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Any Mums with Only One Child Age 4 & Above?

Discussion in 'Year 2004 and earlier Mums' started by sharon_c, Feb 28, 2006.

  1. sharon_c

    sharon_c New Member

    Hi, i notice majority of the mummies here are discussing baby's issues, any mummies with only one child age 4 & above? I have a 4 yr old daughter in K1 this year!
     
  2. belladona

    belladona New Member

    HI, I've only one daughter now in K2!
     
  3. sharon_c

    sharon_c New Member

    Hi, is it by choice you have one child? For me, i am happy with just only one!
     
  4. belladona

    belladona New Member

    Yes...by choice. so where are you staying?
     
  5. sharon_c

    sharon_c New Member

    Jurong East. How about you? Do you feel 'left out' in this forum? I mean that majority are discussing babies stuffs!
     
  6. nice_to_shop

    nice_to_shop New Member

    Hi,there,
    I have only 1 daughter in K2 this year. I stay in Choa Chua Kang.
    Yes, I do feel left out in this forum.Not only becos the most mummies here are discussin babies stuff, but also everyone seems to know everyone else for so long.... ha ha.
     
  7. freedom

    freedom New Member

    hi..i'm new here :D

    i've a son in k1 now...trying hard for a second one..
     
  8. belladona

    belladona New Member

    hello...Yee Kay
     
  9. pink_tulip

    pink_tulip Active Member

    Hello to all! [​IMG]

    I don't 'qualify' to be in this thread... hee... cos I have two kids. But I do meet the condition of having a child aged 4! Can I join? Well, my elder gal is 4 yo (in Nursery) and my younger gal is 2 yo.
     
  10. mngo

    mngo Active Member

    Hi all
    most of the mummies here, yeah you are right that they are discussing abt babies stuff [​IMG]. I guess part of it is because they or rather we(cos i inclusive) were from the www.singaporebrides.com forum which we discussed abt bridal affair and such. Then most of us got pregnant at the same time...... thats why [​IMG]

    and then there were threads in singaporebrides forum which is like Mothers to be thread. subsequently those threads were moved to this website. and we continued....

    mmm most of our kiddos r v young. like 3yo or lesser.
     
  11. mngo

    mngo Active Member

    oh yea to add on, "everyone seem to know everyone" also cos we had been chatting in the forum for quite.. few years? and we do meet ups for gathering too [​IMG]
     
  12. nice_to_shop

    nice_to_shop New Member

    Hi to all,
    I came across this forum sometimes ago, but didn't join in the chat cos, not quite comfortable with the way it's classified...like 2005 mums and 2004 and earlier mums.

    May be I am just more used to keeptouch Community Portal's forums styles and format.

    Only join in when I saw the threads "Stay at Home Moms" (but this is in the Marketplace and Exchange Corner!)and this "Mums with one child age 4 & above".
     
  13. nice_to_shop

    nice_to_shop New Member

    Hi,
    Any mums here cracking head, can't decide which Primary School to register for you kid?
     
  14. belladona

    belladona New Member

    yeah...

    for me too late to do..community work..etc...Roysth would be a good choice but I stay at SengKang..probably choose somewhere near hougang..
     
  15. belladona

    belladona New Member

    Hi pink tulip!..are you the one in the amore thread as well??
     
  16. pink_tulip

    pink_tulip Active Member

    Belladona

    Hi! Yes, I 'met' you 'there'! I remember you. Wow you have a kid in K2 already!
     
  17. janet_lee88

    janet_lee88 New Member

    Hi mummies,
    Looks like you will be registering your 6 year olds for P1 this year huh ? Dragon babies right ? Which school are you going to put them in ?
     
  18. nice_to_shop

    nice_to_shop New Member

    My girl will be in South View Primary School, luckily can register under Phase 2A, no need to ballot!

    Janet,
    yours will be in Pei Hwa right? My husband's niece and friend's niece also there.
     
  19. janet_lee88

    janet_lee88 New Member

    Hi Van,
    We hope to put him there. You lucky ah, phase 2A. My hubby wants to put the boy at Pei Hwa and doing voluntary work. I am stressed just thinking of it because the school standard is high and my boy's Mandarin is kinda lousy.
     
  20. janet_lee88

    janet_lee88 New Member

    Hi mummies,
    My 2nd one came quite unexpectedly. My boy was already 4 then. But we are happy with the surprise as we had always wanted to have a girl. Now my girl is climbing and imitating her brother.
     
  21. nice_to_shop

    nice_to_shop New Member

    Janet,
    My brother-in-law bought an old apartment in Bt Timah area just to put his daughter in Pei Hwa, ended up that year didn't need to ballot.

    One of my girl's teacher also doing voluntary work at South View, just to get her son in. Yet my hushand's still not very convinced that we should put her in South View. Sign.
     
  22. janet_lee88

    janet_lee88 New Member

    Van,
    What a nice break to come to this thread to chat instead of buying/selling all the time. HaHaHa.

    My son was born in 2000 (year of the dragon). Since my hubby is doing voluntary service, he will be under phase 2B. I am not sure have to ballot or not. BTW, is yr hubby's niece stressed in Pei Hwa ?
     
  23. nice_to_shop

    nice_to_shop New Member

    Janet,
    According to my sis-in-law(brother-in-law's wife=SIL?), her daughter's scores is only 60-70 marks most of the time,compared to my cousin's comments tat it's very easy to score 90-100marks during P1-P3.

    She also missed a lot of Saturday activities cos my BIL stay in Bt Panjang,they said it's too far to send her to Bt Timah and they don't have car.

    But my friend's niece seems to be quite happy at PeiHwa, 1st half year of Pr 1 very relaxed.
     
  24. janet_lee88

    janet_lee88 New Member

    Thanks for the info Van.
     
  25. cameron

    cameron New Member

    Hi,

    I also have only 1 child - a girl and she's turning 4 soon.
     
  26. janet_lee88

    janet_lee88 New Member

    Hi Van,
    I am not the sort who will pressure my kids in terms of academic work. Ironically, the one who is under pressure is my hubby. So, I do remind him not to do that without my kids around. As long as my son tries his best, I'm satisfied. Kids of today don't get to enjoy childhood already. So I don't want him to feel too pressurized.
     
  27. nice_to_shop

    nice_to_shop New Member

    Hi,Janet,
    Nowadays it's very hard to find parents who don't feel pressurize when come to kids'academic work, with the streaming system (which is what I hated most).Boys are tougher,as they are usually late-bloomer.

    Then we see all these tution centre for English,Chinese,Maths and even Science every where.Sometimes I do wonder why do these centre need to exist? Aren't the children supposed to learn what they need to know about these subjects in school?
     
  28. janet_lee88

    janet_lee88 New Member

    I agree with you Van. At most, I will send my son for Chinese tuition if necessary. But kids + MUMMIES are already so stressed now.
     
  29. nice_to_shop

    nice_to_shop New Member

    But I am in favour of letting my girl exposed to different activities/programmes BEFORE she starts her primary school.So she can choose those that she really like and continue afer she starts Primary when she will have limited free time.

    Apparently, she likes ballet very much, although I send her for ballet more for a form of exercise,as I am worried that she may face same problem like me,having arthritis with stiff back,ballet seems to be a good form of stretching exercise.
     
  30. janet_lee88

    janet_lee88 New Member

    Hi Van,
    My son loves to draw and honestly he is not bad. He's in K2 this year, so can still afford the time. I would like to let him continue next year if he really has the talent. Just don't know if he has the time for art lessons in P1.
     
  31. spanielpups

    spanielpups Member

    Hi, I have a 5yr old son in K1. Only 1 child, stay in CCK. Agreed that most talk here are about babies.....
     
  32. nice_to_shop

    nice_to_shop New Member

    Hi,
    Spanielpups,
    I am also staying in CCK, I have 1 girl in K2.Are you a FTWM or SAHM?
     
  33. spanielpups

    spanielpups Member

    Hi Van

    Pardon me, but what's a FTWM and SAHM? I am abit poor with abbreviation! hahahah.
     
  34. spanielpups

    spanielpups Member

    Hi Janet

    Is there any reasons why your husband is not keen to put yr kid in SouthView? I thought that is a one of the better school around Teckwhye/CCK. My neighbour has to ballot her daughter to get in the school even though we live less than 0.3km from the school.
     
  35. nice_to_shop

    nice_to_shop New Member

    Spanielpups,

    FTWM=Full Time Working Mom
    SAHM=Stay AT Home Mom

    I think you might have mixed up,it's my hb who is not keen to put my kid in South View, not Janet. Janet is going to put her 1st child in Pei Hwa.

    Probably becos some of his friends and his own brother brain-washed him about how important it is to put the kids into a Good(Elite?Branded?)school, instead of neighbourhood school.

    My Brother in law even went to the extent of buying an old apartment in Bt Timah for his daughter to get into Pei Hwa,so may be my hb thought he's not doing enough for his darling?

    He knew that both South View and De La Salle are two of the most popular schools in CCK, need balloting every year,but may be he's not convinced that it is a "Good" school.
     
  36. sharon_c

    sharon_c New Member

    Wow, i'm so happy to know still have a few mummies like me having older kid(s)!

    Heard Pei Hwa principal is good but they are offering higher chinese for the students!

    This year have to monitor the registeration for next year P1 students! I have a few choices in mind & hopefully can choose the right one for my gal (& me)! [​IMG]
     
  37. spanielpups

    spanielpups Member

    Hi Van

    I am a FTWM. For schools, I am easy as long as it is convenient location (child dun have to wake up like 5am in the morning to board the schoolbus type), of course I would choose one of the better schools in neighbourhood. I dun believe in going to branded schools. Not all students in branded schools are top students, there are some that flop their exams too. Also dun believe in stressing the child. hahaha.
     
  38. belladona

    belladona New Member

    Thinking of bringing my daughter to have her ears pierced... anyone esle has done this before? where to pierce? my time, my mum brought me to the gold smith shop to pierce
     
  39. janet_lee88

    janet_lee88 New Member

    Spanielpups,
    Southview is too far. I've got a few options - Bukit Timah Primary, Keming, Pei Hwa. To us, our priority is CLOSE proximity to home. So we will try either Bukit Timah OR Pei Hwa. I don't believe in branded schools because sometimes teachers see $$$ more important than the students. Besides, I don't want my child to feel less privileged in schools where kids have lots of money. There is always that peer pressure.
     
  40. janet_lee88

    janet_lee88 New Member

    Hi Sharon,
    Don't worry, there are many mummies here who have older kids too.

    I've done some 'homework' regarding primary schools in the West. Forget about Nanyang, it's close to impossible getting in. Bukit Timah & Pei Hwa offer higher Chinese but it's not what you and I fear. At this point, I heard that the primary 1 chinese syllabus will be changed as of next year.

    Registration for primary 1 will start in July. So, time to get serious about which primary school to put your child in. If you can't get affiliated secondary school, then the other priority is close to home and not so stressful for the child.
     
  41. sharon_c

    sharon_c New Member

    Hi Janet,

    Do you know Fuhua? Thot of it coz is nearer to my house but it is going to merge with another primary school in 2008. Not sure is it a good choice now!
     
  42. janet_lee88

    janet_lee88 New Member

    Sharon,
    Sorry, I'm not familiar with Fuhua. There are just too many primary schools now. Sometimes, I wonder if there is a need. I used to be from Swiss Cottage primary, but now it has been merged with another primary school.

    Do some homework about the schools you have shortlisted. Check out the principal, school environment and teachers too.
     
  43. spanielpups

    spanielpups Member

    Hi Janet

    It is also a 50% chance of getting in to SouthView. My neighbour tries to get her grand daugther in and it was like 120 seats with 230 balleting for it. We live less than 0.3km from SouthView....!!! If I can't get my son in, think I will try Concord Primary School which is within walking distance from my mom's place. [​IMG]
     
  44. janet_lee88

    janet_lee88 New Member

    Spanielpups,
    If you use your mum's place, then I'm not too sure if the priority is as high. Primary schools in Singapore are good, not necessarily branded schools. So, do some research before registration starts.
     
  45. sharon_c

    sharon_c New Member

    Thanks Janet, guess i will have to check out the school first then! [​IMG]
     
  46. shimmrs

    shimmrs Member

    <font color="ff6000">Hi,Hi!Sharon!</font>

    <font color="aa00aa">Janet</font>
    looks like you did quite a bit of homework liao hor? so your priority is Pei Hwa i supposed? Btw, is Arise kinder located inside Church of Singapore? Opposite Courts?

    its nice to read so much useful info here!
     
  47. janet_lee88

    janet_lee88 New Member

    Hi Sharon,
    Primary school is the 'serious' first school that the child attends. So, it's very important that the principal/teachers are motivators and don't see $$$ more impt than the kids.

    Mrs Shim,
    Arise Kindergarten is located inside Church of Singapore. I hope to put my son in Pei Hwa because I've talked to the principal and find that she is a Christian and that she cares. BTW, I'm not a Christian. Also because so near home.
     
  48. sharon_c

    sharon_c New Member

    Hi my dear Mrs Shim! :D

    Thanks Janet but how do i know especially i found out that there will be a merge of Pandan Pri &amp; Fuhua Pri in 2008. So i believe there will be a change in the management! Right?
     
  49. janet_lee88

    janet_lee88 New Member

    Actually, it depends on which principal will have to go if there is a merger of schools. Why don't you make an appt to visit the school for a visit ?
     
  50. sharon_c

    sharon_c New Member

    Thanks Janet, i think i will do so!
     
  51. janet_lee88

    janet_lee88 New Member

    Sharon,
    Your child is 6 this year ? Ask around and try to get a school less than 2km if you have no links (Phase 2C).

    Mrs Shim,
    I will put my girl in Arise when she's 4. That is, if the principal is still the same lady.
     
  52. serenade

    serenade New Member

    Hi mummies,

    Sorry to interupt your chat. I have questions that only mothers with older kids can help. So, please kindly share with me on the following. Thanks in advance.

    My 3+ years old niece is currently attending a church nursery class. A few months ago, the teacher told my sister that my niece wasn't good at coloring and advised her to enrol my niece for some private drawing lessons. Just last week, the teacher spoke with my sister abt my niece's weakness in Chinese. Apparently my niece can't speak Mandarin (perhaps she didn't want to) and can't recognize any chinese characters so far. (But she has no problems with understanding and singing in Mandarin, in fact she can recite the San Zi Jing) So, we speculate that the teacher is "asking" my sister to send my niece for some chinese enrichment classes.

    I'm a bit confused. What can we expect from the nursery schools - Nursery 1 &amp; Nursery 2, i.e what does the N1 &amp; N2 teach? Are 3 years old kids expected to know things such as coloring, writing, reading (English &amp; Chinese), numbers etc before attending the nursery schools? Is it a trend for kids to attend both Nursery schools and enrichment classes at the same time? Would it be better if my niece attended the enrichemnt classes instead of nursery schools then?

    Btw, my niece is a end december kid. She's actually 3+ years old but attending the Nursery class meant for 4 years old. My sister is contemplating to take her out of the class and enrol her again next year. Should she look for another preschool? Some have advised to place my niece in full day childcare. What are your views?
     
  53. sharon_c

    sharon_c New Member

    Hi Janet, my gal is in K1 but my nephew will be 6 soon! My sis is thinking to enrol him in Fuhua which i too would like my gal to be in the same sch as him!
     
  54. sharon_c

    sharon_c New Member

    Hi Serenade, actually not necessary to enrol her in any enrichment classes now! I believe she will pick up the 'skills' when she is in K1.

    Like my gal, she didn't know how to speak Mandarin or understand Chinese when she was in N1 or N2, but when she is in K1, she seems to 'improve' tremendously! Which also include colouring &amp; drawing!

    However i do let her attends phonics when she was in N2 for her to socialise with new friends! Though learning wasn't my main objective to send her to this class but i do see she learnt something from it which i'm very glad! [​IMG]
     
  55. janet_lee88

    janet_lee88 New Member

    Hi Serenade,
    Maybe I be kaypoh since I'm online now. My son's Mandarin is terrible. He can't speak well and his teacher has recommended that we speak to him more Mandarin at home, read Chinese story books and watch programs. He didn't attend any pre-nursery classes or enrichment before nursery class. Actually he has improved somewhat. Before nursery, he hated Mandarin but now he sings Mandarin songs taught in school. He's going to P1 next year and I am worried. But yet, can't push him too much.

    My girl is also a year-end kid. So, I will only send her to nursery class at term 3 or she will be far behind compared to her peers who are born earlier. Anyway, girls will mature faster. So, don't worry too much. This advice was given by my friend.
     
  56. nice_to_shop

    nice_to_shop New Member

    Hi Serenade,

    I am speaking from my personal experiences with my girl who is aslo End Dec kid, and whose Mandarin was terrible initially but is showing progress now.

    Frnakly, I am surprise that the pre-school teachers asked your sister to sign your niece up for drawing and Chinese enrichment classes. Your niece is only 3 1/2 years, she should be learning all these basics in her nursery.There shouldn't be any need to to for such enrichment classes at this stage. Is her class too big that the teacher cannot afford to spend more time,give your niece more attention when she needs help?

    I would say my girl's pre-school teacher did a wonderful job of reading and making her read a whole series of Chinese books.Besides, I started a Speak Mandarin Days for my girl at home, every Mon,Wed,Fri, we will speak to her in Mandarin at home.

    She may not be as fluent as those who are from Mandarin Speaking homes, but at least she doesn't ignore people who spoke to her in Mandarin, like she did before.

    Ask your sister to look around for other pre-schools and compare their curriculum,styles,systems.

    I agree that Phonics is important, preferably they should start latest from nursery, if not playgroup.My girl started phonics when she's two.

    Hanyu Pinyin is better to defer until after they have learned English phonics to avoid confusing them.
     
  57. janet_lee88

    janet_lee88 New Member

    Hi Van,
    I am kiasu. Thought of sending my son for Hanyu Pinyin enrichment class in his school but a lot of my friends also told me to defer that and build up his foundation in English phonics instead. So, I signed up for English phonics and his favourite art for term 3. As for Hanyu Pinyin, it will be taught in Primary 1. Maybe, I will start my daughter on phonics when she's 2.
     
  58. nice_to_shop

    nice_to_shop New Member

    Janet,
    I thought Hanyu Pinyin is taught in K2? My girl is learning Hanyu Pinyin in her K2 class. On top of that, her school aslo give Chinese Speech and Drama lessons weekly since K1,taught by her Chinese teacher from China. She has learned some Tang Shi(poems) so far, and acted out some dramas.

    It is good to start phonics when your girl is 2.
     
  59. janet_lee88

    janet_lee88 New Member

    Van,
    My son's Chinese teacher told me she will not be teaching Hanyu Pinyin in K2 as the kids are trying to build up their foundation in English phonics. Teaching them h.pinyin will confuse them.
     
  60. serenade

    serenade New Member

    Hi all,

    Thanks for your encouraging views. I'll surely convey your experiences and views to my sister. As Van has suggested, perhaps my niece needs a different type of nursery environment that encourages and allows her to learn.

    Seriously, I was beginning to worry for my 3 years old (just turned 3) son who knows nothing abt Chinese. I was actually thinking of pushing him in Chinese. But after reading your views, I agree that things just can't be rushed.

    Btw, may I know what type of phonics do the kids learn at 2 years old? all the 44 odd letter sounds? How abt blending? Do kids find it easy to blend words?

    Thanks a great deal for your help!
     

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