Hi,
Think again, many mums working long hours and thought it's the best for the children , giving them luxury lifestyle. I personally don't agree but not saying should not work at all.
I had left my job just to spend time with kids but at the same time I knew I cannot be jobless. As such I took quite some time before I found a solution which is to work from home at my own flexible hours to earn a passive income. I am glad that I was bold enough to make that decision or I would be just a stay home mum, able to spend time with kids and don't add value to family. U too can make a difference too if u r willing.
I think you are over simplifying things. For some it's not even a matter of affording luxury life. Real fact: cost of living in Singapore is rising. Besides worrying about current lifestyle, there's life in the next 10-20 years to consider. We need to save up for the future. The income now is for a secured future.
You are lucky, you can find a job working from home. Not all of us are. For myself I work in a male dominated environment. It is unreal to expect that just because I have children I can cut back hours, work flexi. I've thought about it, I even went to my HR. My HR told me, this will set back my career, am I sure? Unfortunately in our 30s these are the best years of one's career. It's a tough choice. I'm not saying our children's formative years are not important. Unfortunately in life women can't have it all...
We just need to make tough choices as they are and stick to it. What the future holds, who knows?
We do our best and you know, One day our kids in their teens will say "I hate you, you don't understand me?!" Oh well, I know I did that too.
Maybe it's just me, but women who aren't financially independent have real risks. What if your husband trade you in for a "newer model"? At that point you can't even have your kids. I do have a loving husband now but the future, who knows? Maybe I'm just overly cynical.