Hi, im married with 2 kids, both at the age of 12 and 8 years old. and I have married this guys for 10 years.
Cause the kids, divorce and separation have been stopping us.
But lately this 2 years, I tired of the relationships. I have no more feeling towards my husband.
All I stay in for this families is for my 2 kids. we always quarrels and get back together again just for the sake for the kids.
And all along the 10 yrs. im the one who is supporting the kids, taking care of them, paying all the expenses on them. as and when, when my husband got money then I will ask from him. he does not have a stable jobs. knowing that he been trying hard wanting to earn a lot of money. but no doubt how hard he hard, there is no hope on him. But lucky, he did not ask any money from me.
I can say that, im the one who is supporting the family. working full time mother, full time work, and went home full time housework to do. my husband can just sit down and see me clear all the housework? wondering is there still such guys now?
we have always quarrels for little small issue. eg. if we agree to go out, somethings happen that cant go, he will be super angry. and if he choose what he wanna to eat and me and kids don't agree, his face will turn black immediately and show sort of tempers. when I cook at home, expect him to help washing the dishes once he have finish the foods. he will wait till midnite then wash up. when I told him, I wanna to use his car and drive out. his excuses will be later you will might have accident. I told him I need to upgrade myself, his reason for me is I cant take stress, and should stay home and take care of kids.
if I need to go out with friends, sometimes if he being gds he will help to take care of kids. if not he will push the responsible to his parents or my parents. and I have nvr control my hus from going out. im the one who send and fetch the kids myself. and sometimes if I ask him to help sending, he will find excuses that he need to work and is busy not free to do.
what should I do? im super lost. should I leave this guy? or continue on this sickening life.
and im a super super soft hearted person. if im gonna to tel him that this is coming to the end. I will see his sad face, and unbearable to see that. should I continue to act stupid and continue my life? or just told him this is an ending.
Cause the kids, divorce and separation have been stopping us.
But lately this 2 years, I tired of the relationships. I have no more feeling towards my husband.
All I stay in for this families is for my 2 kids. we always quarrels and get back together again just for the sake for the kids.
And all along the 10 yrs. im the one who is supporting the kids, taking care of them, paying all the expenses on them. as and when, when my husband got money then I will ask from him. he does not have a stable jobs. knowing that he been trying hard wanting to earn a lot of money. but no doubt how hard he hard, there is no hope on him. But lucky, he did not ask any money from me.
I can say that, im the one who is supporting the family. working full time mother, full time work, and went home full time housework to do. my husband can just sit down and see me clear all the housework? wondering is there still such guys now?
we have always quarrels for little small issue. eg. if we agree to go out, somethings happen that cant go, he will be super angry. and if he choose what he wanna to eat and me and kids don't agree, his face will turn black immediately and show sort of tempers. when I cook at home, expect him to help washing the dishes once he have finish the foods. he will wait till midnite then wash up. when I told him, I wanna to use his car and drive out. his excuses will be later you will might have accident. I told him I need to upgrade myself, his reason for me is I cant take stress, and should stay home and take care of kids.
if I need to go out with friends, sometimes if he being gds he will help to take care of kids. if not he will push the responsible to his parents or my parents. and I have nvr control my hus from going out. im the one who send and fetch the kids myself. and sometimes if I ask him to help sending, he will find excuses that he need to work and is busy not free to do.
what should I do? im super lost. should I leave this guy? or continue on this sickening life.
and im a super super soft hearted person. if im gonna to tel him that this is coming to the end. I will see his sad face, and unbearable to see that. should I continue to act stupid and continue my life? or just told him this is an ending.