Sheryl
Don mind me. Ur hubby ought to be shot lo ! Come on la- daddy already got to learn how to share responsibilities. Having kids is not a 'by the way' matter. It is not oops ok now we have kids. Ok lo. It's a beautiful thing to have them. I was told by my specialist that I may not be able to hv kids before I got married. I broke off with my then ex boyfriend. Cos he loved kids a lot. A bit drama right. But it's true. Sometimes it is just not possible to get kids as easy as others. And some easy to get preggie but not easy to keep the baby.
Bottomline: tell ur hubby- don't take things for granted!
And, Sheryl, pls take care of urself. Hvg babies is a blessing, you must be a happy mum to enjoy it. Yes , there bound to be conflicts, frustrations, but at the end of the day, it is the most beautiful thing to share a joined project with the person u loved most and this is a lifelong project my dear. U hv to be open with him to understand if he is ready and open to be a responsible dad. Being responsible is not just about, ok lo let's get married. Its about sharing woes, burden, holding ur hands when u need to cross a hurdle. Not leaving u to bear the work pressure on ur own, not leaving u to worry abt spotting. And if he is not grown up yet, hv a heart to heart talk, not thru sms. But sit down and share with him calmly how u envision ur future with him together.
Don't carry the burden all on ur own! U r not superwoman.
Sorry if I sounded harsh. But ur hubby needs to know where he stand.