Discussion in 'Matters Of The Heart' started by theox, Dec 4, 2006.
Hi hhow if your husband NEVER do an oral sex for you?for 5 years of marriage?
My wife does not do oral sex for me too. No big deal right?
I ejaculated inside my wife on her 7th day of mensus. she still hd spotting on that day. What is the chance of her gettg pregnant? If she is, is it safe for her to do PAP Smear on the 14th day?
Shld have gone to ask for a morning pill frm doc within 24 hrs.. do u want a baby? if yes, dun go for pap smear ba.. wait till the next mth.
U shld discuss this with yr husband for such needs. u cant realli compare with other couples lor.
ya, i discuss already, but he really not enjoy to do it.and feel very strange even he never touch my private area. just want to know isit normal for man like this? are other husband always do oral for his wife, just curious?
surprise.. ur wife not do oral for u...
Not that she never oral for me. I think it was very long time ago that she gave to me. It think yrs is more strange. If yr hub never touch u, then how is it possible to get wet enuff to penetrate?
I agreed with Richard, and not every hubby needs oral ma. and very strange if he never touch u 'there'. btw does he request u to oral him? if he does... he is selfish on not making u satisfied!
if my wife get pregnant bcoz of this time. then mayb i ask her postpone the pap smear. fearing that test will hurt the bb inside her.
u guys know how long can a woman to chk w/ those pregnancy kit if she is pregnant?
how many of wives there do go for pap smear b4 pregnant?
y guys enjoy oral hur?
I dun like to oral for my hubby...
I enjoy doing oral to my wife, the first time she felt uneasy about it, but she enjoyed it. And she does oral to me. I find 69 very enjoyable. She doesn't really like me use my fingers though, thought they are dirty.
I can't say for all men, but I enjoy oral. It's just a different kind of excitement. Even sex life is fine, I also from time to time enjoy masturbation. It's just different.
can chk for pregy if wife's period is one day late lor. tat will be the best time. Do the test with the first morning urine.
Hi new age dad,
i dun enjoy oral... hehe.. but sometimes jus do it..
I do enjoi doing oral 4 my hubby! But my hubby didn't do it 4 me. But hws the feeling doing oral to my hubby, is it greater den having sex?
Oral sex is just part of foreplay. Usually men will enjoy it if their partner do it volunteerily and not out of obligation. Maybe u should give more to yr hub and discuss how he feels abt it.
I same with Milan, I do really enjoy doing oral for my hubby too, after doing i'll really get wet.....
Can u share how u make yrself interested to oral for yr hub? My wife dun seems to like it at all. Any tips how to make her interested?
hehhehe, because of LOVE ;P . and I just feel SEXY when He erect because I oral him ;PPPP
Ya lor.. how to enjoy it?
I find it abit dirty.. yucks .. hahaha..
My boyfriend(now hubby) used to tell me before marriage that he will only do oral for his wife. After we got married, he really did oral for me and I found it very enjoyable..... Of course, I do oral it back for him and can sense that he is totally into it. Most importantly, both must be comfortable with the idea.
You oral for your wife before? Why not try it out on her to show that it's nothing and eventually lead her to do it on you?
Agree with twixyrosy, if you wife is open to the idea of you oral for her, do so and may be offer yourself to her as in 69. May be she would oral you back?
My hubby really likes oral, when we got married he requested me to do but i simply refused even to touch his "P". He was very disappointed abt it but hor slowly made me agree to him doing for me and then i started enjoying it...i was very selfish that i enjoyed it for months without doing for him but later i realized my mistake and started doing for him but step by step la....Now we try all kinda things that each other want and we enjoy doing that....If new ways and things are not discovered then sex will become very boring. We are married for almost 8 years and still N joy sex...keke...
hi all i find this thread VERY funny, cute n interesting why din continue le? hehehe
How to give the best oral to woman? Any suggestions? Trying to get new ideas.
humble, can advise on how to do BJ for him?
I wish to please my husband, i knows he wants me to give him oral but i know he nv force me...
Personally i feel it's smelly and it's where urine come out.. i feel yucky abt it...
I also feel dirty when he wans to lick me.. but then i let him do it cos he says he likes it...
so to be fair, i wish to offer him the same service and hope it can spice up our sex life...
i think actually "him" is more clean than "Her" if u afraid of dirty u can do it just after he take a bath,so it smell fresh and clean.maybe u can turn off the light for the first time so u feel comfort ;PP.
most of the times i think men are the ones who get the oral...:6 for myself at first i feel yucky to do it...but subsequently i began to enjoy it coz i get turn on when i c my hubby enjoying it...haha...n to make it more comfortable , i told him clean ur fren here (while patting it lightly-flirt a bit lah) n it will get a thorough polishing later~....hehehe...i bought myself those feminine wash with nice scent so he'll be comfortable too...
if ur still in this thread lah...try bathing together, soap each others body (try to use yummy smelling soap like strawberries/choc such) play a game while bathing, 'i wash u here, u wash me the same, soap his p lightly in stroking manner, wash off....n kiss his body slowly...u will know where to go next...hehe... i always start at hubbys chest n nipples going downwards. these way ur both clean n yummy ... ;D
my hubby oso like me doing oral to him but me too felt yucky. everytime i lick the slimy liquid i felt like vomitting, however i do hope i would enjoy it.
my hubby used to do it for me too, i really enjoy it n I get high easily, however after gynea dynoise tt i got strep. Group B and said tt group B could be found on tongue. Not knowing whether i got tt from oral, i stop my hubby doing doing oral for me.
im not really sure abt strep...what i read so far is that if u wanna enjoy/do oral, be sure to clean up first n later. so, for me if we wanna 'play', i usually invite him for a shower...brush,brush,scrub,scrub...n after the session i will coax him to wash off..including myself.
I would like to discourage any ladies from posting their experiences in this thread. It sounds suspiciously to be started by some pervert to satisfy his unatural need.
sorry if i made u to hv the wrong idea. the purpose for starting this thread is just for sharing. that's all
Not everyone enjoy Oral.
My wife don't like it, neither giving nor receiving. When we're still boy/girl friend she didn't says she'll do it if we're married. But until now, on our 4th year, still not even once. Never force her to do it anyway.
so until now u never know the feeling being oral?? if yes do u ever think or have it at "outside"?
Yes, I agree with Tan Choon Huat. I have did a search under theOx(theox) and found that he did not do any other postings. Except for this post and another post on asking where the bus service is.
This forum is under motherhood, i believe if theOX is really a mother, she would have did postings on other topics as well rather than only on this topic.
Look at the last posting! So disgusting!
@DD @Tan Choon Huat,
FYI, I'm not a pervert but a true blue married woman with kid. I'm asking this just to share and seek opnion from the fellow mothers here since this is a singapore motherhood forum. Anything wrong with that?
If I'm really a pervert that want to satisfy unnatural needs, why I bother to post it into this forum, there are a lot of sex forum out there!
If you think my question or posts offence you in any way, feel free to flee, nobody force you to read and response to my thread.
It's really pissed me off to see some freaking narrow minded people here!
Hope I made myself clear.
Cool it cool it...
Ok leh, dun think it is prevert to talk about sex or oral sex here leh. Wa lao... think 98% here all not virgins liao, all mummies and daddies liao. Think there are more prevert sites ba, than coming to sgmotherhood(breastfeeding etc).
Where's the 2%?? kekeke...
2% might be mummy wannabes... come in here for parenting lessons! XD
@Tan Leng Leng @Missylan,
Thanks for the support
It's true, if I am a pervert I can just to go the special forum for that and why should I ask here.
I posted in this forum because I have a problem (not really a problem though) and purely want to seek an opinion from the fellow mothers here But there are some narrow minded people think I'm creating this thread to satisfy my unnatural needs. Or maybe they just jealous because of the good response and try to sabo me.
Pls don't let this thread be another arguement thread,
let's carry on.....
So, how many kids do u have?
So far oni 1 Plan to have another one but worried whether I can take a good care or not.
How often you ppl have sex with your partner?
Finally sumone is asking...when i wanted to post same question..i had been married less than 4 months things was fine 1st month subsequently it became once a week affair ..which really frustrates me a lot as i hv HSD worst still he doesnt hv sex wit me but he watch porn *SIGH* whenever i approched him abt frequency issue he will put the blame on me y must i have sex dat often its like he is making me feel guilty of asking for more sex..tell me am i in the wrg?
before hubby change to the new company we will 3-4times a weeks.but after change to new company we only have 1-2 times a week, and its always do on weekend only, especially on friday and sat.where the relax mood on and not thinking about workz...for the weekday we never do it again because a stress from works
hi mummies, can i know how many times of sex per week is consider normal? and what is HSD?
I found this thread very entertaining...why stop..keep going....need to learn more leh.
wondering why no one keeps this thread alive. We, married women must learn from each other how to keep the fire in our marriage burning, before it get extinguish by women from outside the marriage.
Just sharing some info bout me n hubby, married for 12 yrs, 3 kids, but sex life is still helluva great!!! And we are 18 yrs apart of age!!!
keep this thread alive, will ya ladies? N gentlemen, if any?
Any of you all got try Yoni massage before? It is supposed to be a tantric way of giving a woman pleasure. *blush*
Wah lau! some of ure husband really good fortune but dunno it!
Married for more than 10 yrs, at first is everyday, than drop to 3 days, than to weekend only than last few yrs to haven't done it liao...the reasons? Tired fm work, but got energy to watch TV whole nite lor..
Half way thru our relationship I have to begged for it, and when she agree (abt 1 time a week) she just lay there and I start to work, take off her cloth, than oral for her, when I want her to oral, she turn her head (sianz), so go in for 30 mins same position cause she not reacting at all, than after finish, take tissue and wipe her, than help her wear back her cloths than she will turn and go sleep...than I feel very bad and guilty. Sometime when she no agree and I cannot tahan I'll wait till she finish her TV show than try to 'ambuse' her but kana side kick fm her, feel like I was raping someone...I tot maybe she bored so also try massage oil or toys but only get to use once after begging for long time, now dunno where I left the stuff. By the way, I always make sure I clean myself clean clean before starting cause I know it stinks, I even spray perfume hor.
Sometimes when I think she might be in the mood, I'll go bath and clean myself than wait and standby, then once her TV show finish I super happy tot can start but in the end kana side kick....sadz
Ok, maybe my drive is high, I need it daily but I respect so wait till weekend, but now no have...
From my previous relationship, I think my skill still ok lor, I read alot of `self-improvement book'(those AV show are veri fake by the way), can go on whole nite if the feeling is spontaneous, only problem I have is I take a long time to come so at times it is very tiring for the other party, so most of the time after they come I'll stop and later secretly go toilet cause dun want to let them feel 'insulted'.
Before married I read her horoscope suppose to be super ON type and adventurous but I think kana cheated (stupid book), not true lor..maybe it's work stress i dunno.
I love sex as it gets us closer and is always ready to try anything new but I think she maybe the type tat think there are more to sex and so I seldom force her, if have urge go toilet or watch DVD. Ok, I did went Gaylang once but after tat don't feel good, no feeling and for tat moment of happiness have to pay $$$. So now save and go toilet...
I tried to convince myself to respect her by not forcing but sometime I ask myself WHY LIKE TAT!! At times my ego is affected, feel like I not good enuf.. T_T
And here we've husband who complain!!! What the???
I guess it all depends on individual...I wonder when she'll ever oral me in morning to wake me up..sign
How to do it best for him/her? I think it depends on individual leh. But wiliness and enjoying it shld be the trick. If one party is against it then u will just feel bad instead of sense of achievement...dun force ureself too much cause u will not enjoy it and end up feeling like you owe him/her one...If both reach a stage of wiliness to explore is the best cause both will be willing to guide and share. Unfortunately some just dun talk abt it like it is something bad or dirty...too much influence by upbringing and those DVD.
Just my 5 cent worth, believe those in this post are pretty open-minded so will not edit my words:
I think a girl is sexy if she enjoy doing oral for me, without me asking for it and it feels good. Haven't have the kind of luck when I need to refuse.
Eye-contact and sound is important, imagine licking ice-cream, small talk like hmm yummy works too.
The tip is veri sensitive too. some like if she suck hard other dun. Ask ure guy.
If adventurous enuf let him come in your mouth, he'll go crazy! but dun immediately spit it out or say things like eee, yak, straight away feeling will drop to Ground ZERO, take it in like u enjoy it. Need abit of acting here, it's not the sweetest taste (I heard if eat banana before hand will taste like banana, but again no luck to try).
Get the mood in first, like kiss ear, nipple neck tummy toe back etc. Most girl once in the mood the rest is easy, will have to figure out wat turn them on.
The oral part is to change gear at the right time, know when to go fast and hard, when to slow and easy. The ladies can always guide the guys.
Usually start slow than go fast. Eye-contact and sound helps also. The side and the tip are usually good place to start, sensitive lor.
Putting a pillow under backside or raising her buttocks and bringing her vaginal closer to ure face seems to work for some as well.
Alot of guys think that when she is coming, suppose to go faster but doesn't seems to work tat way, suppose to maintain the pattern.
Pressing lightly down on the tummy btw the bi-zai and vaginal when she coming seems to work too.
Once can accept oral, can try finger.
I think sex is not just abt the guy coming or putting in than in out in out, the gal can easily come just by oral because the mind and the mood is important. Franky, guys are easy and more challenging for gals but it is worth it if willing!
Also, dun have to wait till night, can start the day with SMS or phone calls. Flirt around so will tahan the whole day and look forward to night time
Another small thing, no old underwear with holes, see already no mood liao. Lancy type veri good, or t-shirt without bra.
Just sharing my experience, might not work for some. For quick lesson watch DVD, but if have time read books, few hours of reading can give a lifetime of happiness 性福 haha.
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Hubby and I both enjoy oral sex. In fact, this is the only way I can come, so he always makes sure that I get it. He also loves blow job, and sometimes we would just have oral sex to satisfy each other. Our sex life is great, and after being together for 4 yrs now (married for 1.5 yr), we still have sex at least 2-3 times a week. I love a man who is adventurous and also open-minded.
With my ex husband, he never did oral for me, and I must say our sex life was also something that made us incompatible and lead to divorce in the end.
i really admired and envy all of you here...
I hv not touched my wife for 2 whole yrs already...
Simply becoz she refused me...
And in fact we are sort of having cold war and worse yet she mentioned she wanted divorce....
My story can be seen at Matters Of The Heart under Divorce Support Group.
my wife is not the HSD type too.. but she is able to accomodate me.. so freq is about at most 3 times a month.. now that we have a child, all the more is not convenient.. but we do try to find our own intimacy time, like just woken up (can get really kinky), when we on leave (and my child in childcare)..
now as we age, sex has become more matured affair, although i admit i do like a bit of fun here and there..
and no , my wife dun like oral, both ways..
I'm married for 6 years. Sexlife is great for many years, cos we are pretty much the adventurous type. Past 1.5 years been TTC unsuccessfully with 1 mc in between.
Becos of TTC, the spontaneity has somewhat lessened. There's a lot of planning, ovulation testing. We skipped all oral because of bacteria in our mouths, something we missed alot. But it's according to doc's advice.
I guess despite everything, we still cherish each other and enjoy being close to each other.
Sometimes when we can't hv sex due to some reason...Hugging and kissing each other, holding hands/sleeping side by side also feels as intimate as if we made love.
i'm going to celebrate my 6yrs anni with my hubby next week.. planning to have create another member to our family in this short getaway. however, despite all the foreplay, i always get dry half way through. How to "maintain" the wetness so that my hubby's "P" wun get "injured" during e process??
Recent findings discovered that oral sex increased the risk of mouth cancer by few hundred %. Therefore it's better to abstain from oral sex.
To mummy_baby2008, you can use lubricant.
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