Hi Janie
Abuse- good, other pp have seen the bruises and can confirm some part of your story. You can always explain why you told the white lies originally. I dont think that is a major problem.
Bills/receipts - continue to keep records as much as possible. Even if no receipt, you can write down in a notebook how much you paid, for what, and when.
HDB - as far as I am aware, your husband cannot remove you as occupier unless you agreed. He may be lying. Check directly with HDB. If your/your children's name are still set out as Occupier - LEAVE IT THERE. DO NOT OFFICIALLY REMOVE OR TRANSFER YOUR or YOUR CHILDREN'S 'OCCUPIER' status to your Mum's address. If you remove your/your children's name, your husband can freely sell the flat and just pocket the money immediately! Even if the judge tells him later to pay up, he can say "spend already". SO, be careful - don't do anything without asking HDB or a lawyer.
Legal Aid- The usual test is that "Your disposable income, that is, your income for the past 12 months before the date of application for legal aid and after deducting prescribed allowances, must not exceed $10,000/-". Even if your salary for the 12 months is more than this, your 'disposable income' may be less. Check with Legal Aid how they calculate 'disposable income'. For more infor, check out this website.
http://app.minlaw.gov.sg/lab/info.asp#3
Do get proper legal advice quickly.
CDA account - Check with a lawyer, get the lawyer to write to MCYS to notify them about the divorce proceedings, your hubby's bankruptcy status and so on, and ask MCYS to name you as trustee instead of your hubby.
I'm not sure what you mean by "everything" when you say "he now using everything under my name. should i be softhearted to transfer them to his name? " but it sounds very dangerous. Dont be stupid and softhearted. If you want to be softhearted, can... first find out how much trouble he can get you into. If you are willing to bear the possible trouble, then you can be softhearted - its your choice but you should first know what your options/alternatives are.
Custody - your children are both very young still. Singapore judges will usually give custody of such young children/babies to the mother (unless she's a drug addict or prostitute or something bad like that).
At the end of the day, a judge will look at you and decide if you are a 'fit and proper parent'.
You need to show the judge that you can not only take care of your children but more importantly, you know how to take care of yourself. Show the judge that you know, or know how to find out about your legal rights and you are prepared to stand up for yourself. Dont be afraid to ask the govt, HDB, and the Legal Aid Bureau for help.
Good luck k. Be brave.