Hi guys, I'm new in forums and I decided to look into forums because I'd like to seek medical advices and hopefully to also get some emotional support.
I'm considered a young stay-at-home mother, happily married, and we have a son who's not even in Primary School yet. Recently, my spouse was diagnosed with stage 3 nose cancer. The cancer actually spread from the back of his nose to his neck lymph nodes, but it's a fortunate thing that they stopped there. Surgery is out of the question, and he requires chemotherapy and radiotherapy. The thing is that, I brought him to see a really really good doctor and he has told us that even after all the treatments, the recovery rate is only 30% - 50%. We were shocked and I was devastated. We have no family history. He doesn't smoke, he hardly drinks, he doesn't club or gamble. He's the best kind of husband in the world. I cried almost everyday for the past two weeks, and I tried to load myself up with as much information as possible in order to help him. I cannot imagine a world without him.
Time is of the essence and we have been trying to stay optimistic. He's currently undergoing chemotherapy and this weekend will be his second session. The first session's result was rather surprising and his swollen neck subsided within a day. The doctor said that he's impressed, and that it's a good sign. He's confident to help us achieve 50%, but mentioned that the other 50% will be in God's hands.
As much as we're trying to stay positive, the thought still haunts me. And the more I read about chemotherapy, the worse I feel. Everything that I'm doing for him, even when planning his meals for him, I feel like his life is in my hands. I'm so scared. I try to tell myself that everything WILL work out, but the fear still comes back to me at times. I'm in a dilemma. My life is a dilemma. I've heard that 90% of oncologists will not allow their spouse or children to undergo chemotherapy. Can anyone help by sharing your thoughts/experiences please? Thanks...
I'm considered a young stay-at-home mother, happily married, and we have a son who's not even in Primary School yet. Recently, my spouse was diagnosed with stage 3 nose cancer. The cancer actually spread from the back of his nose to his neck lymph nodes, but it's a fortunate thing that they stopped there. Surgery is out of the question, and he requires chemotherapy and radiotherapy. The thing is that, I brought him to see a really really good doctor and he has told us that even after all the treatments, the recovery rate is only 30% - 50%. We were shocked and I was devastated. We have no family history. He doesn't smoke, he hardly drinks, he doesn't club or gamble. He's the best kind of husband in the world. I cried almost everyday for the past two weeks, and I tried to load myself up with as much information as possible in order to help him. I cannot imagine a world without him.
Time is of the essence and we have been trying to stay optimistic. He's currently undergoing chemotherapy and this weekend will be his second session. The first session's result was rather surprising and his swollen neck subsided within a day. The doctor said that he's impressed, and that it's a good sign. He's confident to help us achieve 50%, but mentioned that the other 50% will be in God's hands.
As much as we're trying to stay positive, the thought still haunts me. And the more I read about chemotherapy, the worse I feel. Everything that I'm doing for him, even when planning his meals for him, I feel like his life is in my hands. I'm so scared. I try to tell myself that everything WILL work out, but the fear still comes back to me at times. I'm in a dilemma. My life is a dilemma. I've heard that 90% of oncologists will not allow their spouse or children to undergo chemotherapy. Can anyone help by sharing your thoughts/experiences please? Thanks...
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