DEAR ALL
I'm NEW to this thread
I'm a mother to a pair of non-identical twin boys. They're 16months old now. I stay in East Coast. So i'm not sure if i'm right for this thread since my boys aren't newborns but they still babies in my eyes
RE: Childcare.
Arranging for infant care was a nightmare for me when my boys first arrived bcos my MIL is getting on in age & she was pretty busy helping my SIL with her 2 girls, aged 12 & 4, so her hands were pretty full. Besides, my SIL told me a few times that my MIL doesn't know how to handle babies hence i was really scratching my head on infant-care arrangements....all these along with all the morning sickness & Big Growing Belly...hahaha.
Likewise, my mum isn't exactly good with babies either. And the fact that I'm a first-time mummy with twins, it was a terrible time for me & quitting my job wasn't a viable option for practical reasons.
What me & hubby did was engaging confinement nannies for the 1st 3 months along with 2 maids. So u can imagine how hefty the cost was to us!!!
But we have no choice. 1 maid is not going to be able to cope with 2 crying babies, hence we need 2 maids ... the nannies were hired to show the maids the ropes ie how to feed/bathe the babies.
From 4th month onwards, we stopped hiring naniies & my boys were left in the care of my 2 maids. I admit this is not the best solution but it was the best AVAILABLE option for me. So I can fully understand MTB or new mummies having a headache over infant-or-child care arrangements. But of cos, when i returned to work, we actually send the boys & maids to my in-law's place for "supervision" or "cursory glance" just so that my maids won't "torture" my boys. But of cos my in-laws aren't at home all the time. So there'll be times where babies are alone with the maids. This is where I PRAY HARD that my maids won't do anything nasty to my kids. I guess we all know by now the infamous YouTube video of the Indonesian maid who torture a 2-month old baby. So naturally I'm worried too but what to do ...hence every morning we send boys & maids to inlaws' place...everyday after work, pick them up & bring them home. Life is tough but what to do.... That's Life
So to all MTBs & new mummies who are facing somewhat similar predicament, my heart goes out to you. Hang In There... hahaha ... "Jia You".