Call Mummies who ex who owe maintenance arrears

mimicoco77

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Hi all

I like to open a private Whatapp chat group to strategize on getting our divorce Maint back.

Also I intend to do a monthly get together (online via either skpe or click meeting) that we can all teleconference n support each other's.



PM me if interested.
 


Hi all

I like to open a private Whatapp chat group to strategize on getting our divorce Maint back.

Also I intend to do a monthly get together (online via either skpe or click meeting) that we can all teleconference n support each other's.



PM me if interested.
Is there a judgement yet on maintenance that he hv to pay?
 
There is enforcement, but useless. No penalty, law will tell u.. what the use of jailing him.. so, the children suffered cos the law take pity on the man who cried no money, they just prove it they don't hv work - so easy.
 
I seen women crying in the family court.. but there is nothing the judge can do to help the suffering children who just hv to survive on a loaf of per week. Even thought, we all know the the mistresses were having a good times with yr ex. The world has changed. No more judgement bathe family court mediator will stress AN Affair is not a CRIME!!!
 
I guess we hv to tell everyone our story n invite all similar ordeal to stand up.. not to suffer in silence but to share here n let people know how our law system works
 
Tell the judge.. then, same thing happened every month . The law is not protecting the children.. enforcement also no use. My ex own me 47k , amount fr 2 yrs ago... at almost I get some cash if the judge bother to make him go ATM to withdraw. Usually, the judge themselves need to balance emotions too as they hear same old story again n again. Sometimes , I feel the judge just trying to tell us -GIVE UP
 
Then again , I not not advocating to give up. I believe there will be one day . Someone who hv high authority will seen this issue. One thing we can do is to keep this tread active n update with problem faced to share insight. This will be evidence that there is this group of mummies being sandwiched n not received any maintenance n their ex earring big bucks n hv wonderfully time abandoned their parenting responsibilities.
 
I do know that you could go AWARE and sign up with DP Credit Bureau and they would send him monthly reminders. If their payment is not prompt or there's outstanding arrears, it would affect their credit report. This would affect their chances of securiing loans.

However this would not aftect those who are not afraid of being jailed.
 
Yup, free lunch in SG jail . Maybe got aircon too.. also, very full house. So.. u know la. Many don't mind. At least, my ex don't mind. .
 
Not really. If he doesn't pay, he can go jail.
My friend ex refuse to pay, the judge sentence him to jail for a few days, from then on, he doesn't dare to miss a payment.
 
Mummies out there whom maintenance being own by ex.

I am not here does this help, try nego something else in exchange to him need not to pay maintenance. But remember, u must not be the winner party..

I feel that it is better always to take leave , spent time to strategize, money in transport than to hear the judge saying, he can't pay as he don't work whatever stupid reason , what the use of him going to jail, (no pay for him) or working another installment plan for him while he file for bankruptcy...

If u feel advise not worthwhile, pls ignore this post.
 
Its ok for me. I wan to be indpenedant from him. Wan to make him responsible, even cant get money, jail him, see how stubborn n how many times he wan to go.
Take as he die already.
 
Not getting maintenance? Ex-spouses to get help earlier
Source
Straits Times
Date
15 Jul 2017
Author
Theresa Tan & Sue-Ann Tan

People who face problems getting their monthly maintenance from former spouses can get help earlier.

The Government is beefing up the Maintenance Record Officer (MRO) scheme to identify those in financial hardship from the first time they file an enforcement application to compel their former spouses to pay up. The necessary help will be provided earlier, instead of waiting until multiple applications have been filed.

These officers assist the courts by getting information about the individuals' financial circumstances.

They also help to identify those who refuse to pay - even though they have the means to do so - so that the courts can impose harsher penalties on these recalcitrant defaulters.

Mr Tan Chuan-Jin, Minister for Social and Family Development, announced these changes at the Family Justice Practice Forum yesterday.

He said: "For the parent who requires financial contributions from the other towards the child's upkeep, having to return to court to enforce a maintenance order can be tedious and frustrating. This is especially so when the other parent has the means to pay, but refuses to do so."

The Ministry of Social and Family Development (MSF) and the Family Justice Courts are also looking at including the MROs as part of the court process, but this requires legislative changes.

Currently, cases are referred to these officers only if both parties agree to it. They can also choose what information to declare.

But if the MROs are included as part of the court process, The Straits Times understands that those involved will have no choice but to furnish whatever financial information is asked of them.

The changes will be implemented by the fourth quarter of this year.

Lawyers and social workers interviewed applauded the changes. Lawyer Ivan Cheong said given the choice, recalcitrant defaulters would not agree to the MROs probing their financial situation. So giving people a choice defeats the purpose of the scheme.

Lawyer Lim Chong Boon said he hopes the changes will result in fewer defaults, as the men know they would be taken to task if the officers find out they can afford to pay but refuse to do so. "Some don't want to give their ex-wives money, especially if the divorce was contentious or the ex-wife had an affair."

The non-payment of maintenance continues to be a problem for families here. An average of 2,777 applications for enforcement orders were filed each year in the past three years. An application for enforcement can be filed when at least one payment is not made. About 72 per cent of these orders were filed by former wives. The rest of the applicants include former husbands, current spouses and children.

Those interviewed pointed out that the women and children struggle financially and emotionally when they fail to get maintenance. For example, for many of the women the Singapore Council of Women's Organisations (SCWO) assist, their income is insufficient to meet their needs and they depend on the maintenance money to survive.

Ms Wong Xun-Ai, programme executive at SCWO's Maintenance Support Central, said: "It also affects the children as some mothers will deny the father access to their children when he fails to pay maintenance. The children may be angry with their father over the situation and this strains their relationship."

The MRO scheme was started in the second half of last year. So far, the officers have handled only six cases. An MSF spokesman said there were few cases as, under the pilot scheme, both parties needed to give consent before an MRO steps in.

The six men, all former husbands, could not afford to pay due to financial difficulties and not because they refused to cough up the money.
 

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