at the park, focus on healthy fertility eating, eat at home often where i prepare my own healthy meals, fertility massage, spend time on interests such as reading, investing, working on my side gigs/hustle etc etc. There's so much to do and work on. Never a moment bored.
One irritating area though is explaining to relatives why you are not working. We are pretty private and do not wish to tell relatives what we were trying to achieve. My side of family is quite chill actually so not so much problem, but my hubby side can be rather intrusive and kaypoh, so we kept it from them to save myself trouble and stress from all the questions. Lucky we did. Because after i conceived and people came to know i was not working, there were a few occasions where his side of relatives asked if i was working, as if it's some sin. i felt that i had to explain myself. It made me rather irritated actually. The fact is whether i am working or not is non of their business and make no difference to my life, yet i felt as if it's wrong not to be working. Imagine if i had let them know earlier during the period when i was not working and ttc.
In fact, my mother in law's seem to go around telling her relatives i am not working, such that even her sister, which is super distant relative to me, remarked that i was not working at least twice. I feel like telling her i am not working because i can afford to. And that, for the record, i was earning significantly more than my husband with a much promising corporate career that i sacrifice. Anyway, relatives...if you have kaypoh relatives, you may want to save trouble by keeping this from them.