Hi, I am an expecting mother and giving birth very soon.
I am in a not happy marriage life as I prevoiusly quarreled with my in law over the CNY visit arrangement. We fight, she hit me and I hit her. We also quarrel over the method to look after my first child. I totally can not agree with this woman because the way she treat me is very bad and unfair. By the way, she was a mistress of my husband father then force his father to divorce his first wife.
Since the fight, I did not go back to his parent house anymore. They were kind of asking my husband to divorce me. My mother in law ask my husband do not dote on me. She even said her daughter do not need to do house chore even in her in law house. But, I have to do, my in law said she do not care fair or not, she just want it to be unfair.
My husband was always on his parent side, he said I should apology to them and go back to visit them. While my friends told me if I go back they will even look down at me more.
As for my husband, before I got married to him, I already felt that he is very self center and always force me to follow what he like. He never care what is my favorite. For example, he will just order something I do not like to eat for me even after I told him I don't like. He will also watch movie of his favorite even I said to him I don't like the movie.
Before I married him, I told him I need sometime to think about the wedding, then he became very angry and said why wait and force me to marry him.
My parent is very traditional, they think we were already staying together in Singapore better get married, else I am in disadvantage. I kind of regret of listening to them. Now I even hate that why I followed their mindset.
I am in dilemma, my husband force me to meet his parent again after I give birth this time. I told him, I could get divorce with him if he want me to apology to the his parent. I am worry if divorce will affect my children emotionally and their development. But, I am sure I will quarrel with them again if we meet.
I don't see the point of maintaining such a marriage, I definitely have prenatal depression now, he did not show his care and he even quarrel with me during my pregnancy.
Anyone has similar experience like me. I just want to know I am not alone.
I am in a not happy marriage life as I prevoiusly quarreled with my in law over the CNY visit arrangement. We fight, she hit me and I hit her. We also quarrel over the method to look after my first child. I totally can not agree with this woman because the way she treat me is very bad and unfair. By the way, she was a mistress of my husband father then force his father to divorce his first wife.
Since the fight, I did not go back to his parent house anymore. They were kind of asking my husband to divorce me. My mother in law ask my husband do not dote on me. She even said her daughter do not need to do house chore even in her in law house. But, I have to do, my in law said she do not care fair or not, she just want it to be unfair.
My husband was always on his parent side, he said I should apology to them and go back to visit them. While my friends told me if I go back they will even look down at me more.
As for my husband, before I got married to him, I already felt that he is very self center and always force me to follow what he like. He never care what is my favorite. For example, he will just order something I do not like to eat for me even after I told him I don't like. He will also watch movie of his favorite even I said to him I don't like the movie.
Before I married him, I told him I need sometime to think about the wedding, then he became very angry and said why wait and force me to marry him.
My parent is very traditional, they think we were already staying together in Singapore better get married, else I am in disadvantage. I kind of regret of listening to them. Now I even hate that why I followed their mindset.
I am in dilemma, my husband force me to meet his parent again after I give birth this time. I told him, I could get divorce with him if he want me to apology to the his parent. I am worry if divorce will affect my children emotionally and their development. But, I am sure I will quarrel with them again if we meet.
I don't see the point of maintaining such a marriage, I definitely have prenatal depression now, he did not show his care and he even quarrel with me during my pregnancy.
Anyone has similar experience like me. I just want to know I am not alone.