As some of the readers may know, I'm recently got divorced and my kids' follow me. Just trying to get a feel on how some mummies think here........
My qn here is, do you believe your husband should split the expenses and etc fairly with you? Or do you think as a husband he should contribute more?
My court order didn't state any maintenance that my ex is supposed to give me every month. (Long story why it wasn't included). But my ex gives me about 1200 every month which is 50% of the kids' school fees, maid levy and salary. I pay the other 50% of course.
I grew up in a family where my mom paid for everything because my dad never stayed in a job for long and didn't really save money. So i thought it was ok for a woman to pay for everything. (why so traditional right?)
My ex said before he only gives what is required and what is fair to him. His mindset that if he earns $5000, he will only give $1200 for the kids and the rest - since it's his money, he can decide how he want to spend it. I thought dads will spend on their kids first before themselves.... no ?
If i file for official maintenance, what if the court decides he should give me an amount lesser than what he's giving me now?
My 2 kids edudcation costs abt $1600 a month, + maid's salary of about $600 and a levy of $60. Thus my ex pays me 50% of the above cost which is about $1160 per month. He doesn't contribute for anything else. All other expenses like their food and groceries are paid by me.
My qn here is, do you believe your husband should split the expenses and etc fairly with you? Or do you think as a husband he should contribute more?
My court order didn't state any maintenance that my ex is supposed to give me every month. (Long story why it wasn't included). But my ex gives me about 1200 every month which is 50% of the kids' school fees, maid levy and salary. I pay the other 50% of course.
I grew up in a family where my mom paid for everything because my dad never stayed in a job for long and didn't really save money. So i thought it was ok for a woman to pay for everything. (why so traditional right?)
My ex said before he only gives what is required and what is fair to him. His mindset that if he earns $5000, he will only give $1200 for the kids and the rest - since it's his money, he can decide how he want to spend it. I thought dads will spend on their kids first before themselves.... no ?
If i file for official maintenance, what if the court decides he should give me an amount lesser than what he's giving me now?
My 2 kids edudcation costs abt $1600 a month, + maid's salary of about $600 and a levy of $60. Thus my ex pays me 50% of the above cost which is about $1160 per month. He doesn't contribute for anything else. All other expenses like their food and groceries are paid by me.
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