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(2009) TTC a boy. Any advice

Discussion in 'Year 2009 Mums' started by bena, Feb 10, 2009.

  1. bena

    bena New Member

    Hi, I am trying to conceive a boy. Any one have any suggestions/advice on what may increase the chance of conceiving a boy?
     
  2. zolldoll

    zolldoll Member

    I think alot of people follow the chinese calendar, you may surf the net to find some useful address.
     
  3. bena

    bena New Member

    thanks zolldoll. I did search, but i am confused cos i downloaded 2 calendars and both gave different answers for some months.

    Also, do you have any idea if the calendar uses the lunar age and lunar months?
     
  4. cactus_79

    cactus_79 New Member

    Bena, I'm trying for a girl. the calendar was accurate for me - my first was a boy. the calender uses lunar age and lu nar month.
     
  5. bena

    bena New Member

    cactus, how do u calculate lunar age and lunar month? I only know that our lunar age is 1 year older than the english year...what about the month?

    If it shows Oct, that means it's Nov english month?
     
  6. cactus_79

    cactus_79 New Member

    Bena, it's not so straight forward to calculate lunar age. let me try to explain.

    you need to know your chinese birthdate. then look for your chinese birthdate in the year you plan to conceive. that's how you work out the age.

    So, if your chinese birthdate is say lunar 1st month, 1st day, and you conceived today. If your english age is 28, you would be 29 now because you added 1 year as your chinese birthdate had passed. This year's lunar 1st month, 1st day was 26 Jan 2009.

    As for the lunar month, you can refer to any chinese/english calender. Today is lunar 1st month, 16th day.

    Hope this is clear!
     
  7. bena

    bena New Member

    WOW!! chimology!

    Okies...thanks cactus. Will check out!
     
  8. cactus_79

    cactus_79 New Member

    you're welcome! Good luck!!

    BTW, I conceived my boy on ovulation day or after. I can't be sure. Hope this helps.
     
  9. bena

    bena New Member

    cactus, how u calculate ur O day? using kits?
    my mense used to be very regular/accurate till after i had my girl. Since i stop BFing, my mense becomes irregular, between 28 - 34 days. There was a month when it comes when it's only 24 days [​IMG]
     
  10. cactus_79

    cactus_79 New Member

    Bena, I got pregnant on the first cycle that we tried. We were on our honeymoon and we only tried once, then I realised I was pregnant. our honeymoon was midcycle, so I can only assume I conceived on or after ovulation. it can't be before ovulation cos we weren't married yet.

    I'm still BFing my boy, but my menses returned for 2 cycles already. I just started trying this cycle for a baby. am hoping for a girl. [​IMG]
     
  11. jgal

    jgal New Member

  12. jo_tan

    jo_tan New Member

  13. bena

    bena New Member

    Thanks Jgal & Joanna.

    Cactus, good luck! how old is ur boy?
     
  14. cactus_79

    cactus_79 New Member

    My boy is 7.5mths now. I was torn between trying now and trying later... cos I do want a girl, but don't want a tiger baby. yet, I was advised not to get pregnant within 1 year from the birth of my boy cos mine was emerg c-section and my incision is bigger than normal due to the urgency of the situation... but my hb and I already decided to try for a girl asap... so we didn't go back to the doctor for my post-partum consultation.. hehe... scared he will nag at me not be pregnant so soon.. and we started trying just...
     
  15. bena

    bena New Member

    oic. my girl is close to 2.5.
    my mom and relatives/friends all urge me to try for another one...but it's always quality vs quantity...heheh
     
  16. cactus_79

    cactus_79 New Member

    [​IMG] It'll be nice to give your girl a sibing isn't it? I'm an only child. My hb has 2 siblings. we hope for 2 kids. but if the 2nd one is a boy, we may try for a 3rd. [​IMG]
     
  17. covewild

    covewild Member

    Hi,

    I happened to come across this website which shows u your most fertile days and which days are best to conceive girl/boy. If your mens is irregular suggest to take the avg.

    http://www.babyhopes.com/pages.php?pageid=23
     
  18. bena

    bena New Member

    Cactus, yeah. that's what my friend told me too. she's an only child and it can get quite lonely at times. In fact, sometimes see my girl play alone very ke lian.

    covewild...yah lor. my mense irregular these days...i chanced upon this site too...bookmarked it liao :p If i decide to have another one, i hope to have a boi...so i think i will need to rely on OPK + this website liao...heheh.

    Any one of you tried OPK before? i dunno how it works leh. Normal pharmacy can get already?
     
  19. covewild

    covewild Member

    bena,

    me too, i wanted to have a boy for my 2nd as my 1st is a gal. Same as you i've irregular mens too. now, i pregnant with my 2nd and will be having a detail scanning next monday. I've check thru this website and found that my ttc period happened on the most fertile day and the best chance of conceiving a boy. Will see whether this is accurate when i visit my gynae next week... [​IMG]
     
  20. bena

    bena New Member

    covewild, good luck! keep me posted k!!
    Hope your dreams come thru!
    did you use OPK? u use the website before BD or upon strike then u check back the website?
     
  21. covewild

    covewild Member

    bena, thanks. i didn't use OPK and came to know this website after i strike. During my last visit to my gynae, I was told that my baby maybe a boy but cannot confirm cause baby not cooperative..haha.. Will keep u inform once i know the gender..
     
  22. mummy_o

    mummy_o New Member

    Bena
    To up the chances of a boy baby, the woman must have an orgasm everytime you try to conceive cos when the woman is satisfied [​IMG] and have an orgasm, the environment (can't remember it's acidic or alkaline) favours the boy sperm so most of the girl sperm are wiped out, leaving mostly boy sperm to fertilize the egg. Hope this helps. I've 3 boys so this method really worked for me! I didn't want any girls and don't have any!
     
  23. bena

    bena New Member

    mummyo, did you have an O together with ur DH? or u O first then ur DH start the BD (then start to enter)?
     
  24. cynlim

    cynlim Member

    Bena

    I am expecting a boy nw. My 1st child is a gal. When i am try to conceive, i got myself prepared. I started on with my diet. I try to eat more foods that is alkaline. I tried eating alkaline foods for a mth. I also test my urine too. If its alkaline, than i knw i am ready.

    [​IMG]
     
  25. bena

    bena New Member

    cynthia, how are the alkaline foods that you eat? How do u test ur urine? Do you use OPK? Or any special position you adopt? I heard/read that some BD positions favour boys [​IMG] thanks in advance!
     
  26. bena

    bena New Member

    Went to website to check list of alkaline foods and ice cream is not in the list!! Haiz!!
    Is it true that DH must eat more acidic foods?
     
  27. rapple01

    rapple01 Member

    Hi Bena,
    Am also interested to know how to get a boy. My confinement lady did shared with me a concoction that supposed to guarantee boys...but then I dunno where my MIL kept the list. What I could remember was alot of chinese herbs & to drink it every morn. Mayb its better to juz eating alkaline foods.
     
  28. jasc

    jasc Member

    try choice baby.
     
  29. bena

    bena New Member

    rapple, wow, still got concoction ar...heheh. go ask ur MIL. u trying for #2 also?

    JasC, wot choice baby? a website?
     
  30. jasc

    jasc Member

    They will identify for you which is the day which is more favorable for you to conceive baby with gender of your choice. I think is 98% accuracy. can check out www.choicebaby.com It's not cheap but come with money back guarantee.

    As a parent, most importantly, you want to have a baby and you won't mind even if the baby is not gender of your choice.
     
  31. bena

    bena New Member

    jas, thanks. I have a girl...so hoping my next be a boi...
     
  32. jasc

    jasc Member

    Hi Bena

    You can check the site, make appointment, talk to them and decide for yourself.
     
  33. cynlim

    cynlim Member

  34. mummy_o

    mummy_o New Member

    Bena
    Mostly is O together but O as much as you can, it'll only help the boy sperm and put your legs up for 20-30min after your husband ejaculates in you. Helps the little boys to swim upstream faster. Good luck! Hope it works for you!
     
  35. rapple01

    rapple01 Member

    Bena...yup..ttc a boi for #2.
    Oh..veges r alkaline foods. No wonder my MIL been cooking so much veges for me to eat at dinners...until I feel like i'm a cow. But all my fav foods are acidic. Sigh.
     
  36. ireneng

    ireneng New Member

    can anyone advice on treating nappy rash?
     
  37. Nappy rash. Use Desitin. Can get from Guardian/Watson.
     
  38. covewild

    covewild Member

    Hi Bena,

    Went for my for detailed scan yesterday and has been confirmed by my gynae that I will be having a baby boy.
     
  39. bena

    bena New Member

    mummyo, wah! must O together ar...not everytime also can leh [​IMG]

    rapple...same as me leh...i was telling my hubby no wonder we had a girl...cos i love cheese, milk, ice cream...all acidic food...hahah!

    Cynthia, i don think i need the strips at the moment, cos not likely to TTC so soon...maybe 2nd half of the year...but thanks anyway! These strips can be purchase off the shelves at pharmacy?

    Strawberri, i using drapolene for my girl since she was born...till now i am still using on her whenever we wash her butt butt...cheap and good! [​IMG]
     
  40. cynlim

    cynlim Member

    Bena, I dont buy the strips off the shelves at pharmacy. I bought it from a company that sells PH strips.

    I remember that i consume alot of avocado drinks that time. You can try it.
     
  41. bena

    bena New Member

    cynthia, wow...avocado drink? like smoothie those kind? Avocado very high in fat leh...did you put on weight? I am those kind that puts on weight easily :p

    covewild!! Congrats!! So happy for you! and envy you too!!
     
  42. cynlim

    cynlim Member

    Bena

    Its like smoothie type of drink. Its very nice to drink. Avocado is high in vitamin. I never put on weight leh.

    Give it a try 1st. Hehehe....all the best to you. Hear your good news soon. [​IMG]
     
  43. bena

    bena New Member

    cynthia, thanks! will definitely try!!
     
  44. yoji

    yoji Active Member

    Ladies,
    Other than trying alkaline food, did you all BD on your O day to get a boy?
     
  45. bena

    bena New Member

    for those who had a boy, did those chinese calendar thingy works for you?
     
  46. cactus_79

    cactus_79 New Member

    hi humblebee, I BDed on or after my O day for a baby boy.

    Bena, the chinese calendar worked for me. But it didn't work for both of my SILs's #1 pregnancy, and a friend's 1st pregnancy. It was accurate for 8 other pple that I checked.
     
  47. covewild

    covewild Member

    hi Humblebee, i bd on my O day and as for alkaline food, i didnt really try that out. just eat as per normal. But i heard that breakfast very important if u want to have boy. There's a research done on this. woman who has breakfast has higher chance of having a boy. I've breakfast every day without fail.

    Hi Bena,

    Chinese calendar works for my first and 2nd one.
     
  48. lolli_77

    lolli_77 Member

    Hi ladies...

    I'm TTC too... hoping for a boy too since my 1st is a gal... But I'm still BF-ing my gal & menses not back yet. =(
     
  49. 3bears

    3bears Member

    Hi lolli

    My case is similar to yours!
    I'm oso hoping for a boy too cos my 1st is a gal... I'm oso still BF-ing my gal & menses not back yet... my gal is coming to 16-mth soon... how big is your gal?
     
  50. lolli_77

    lolli_77 Member

    Hi 3bears,

    my gal is 19-mths old... how how? have you weaned her off? Or starting to?

    I'm at such a loss cos i dunno how to start weaning her off =(

    Can you tell whether you are ovulating? Haiz I really dunno if I am and dunno what are my chances of conceiving if I dont wean her off
     
  51. jgal

    jgal New Member

    Wah [​IMG] 3bears your menses not back yet.. so envious.
    I have a 11 mth gal too..

    I wish for a boy because I had a gal already and I enjoy every min with her.

    hi lolli77.
     
  52. cactus_79

    cactus_79 New Member

    lolli, I'm currently BFing my 8 month old boy. my menses has returned. I introduced semi solids at 6 months and stopped night feeds. then my menses resumed.
     
  53. bena

    bena New Member

    wow 3bears, lolli, how did you manage to BF ur child so long? i only managed abt 9months then supply run low till no more. Any tips??
     
  54. lolli_77

    lolli_77 Member

    Hi!

    cactus_79: I introduced semi solids at ard 5 mths but I didn't stop the night feeds. Or rather I dunno how to stop =( Till now my gal is still waking up at night to nurse... haiz

    I introduced formula milk for 1 feed when she turned 13mths, and slowly increase to 2 feeds so I can stop pumping altogether. Only nurse her at night.

    But still my menses hasn't come back =( Maybe I really have to stop the night feeds before it resumes.

    Bena >> Do you latch your gal on? or only pump? I think latching helps. My supply did drop when I started working and it dropped even further when she turned 1. Whenever I saw my supply dipping, I will introduce additional pump sessions. But also I had alotta stored milk so still managed to last. Maybe you can try eating more fish?
     
  55. bena

    bena New Member

    lolli, that is so good. I latch her on fully will i started working. during office hours i will pump out, then for her dinner and supper, i will latch her on...but supply drained so fast since i started working [​IMG]
    Actually i think i made a mistake. When i just delivered, i had so much supply, but did not pump out the excess...guess as time passes, the demand vs supply kicks in [​IMG]
     
  56. cactus_79

    cactus_79 New Member

    lolli, what I did was to express milk for the night feeds. menses is more likely to return if we stop feeding between 12 midnight to 6am, (prolactin levels which supress ovulation are the highest then), and if we nurse less frequently than once every 6 hours. meaning 4 pumps or less every 24 hours.
     
  57. lolli_77

    lolli_77 Member

    Bena, ya actually i feel the demand and supply thing kicks in very quickly... as in the supply can just drop soooo quickly when i dun pump / nurse.

    cactus_79, ya recently i read it somewhere abt the stopping feeding b/w 12mn to 6am. I'm thinking how i can stop that night feed... let my gal cry it out? Or hide so that she cannot see me haha. I shd really start somewhere...

    Currently I only nurse her twice at night, once ard 11pm and once ard 5am.

    But do I need my menses to come back before I can conceive?
     
  58. cactus_79

    cactus_79 New Member

    Lolli, what you can do is to express your milk during the day, and feed your bb with the expressed milk at night if she needs to drink it?

    On wheteher you need your menses to come back before you can conceive, it depends.

    We are fertile about 2 weeks before our menses returns. But for some women, the 1st time our menses returns, it is preceeded by a non-ovulatory period. It's the same reason why some women constantly have menses, but have problems ovulating. It is easier to conceive if you have regular menses. Hope this helps!
     
  59. 3bears

    3bears Member

    Hi lolli
    I'm latching her for one morning & one nite feed... and sometimes on her demand... i oso find it difficult to wean her off... had actually wanted to wean her off when she's 12-mth... then drag until now 16-mth liao...
    But i have just started her on FM few weeks back... so hopefully can wean her off totally soon.
    I oso dunno when I will start ovulating... but i heard that there are some mummies who do get pregnant while they are still bf-ing... some managed to catch the 1st egg (i.e. b4 their menses return) while others have their menses return oredi.

    Hi jgal
    R u still bf-ing your gal?

    Hi Bena
    I dun have any special tips leh... I guess it's just the determination to bf my gal until she's at least 1-year old... plus I'm really fortunate to have sufficient supply which makes it easier to persist on... and eventually it just become a routine/habit.

    Hi cactus
    For me, i continue to latch my gal on is because of convenience. Like i will nurse her at nite to make her fall asleep, and she tends to wake up around 6am for the morning feed, so i dun have to get out of bed to warm BM or prepare FM.
    Guess it will still take some time to wean my girl off totally...
     
  60. lolli_77

    lolli_77 Member

    Hi cactus
    Actually I feel my gal is comfort-nursing more than she's hungry, so the bottle wont help. Somehow when she sees me, she just refuses the bottle. However, if I'm not around, my hubby finds it so much easier to give her the bottle.
    Thanks for the information!

    Hi 3bears,
    Hee hee same for me, wanted to wean her off from 6-mths, then dragged to 9-mths, then dragged to 12-mths, now she's 19mths!
    I'm the same, continuing to latch out of convenience, haha I am really lazy to get out of bed in the middle of the nite to feed her =p Haiz my hubby is just as lazy hence everytime I say I wanna wean her off, he'll just go.. never mind, continue to nurse =p

    I started to stop nursing her in the middle of the night last Thurs. Wah, nitemare! She cried non-stop for 1 hour, and after which still cried on and off for another hour. But I didn't wanna give in, so I ended up having "war" with her from 4-6am on thurs night. Was so tired on Fri. Last night was better surprisingly, she woke up twice but I managed to pat her back to sleep quite soon. Hopefully it will just get better.
     

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