I think I'm at wits end. Hence sourcing for all sorts of posssibilitites. Friends and family all ask me to let go of this unfaithful man. But divorce is really a long process and I really do not know how to handle this on my own with 3 young kids. Feeling tt life is a very heavy burden. Although I do admit, I had a lot of support from my parents. But how long can they be with me? I'm scared.... I dunno how to handle this on my own
Hi Garlin, I don’t know much of your story as I just join this chat.
Divorce need lot of courage , a strong mind and a strong will.
How old are your children?
Is tough to be a single mum but you have support from your family although no one knows how long they can help.
So you have to upgrade yourself, be independent, focus on your career and children.
Many changes you have to make or sacrifice but since you are still young ,you were be able to adjust changes.
Many women think and worry like you so they don’t divorce till they 50s ,60s still think want divorce and regret didn’t divorce. But by then at that age they have even less courage to divorce or adjust to changes or start life again.
They can only complain thy life and said divorce for years but no action. Husband know her well that whatever he does she will never divorce.
In the end she is the one who suffer. Husband stops give money, go home late or overnight or ...etc.
Some women want divorce but must guarantee can win everythings - money ,custody, flat...etc. If can’t win 100% they drag and drag. Till old only can keep complain her life, depressed and live life mentally torture.If she doesn’t greedy, her soul can be free and she no need suffer mentally.
I’m not asking you must divorce. If you worry this ,worry that and can’t take hardship, forever no need divorce.
Then stay put and accept who he is, focus on work and your children.
If this is what you want for your life.
Mentally torture (his unfaithful) or physically torture (you have to work hard) ,you have to choose. And make sure you won’t regret your decision when old.
I guess you still have feeling for your Husband or lazy to make changes or don’t have the courage to start a single life or can’t bear hardships.
Sometime is ‘Past life debt’ ( 前世债) , so you need to learn to let it go (看开).Sometime fate gone no choice.
If is yours will be yours ,same goes to money or flat or ...etc.
Whatever you have lose now, you may get back double one day.
Important is you are still healthy , able to work and your soul can be free.
Whatever hurt or unfaithful he has done, he will get his own karma.